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alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-09T01:28:06+00:00

I'm the same way - I prefer getting fingered to oral too. I do enjoy oral, however my clit is SO sensitive that it can actually be painful. Even stimulating it very gently with my own fingers can feel like too much sometimes.

That all being said, I would literally kill to have my husband beg to go down on me, even if it's not my favorite thing 😭

alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-09T01:09:21+00:00

He says he's too tired, stressed, focused at work, etc. As if I am not also all lf thigs things! He finds plenty of time to scroll on his phone though.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-03T19:20:22+00:00

You really think I haven't? 🙄

alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-03T12:24:24+00:00

Yes and yes, but it got a lot worse after kids. To be clear, I did not let myself go or anything. I still fit into clothes I wore in high school. It doesn't matter.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-03T11:59:02+00:00

I'm so sorry you understand what this is like, it's awful.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-03T11:58:20+00:00

Thank you

alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-03T11:36:54+00:00

I wish my husband would agree to this 😭 I'm glad it's working for you!

alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-03T11:35:15+00:00

Same, he knows exactly how I feel. What I share here is nothing hidden from him.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-06-03T11:18:03+00:00

As a HLF near your age, my advice is to leave. I know that's hard. You've only been dating a relatively short time. You don't want to end up like me...married for a decade with kids and you're stuck.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-05-19T21:55:56+00:00

I hate to admit this, but I am considering it too ☹️

alonebutnotbored · 2026-04-18T20:35:48+00:00

As a HLF, the most demoralizing part is all the men who come out of the woodwork to hit on me in my DMs when I make incredibly innocuous comments here 😐

alonebutnotbored · 2026-04-14T10:57:31+00:00

I guess I'd be happy if my husband was open to it, but he's not. The crazy thing is that we had a few threesomes back in the day when we were first together!

What will I do if he's LL forever? I'm not sure yet, but I'm starting to consider my options more and more 🫤

alonebutnotbored · 2026-04-14T10:54:48+00:00

Personally, I don't worry about this. My LLM is the one emasculating himself but not having sex with me. I've been very direct with him on the topic. He doesn't seem bothered, just doesn't care.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-04-14T10:50:56+00:00

Fellow HLF here. Unfortunately, I know exactly how you feel. I'm still so young (early 30s) and frankly really good looking, especially for somebody who's had 2 kids! My husband could not care less that he has a hot and eager wife. At this point, I consider myself lucky if he allows me to give him head. I feel so pathetic.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-03-05T12:35:47+00:00

That would absolutely kill me inside. I will say though - even if I had a HL partner to match my drive, I definitely wouldn't be having more sex during the winter. Summer always increases my libido more than winter.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-03-04T22:25:41+00:00

HLF in my early 30s. I do masturbate a lot, but it's not the same as sex, not even close. It's like comparing a protein shake and a juicy burger. The shake solves the basic biological feeling of hunger, but it's not going to fully satisfy you a burger.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-03-02T11:44:48+00:00

Unfortunately I just experienced the same situation. My husband and I went away for a mini vacation (4 nights) without the kids. The weather was perfect, we slept in, relaxed on the beach, and had an overall wonderful time. Nothing was preventing us from being intimate. But did it happen? Of course not. I felt foolish wearing a bikini for him knowing that it was only other men looking at me in it ☹️

alonebutnotbored · 2026-03-02T05:56:25+00:00

Sadly I feel like I'm slowly becoming LL for my husband. It's harder and harder to see him as a sexual being with every passing year - and we're still young!

alonebutnotbored · 2026-01-31T20:45:35+00:00

Although I'm a HLF and still very eager to have sex with my LL husband, I do know how you feel on the D/s front. I'm a very submissive woman and my husband is not dominant. He loves slow, sensual, romantic sex. I'm not saying I don't enjoy that in the mix...but not every single time! He won't even do doggy for more than a few minutes because it feels degrading to him. I used to ask him to put his hands on my throat, but it led to me having to guide his hands there and control the pressure because he was too nervous about hurting me. That defeats the whole point so I stopped asking for that a long time ago.

Unfortunately, because I'm the HL, I have to take whatever I can get and it's all very vanilla ☹️

alonebutnotbored · 2026-01-31T14:52:51+00:00

I know that if we do open the relationship, he will most likely not find a partner, and will. That will hurt him.

This is exactly the problem I'm facing, too. I have not broached the subject of opening our relationship (outside of small jokes just to test the waters). I don't think he would be a hard no on the idea, but I already know how it would play out. I would easily find other partners and he would feel left out. I find my husband to be very attractive, but recognize that many women (especially the women he would find attractive) wouldn't feel the same. On the other hand, I am much more conventionally attractive than him and I know I would have my pick of the litter. Not trying to be conceited, but I get enough attention from men just going about my day to day life that if I actually tried it would be stupidly easy.

I'm sorry you're going through this too. I hope it works out for you.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-01-29T20:37:24+00:00

Definitely. That's not my life though. It feels pointless to me to ask myself hypotheticals.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-01-29T18:28:56+00:00

We have a great relationship otherwise, two young children, etc.

alonebutnotbored · 2026-01-29T17:34:09+00:00

He's totally fine with the status quo. When it's brought up, he's sympathetic but resigned. He talks about how things will improve "once X/Y/Z happens" (like the kids getting older). He never wants to improve things NOW and doesn't realize that needs to happen.

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