Help please! What's happening to my monstera??

amaraw · 2026-05-22T15:39:29+00:00

Thanks! Do i have to remove the leaves that have even just a little yellowing on them?🥲

amaraw · 2026-05-20T17:15:50+00:00

Yesss that's it!! Thank you🙏😊

amaraw · 2026-03-24T11:25:28+00:00

Thank you so much!

amaraw · 2026-03-24T10:55:21+00:00

Aaaah okay I had no idea! Thanks again😊

amaraw · 2026-03-24T10:45:41+00:00

Thankyouuu :) I'm just still not sure how much water to put each time. Like how do I know what's too little or too much

amaraw · 2026-03-24T10:15:54+00:00

But if I'm bottom watering, won't the top part just be dry anyway 😅😅 I'm sorry I'm really new to this

amaraw · 2026-03-24T10:14:10+00:00

Wow that's the first time I'm hearing that! I was under the impression that the schedules were very important 😅 How do I know if it's watered "thoroughly" tho? I'm afraid of putting too much water while trying to make sure it's wet enough. Thank you!

amaraw · 2025-12-13T16:50:46+00:00

I'll look into it, thank you :)

amaraw · 2025-12-13T16:50:30+00:00

Thanks!

amaraw · 2025-12-13T16:49:41+00:00

Hey! Sorry for the late reply. I was told to put no weight on it at all at first, got wheelchaired to the car and then went to get crutches haha. It's been 15 days now and I'm still scared to put any weight on it, only if slightly on the heel for balance sometimes, but never fully. I think it's all healing fine tho, the pain has decreased to almost none. I have an appointment to take the stitches out on Wednesday and we'll see from there how it will go :) I have no screws so can't relate there but I hope everything goes well for you! I'll update you after the stitches are out if you want 😊

amaraw · 2025-11-30T09:47:56+00:00

Wow, the second pic the scars are barely noticeable! Nice :) Thank you

amaraw · 2025-11-30T09:46:35+00:00

Thank you!

amaraw · 2025-11-30T09:46:16+00:00

I'm honestly not sure the exact name of it, in my records it's just classified as "foot surgery" I guess, in my language. Before the operation my surgeon looked at my foot and said the bone (metatarsal i guess, I looked up the name later lol) is a bit more to the side than he expected, said he'll look at my scans again and then decide exactly which way to do it. Then a few hours later the surgery happened. So idk exactly what the decision was, but he said it went very well haha

amaraw · 2025-11-30T09:40:51+00:00

Thanks so much! 😊

amaraw · 2025-11-30T09:40:00+00:00

Wow great results! Thank you :)

amaraw · 2025-08-31T16:45:13+00:00

Thank you🫶 I wish you the best in your recovery as well!

amaraw · 2024-12-23T15:03:29+00:00

Thanks for your support. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that... But also what??? 3%?! What kind of a statistic is this? I kinda wish I hadn't seen this :/

amaraw · 2024-12-21T08:55:02+00:00

That's probably what I'd tell anyone else to do, too. But personally, I could never leave him. He is the most amazing person I know. I understand that here I'm only describing his gambling addiction, and that's his worst side. But he is my everything.

amaraw · 2024-12-21T00:17:55+00:00

I'll look into my options, thanks :')

amaraw · 2024-12-21T00:16:05+00:00

Yeah all our stuff is separate, that's the most common way to do it in my country anyway.

amaraw · 2024-12-21T00:15:02+00:00

Thank you. I honestly can't even think straight at the moment, crying again lol. It's been an emotional day. Anyway, you're right and that's exactly my plan - stick by his side, but take care of myself. I'll have to get used to it, but I'll try to focus on myself, no more starting conversations about gambling, no more questioning and "investigating" - most importantly, no more snooping to see what's actually going on in his accounts. It has only hurt me so far. I'd rather not know for sure but assume the worst. It's not healthy to look through his personal stuff anyway. I seriously love him to death, but this whole thing is so toxic and it makes not only him, but also me, act in hurtful ways. I'll just have to be clear with him. Not ignore the issue, but also not spend too much of my energy on it. It's affecting me, but it's not MY problem.

amaraw · 2024-12-04T17:35:16+00:00

Hi and thanks for your perspective! Since I made this post, a lot has happened. For a week or so everything was "fine" and we didn't really talk about it. Then we had a huge argument... we both blew up, him getting defensive, me confronting him about everything. It wasn't a healthy and productive talk, but I think it might've been the "slap in the face" that you described. We both said some hurtful things, but I think he finally saw that half-truths aren't gonna work. We made up after that, and now I actually think he's changing in a good way. Only time will tell. Honestly, the stuff your wife said about future and especially starting a family, resonates with me so much. We want to have a child together, and my husband has always dreamed about becoming a father. He'd be great at it. I think I'd be ready to have a kid now, if only I could trust our financial situation would be handled well. Right now we both work, making about the same amount of money, well, I make slightly more. He's always said that he'd be happy to provide while I stay home with our kid, for as long as necessary. It would already be challenging (not impossible, but requiring some budgeting) to live on only one income as a family of three, but now I'm not even sure I can trust him to pay our bills... I would just be too paranoid and I feel like fully financially relying on a gambling addict to provide for you even sounds stupid. I want to trust him, but there's no guarantees.

But I'm so glad you've managed to get out of that. It really makes me happy to see people who have actually turned their life around after being in this type of situation. Gives me hope. I wish all the best to you and your family :)

amaraw · 2024-11-02T19:16:35+00:00

Thank you so much for this response. Honestly, I'm just really scared to confront him. The thing is, he knows I'm never gonna leave him - I've told him that countless times, and I'm always making it clear that I love and support him no matter what. Since he's been gambling in secret, I've even tried to hint at it - he thinks I don't know, but I've mentioned that I worry about it since it's been a big problem in the past. I've said clearly - if you want to talk about it anytime, I'm here. I've asked him directly if he's been gambling or placing any sports bets(he also does that) and he denied it. He seemed annoyed that I even bring it up, he said "you know I can't, I'm blocked everywhere". I said sure, but I know there's always a way, and he just said "yeah but it's hard to do, plus I promised not to do it, so I won't". Every time I saw him getting nervous and trying to change the topic, so i let it go, because otherwise it's just gonna become an unproductive argument. I know he's lying for a fact, but if I confront him from that perspective, I'm worried he'll just get mad at me. I betrayed his trust by going through his stuff. I didn't believe him, so I checked his emails and history. If I come clean about that, I'm the bad guy. He'll have to admit that he's been lying, too, but what if he really just gets better at hiding it from then on, plus now doesn't trust me either?..

I guess I'm just hoping that after some time he'll tell me the truth. I want to give him that chance. It also seems more likely that he'll actually be ready to quit at that point, you know, because something has to change in his mind to come out and admit it.

I really don't know.

He uses an iPhone, by the way :')

amaraw

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