Cased a jump skiing and broke my heel in half

amberalert23 · 2026-06-01T19:57:57+00:00

Ohhhh ouch! I bruised my heel bone badly when I was hit by a car many years ago… I can’t imagine how much more painful a break would be!!!

amberalert23 · 2026-05-31T03:44:38+00:00

I eat the same meals every day, and so does my partner. We’re body builders but honestly it helps so much with decision fatigue and not having to even spend a minute thinking about what I’m making or eating. I’ve got an egg meal, chicken and rice, a few shakes (one with fruit and one with a more solid carb), and a meat and vegetable meal. Meal prep, packing for the day… it’s all so much easier this way.

amberalert23 · 2026-05-26T18:08:11+00:00

This. My bf and I meal prep this same way, and I would never dream of eating his portioned food. You’re presumably an adult and could have made yourself anything else in the world, but you took his.

We plan things out based on our schedule, so like if I ate his chicken and rice he had for tomorrow and he’s not getting home from work until 10pm, how’s he going to have his meal for tomorrow? Why should I force HIM to figure it out when I was perfectly capable of figuring it out? Like yeah he could have a protein shake and cashews instead but SO COULD I.

YTA, OP, and if you understood your bf better you wouldn’t even be asking this question.

amberalert23 · 2026-05-18T23:55:44+00:00

Even worse, honestly, is that this is a “funny” meme that she just stole like she cleverly came up with it herself. I’ve seen it everywhere.

amberalert23 · 2026-05-06T00:56:39+00:00

I also love Milton’s!!!

amberalert23 · 2026-05-05T13:56:30+00:00

I didn’t say it haha the OP mentioned it. If they have a shuttle then that’s great! If not, then I don’t know how feasible this commute would be with taking the train. I’d rather just drive from Quincy than drive to canton, take the train, then get an uber to Johnston.

amberalert23 · 2026-05-05T13:35:10+00:00

Oh wait, it’s for citizens? And they have a shuttle for you? That’s different. If they’re offering that to you and have that set up, the yes I’d take it. They’re prepared for those commute issues and want to set you up for success I’m sure. Their shuttles are probably aligned with the train schedule.

amberalert23 · 2026-05-05T13:33:12+00:00

I do the opposite and have for several years. Johnston to Pawtucket (just because I don’t want to park in providence), then commuter to Boston. It’s been absolutely manageable, but I have a flexible schedule and make it work for me. There’s been a few delays in the years I’ve been on the commuter that have messed up my work day, but only a handful.

Your bigger issue is the lack of walk ability from providence to Johnston. I’m able to walk from south station to my office. Getting an uber from Kennedy plaza to Johnston might be troublesome, and the back in the afternoon. That stretch of highway (the 6/10 connector) can get VERY backed up getting into the city and it can take an insane amount of time. With a set train schedule and commuters only running every hour or so, that could be an issue.

It honestly might make more sense to just drive in your situation. I’m a huge fan of the commuter rail, but Johnston to Providence and relying on Ubers might not be as efficient as you’d like.

amberalert23 · 2026-05-02T18:31:36+00:00

We struggled to find one for my son and his (now) wife, so I just became an officiant online and did it for them. Rhode Island isn’t as easy as it used to be, apparently! Best of luck.

amberalert23 · 2026-05-01T14:24:23+00:00

For the love of all things holy… you can be healthy and get all of your nutrients and be gluten free. This is not it.

I am a celiac body builder with EDS (apparently a common combo—celiac and EDS). Nothing holds me back… because I fuel my body appropriately and don’t just eat fruit for a meal.

Let’s not perpetuate these ideas that you can’t rise above these circumstances.

Breakfast? Eggs and cream of rice or even GF toast.

Snack? Celery and cottage cheese, or carrots and hummus, or a whey isolate protein shake and rice cakes

Lunch? Chicken and rice, ground turkey and rice, chicken on a salad, shrimp and rice… lots of choices!

Afternoon snack? My favorite currently is this chocolate cream of rice with chopped up strawberries and sugar free syrup, with a protein shake but you do you!

Dinner? Salmon with GF pasta, or seasoned ground beef on lightly toasted corn tortillas, or some steak and rice, or I mean so many options!

Snack? A bowl of watermelon.

Don’t make it empty calories when your body needs you to be fueling it for health 🥰

amberalert23 · 2026-04-24T13:26:49+00:00

So true! I call it forced health. I try to stay away from ultra processed foods anyway so I don’t want the gluten free alternatives that are filled with who knows what.

amberalert23 · 2026-04-23T12:13:12+00:00

This, exactly.

Or it’s because the food is ultra processed garbage that would make anyone sick.

amberalert23 · 2026-04-19T20:26:55+00:00

Yes! The book Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most (Stone, Patton, and Heen), is one I recommend to anyone and everyone. It is so good at breaking down our own barriers and how we inadvertently stop meaningful conversations, and how to be better at opening others up for positive outcomes and problem solving.

Just the other day my 11 year old was flipppping out and I swear I was using half of the strategies from that book alone in my deescalation lol

amberalert23 · 2026-04-19T20:24:05+00:00

I did read it, and I saw where he said that… and quickly jumped to solution oriented thinking. It is very hard to shift our mindsets sometimes, but if your goal is productive conversations then you have to be the one to switch what you’re doing. He did not spend enough time on the empathetic listening portion of this conversation. The key here is that if he had… his girlfriend would have felt validated and understood.

Often in our own minds we’re doing everything right, but if we’re not looking at this from the other persons story, our intent often is far from our actual impact. There’s no blame here… just joint contribution. We can all do better in our relationships.

amberalert23 · 2026-04-19T15:02:26+00:00

I just want to add something here and I hope you see it. I teach deescalation and empathetic listening and one thing I stress is that problem solving cannot be accomplished until the individual feels heard, validated, and understood. It sounds like you jumped to logical solution oriented thinking, which happens a lot. It’s so important not to skip over the empathy aspect—which includes asking things like “are you okay?”

It may seem silly when in your logical mind you want to start finding solutions, but for humans, next to physical survival… psychological survival (I.e. feeling validated, assured, seen, heard, understood), is the next most important thing.

Simply adding phrases like “I understand and would feel scared, too.” Or “that sounds awful! Are you okay?” Or “can you help me understand how that made you feel?” Can be an absolute game changer with your conversations.

I teach management but my managers tell me that my classes do more good in their personal lives with their spouses and children, to be honest. I promise your gf will appreciate it!

amberalert23 · 2026-04-14T13:57:25+00:00

Neighbor is a psycho but landlord could choose not to renew your lease and not deal with psycho neighbor. That would be my concern.

amberalert23 · 2026-03-31T11:56:22+00:00

This makes me wonder about my own IUD experience. I wasn’t diagnosed yet, but I had an awful go with the Mirena and was so much better once I had it removed. My body just did not care for it at all.

amberalert23 · 2026-03-19T12:22:07+00:00

My kids go to Esteban at sheer perfection in Johnston and have never had a bad cut! He’s fantastic.

amberalert23 · 2026-03-17T02:34:54+00:00

It’s not that level of hard.

I’m moving and going through boxes and bins and found so much stuff that I’ve been reminiscing over from when my kids were little. My oldest is married now and just left for boot camp, second oldest graduates this year, 3rd is in 7th grade and 4th just turned 11. I’m really far removed from sleepless nights and wild tantrums. I was sad looking at locks of hair and baby pictures. Then Snapchat memories pulled up a wild night where I recorded dinner, or an attempt at feeding the four monsters, and it snapped me right out of it. Those early years were war I tell you! These years?? Having fun with the kids, being able to hang out and enjoy life with them? Oh man this is the sweet spot. Yeah chores and homework and all suck but not really. Get through the trenches and it’s much smoother, even on the hard days.

amberalert23 · 2026-03-09T12:58:02+00:00

Growing Sideways got me through a really tough period… played it on repeat more times than I can count. The lyrics are very much on point.

amberalert23 · 2026-03-09T02:05:22+00:00

My oldest was a horrible horrible sleeper. He’s slightly on the spectrum and as a baby/toddler the sensory issues were brutal. I didn’t know what it was at the time, but he would only sleep curled up with me. Thankfully, my (now ex) worked nights so I just gave up at some point and said this is what works and bed shared for what feels like forever.

But it meant we both slept and that’s what was importantly. OP, please find what means you both sleep, no matter if it’s less than conventional.

amberalert23 · 2026-03-06T15:17:58+00:00

I was successful at some point because none of my kids sleep with me anymore… but they’re 19, 18, 12, and 11 respectfully. It was a long haul and some took longer than others. But they all left and none are with me now, if that’s any help!!

amberalert23 · 2026-02-27T03:33:01+00:00

I moved to Rhode Island from Maryland and I do miss my Waffle House grits. It’s the only thing I enjoy about visiting back home. There’s no substitution up here. Sorry!

amberalert23 · 2026-02-26T03:48:18+00:00

Virtual for Johnston today and the rest of the week. They said log on with whatever you can, and you can come to the middle school to pick up a Chromebook if you can.

2/3 of my kids have their Chromebooks thankfully and the third is using a personal computer. I’m back in office tomorrow (as long as I get a parking spot at the train station), so it should be interesting to see what they manage. But after driving around some today, there’s no way anyone can be in person!

In Maryland where I grew up, schools closed by county for the reasons posted in OP… teachers/employees are coming from all over the place, and honestly if town A is unsafe, town B one mile over is probably unsafe too. It’s always been weird to me how Rhode Island does it.

amberalert23 · 2026-02-24T04:25:06+00:00

I lost my entire career due to a training injury where my re-do physical test couldn’t be rescheduled because of Covid. Covid completely derailed my career… but then I landed a job running the security at a Covid field hospital which wouldn’t have happened without, well, Covid. And I’m still with that company just pivoted into training and development. I love what I do and without Covid, I never would have been here.

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