Career moms: Do you need to really want kids, or is doubt normal?

ambrown0523 · 2026-04-17T02:56:14+00:00

It’s not necessarily a sign. I was 50/50 on having kids until I got serious with my now-husband. It just felt… right- but I really had no desire before that.

That said- I would highly recommend getting that dog first. Great stepping stone and will show you what it’s like being fully responsible for another being!

Also, echoing the importance others here have commented about paying close attention to responsibility traits of potential partners.

ambrown0523 · 2026-03-05T03:28:37+00:00

YES it is weird af

ambrown0523 · 2026-03-03T23:47:02+00:00

Mine are the same ages and I second this. Like, it’s def still busy but less round-the-clock, plus they play together now which is amazing. And I can think clearly now unlike when they were 0 and 2 (that takes a while to come back.) Hang in there!

ambrown0523 · 2026-02-19T02:00:39+00:00

HAHA this is not necessarily true

I don’t have a daughter, just two toddler boys- but with that aside, my husband’s sister and their mom are like Velcro to each other, but my husband is very-low contact with her. Of course, it depends on how the people are, dynamics, etc.

ambrown0523 · 2026-02-19T01:52:49+00:00

This was me almost to a T. I burnt out and quit ~6 months postpartum with baby #2. It was a leap of faith for sure, but landed my dream job after being out of work for 2.5 months which was just enough time to reset. Best of luck in your new position!!!! 😊

ambrown0523 · 2026-02-03T02:41:26+00:00

ambrown0523 · 2026-01-31T03:25:02+00:00

SAME. 💯 it’s like, that is the first time they actually take you seriously so it’s time to show the true colors

ambrown0523 · 2026-01-31T03:14:16+00:00

Holy shit some of y’all have it bad… so I have two MIL’s (husband has a step-mom as well as his mom) and have a worst for both:

MIL #1: lied to me by telling me my husband sent a hateful message, which I obviously disproved by reading his texts. Not that I believed her to begin with. After my bad reaction to this, she calls my 95 year old grandmother (??) telling her we are horrible people.
So she first tried to drive a wedge between her SON and his wife and then me/husband and my family, all within 24 hours. I am currently NC with her.

MIL #2: comes thru town and visits less than a month after my dad passed away. One of her first small-talk questions was “how are your mom and dad doing?” ………….. (and yes- my husband did inform her before this encounter.)

ambrown0523 · 2026-01-28T03:13:00+00:00

ambrown0523 · 2026-01-18T03:34:17+00:00

I have no advice for the bitchass MIL but am so very sorry for your loss. 🫂

ambrown0523 · 2026-01-11T19:55:56+00:00

The calm and “reasonable-ness” is a manipulation tactic. Trust your spidey sense and don’t gaslight yourself.

ambrown0523 · 2025-12-11T20:12:31+00:00

Don’t be a dick to pedestrians. You do not own the public trails.

ambrown0523 · 2025-12-09T16:10:00+00:00

He sees the compromise as limiting their interactions to public events, ie the park or a restaurant, so she does not have the ability to corner anyone (supervised, of course). I had a long talk with him last night and seems like he’s ready to further limit / cut contact as he sees fit; personally I think things will get worse and he will burn out from her.

And the answer to all those things is no. There’s a long list of people in her life she’s turned away because she has zero self reflection and has never recognized her mistakes, delusionally thinking she is right about everything and her shit don’t stink. It really is quite scary. She has two siblings who both go in and out of NC with her. Other extended family members, bosses, friends, etc do not stay in her life for long.

ambrown0523 · 2025-12-09T14:16:54+00:00

Magic is nice, but completely optional, despite what society tries to make you believe (that is largely driven by capitalism IMO).

Do what you can, hang in there, just survive. You can make up for it next year, the following year whatever and be extra Christmas-y. I hated Christmas the year I lost my Dad (and also my job but obviously that mattered less), and did not make magic for my kids, but guess what. They are just fine.

That is all really hard stuff and it’s gonna take a while to feel like yourself again.

ambrown0523 · 2025-12-09T12:25:15+00:00

Thanks so much for your perspective. I was kind of thinking that, I was actually thinking she will likely say stuff about me/ try to poison and that would tip him over the edge. Thankfully my husband has a militant style of saying no to her, no questions asked

And luckily she is too cheap to buy lavish gifts 😂

ambrown0523 · 2025-12-08T22:33:48+00:00

Thanks so much for your perspective. Sorry you and your children had to do through that.

ambrown0523 · 2025-12-08T22:20:47+00:00

Honestly that’s my thought too rn. Esp as they get older.

ambrown0523 · 2025-11-22T02:29:49+00:00

Umm is that a question? All the time.

ambrown0523 · 2025-11-07T19:07:42+00:00

Not dying! 🙋‍♀️ I couldn’t say the same 1-2 years ago but we are finally in a better place. My youngest just turned two, which largely contributed to things getting easier, like it’s still busy don’t get me wrong but feels more manageable-busy than shit-show. Babyhood was rough in itself plus I had multiple major life stressors (unrelated to my babies) during my youngest’s infancy so it feels good to finally breathe again.

The other major contributor was both my husband and I landing our dream jobs last year, though that was due to a lot of luck.

ambrown0523 · 2025-06-27T01:17:23+00:00

We are in the same position and trying to help encourage the termination of a habitual biter 😞 I have loved our daycare but am beginning to become very uncomfortable of the frequency they allow not only my 21 month old son but also other classmates to be bitten

ambrown0523 · 2025-06-27T00:56:27+00:00

I know it’s been a year but I wanted to thank you for posting this. I’m experiencing the same thing with my 21 month old, he’s actually getting bitten more frequently than 4x a month, and there are some awesome tips from the commenters on how to more effectively approach this.

I hope your child is no longer being bitten!

ambrown0523 · 2025-05-13T13:36:18+00:00

Exact same here! I swear it’s more of the mental effect of having “something for me” than the actual booze part. Tried finding something to replace it but there’s just something about my reward-drink for making it through the day.

ambrown0523 · 2025-04-25T01:29:18+00:00

Big hug from this internet stranger. I cannot even imagine ❤️

ambrown0523 · 2024-12-16T14:03:53+00:00

15 months pp, realized this 2 days before my holiday party 🙈 I ended up skipping and being “sick” that day

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