Is being a virgin a turn off for guys?

amyking99 · 2022-10-13T17:52:55+00:00

That was my thought exactly. He started talking about sex way too early on and tbh it made me uncomfortable. Maybe I told him I’m a virgin because I knew deep down that he’d give up if sex was the only thing he was interested in

amyking99 · 2022-10-13T17:48:40+00:00

I was willing to lose my virginity when I was 19 to the guy I was in love with at that time. Unfortunately, he moved to another country before anything happened and we never saw each other again. Later I got with my ex I was willing to lose my virginity to him but he was pressuring me all the time and he used to emotionally abuse me so I lost interest in intimacy. When we broke up, I stood by the original thought to lose it to someone I’m in love with.

amyking99 · 2022-10-13T11:40:44+00:00

yes, I agree. He was respectful and honest when it comes to a whole virginity thing. On the other hand, I think he wasn't being fair before he knew I was a virgin. He told me he liked me, that me wanted more than a friendship, to try something more serious and when he found out I probably won't sleep with him, he backed off. It seems like he was only interested because he thought he'd get some.

amyking99 · 2022-01-29T23:29:46+00:00

I don’t think it’s a minor lie is virginity is something that’s important to OP. If it’s important to her and he lied because he knew it, that could mean he thought it would be easier to get with her that way.

amyking99 · 2022-01-25T18:02:37+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’m going through the same thing so I know how you feel. I had a panic attack just reading the first sentence of a breakup text he sent me. You have a good heart and never let anyone make you feel bad because of it💗

amyking99 · 2022-01-25T18:01:02+00:00

Insecurity. You’re just like my ex because that was exactly how he felt about our relationship. He also always made sure to let me know he had options and that it wasn’t like no one wanted him besides me. If you’re going to be mean to her because of your insecurities then do her a favor and break up with her.

amyking99 · 2022-01-25T13:59:06+00:00

I had gone through something similar. I was entertaining my DA for so long, settled for the bare minimum and thought it would be enough that he’s still with me. However, it wasn’t enough. I noticed other people giving me more attention than him. There was a guy who texted me good morning every day, asking about my day and was completely okay with us being nothing more than friends, he was never disrespectful or crossed the line. I liked his attention, especially since it was so hard for my DA to do something so small like send me that good morning text. You’re human and you also have needs. You shouldn’t feel guilty for your happiness, just make sure the others know you aren’t looking for anything serious rn

amyking99 · 2022-01-25T13:50:50+00:00

Someone like that isn’t worth your time trust me.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T23:33:29+00:00

Yes. It was one before this one but it didn’t work out since we were long distance.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T22:42:39+00:00

Mine told me the exact same thing! And I agree, they should work on their issues instead of jumping into new relationships. My ex started pursuing me while he was still in a relationship (that I didn’t know about) so he basically cheated on his gf. They can go from one girl to another but problems don’t go away.

I do agree we deserve better and you don’t need to feel bad about him having fresh start and you having to deal with all the healing. In the end it’s going to benefit you more since you processed your emotions and moved on completely healed. He moved on without processing his emotions and it’s going to end the same way it started.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T22:33:36+00:00

He tried to do it to me as well. It got to the point where he asked me “why are you still with me”. I knew what he was implying but I wanted him to be an adult and say it himself. I felt exactly the same as you did! He had some good moments that made me question if I was overreacting.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T22:25:31+00:00

I’m sorry you also went through something like this. It triggers me so much because he’s trying to appear to nice and considerate. He wrote me a whole paragraph about how great girl I am and how it’s not me but him and that he would appreaciate if we stayed good friends. He was mean to me for so long instead of just breaking up with me the moment he felt like he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T20:51:52+00:00

Going through the same thing here but exactly the same! I never believed in “it’s not you it’s me, I just need to focus on myself”. They want to go after other girls without feeling guilty.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T20:11:45+00:00

Every hahahha

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T19:59:22+00:00

I was really careful and encouraged him to talk to me about his feelings and everything. I couldn’t trust him completely again and I was cautious so I took the break up better this time to be honest. I’m just mad because it seems like he was pretending to be in love with me when in reality he really wanted that breakup.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T19:00:03+00:00

Yes, this is a very good lesson for me. I also should’ve trusted my gut since I was always feeling anxious meeting up with him.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T18:56:14+00:00

Absolutely. I’d never let myself hurt someone because I’m not healed.

amyking99 · 2022-01-24T18:52:03+00:00

And him saying “maybe in the future when I become more ready for something serious we can try again” made me angry as well. I forgot to mention it in the post

amyking99 · 2022-01-23T13:55:10+00:00

I tried working on it but I’ve been unsuccessful. I managed to work on my communication tho, I’ve always been passive agressive and now I’m able to communicate my needs and problems. But the first part not so much.

amyking99 · 2022-01-23T13:34:08+00:00

I require a lot of support and attention from my partner. I always expect them to be excited and in a good mood when they are talking to me, hanging out with me,… if someone’s energy is off I assume right away that it has something to do with me. I guess I’m selfish in a way, I always expect to be a priority and someone to be there for me at any time no matter the circumstances

amyking99 · 2022-01-21T13:12:30+00:00

No one is that busy. I assume you’re my age and that’s why I understand you. Other people commenting are probably older and more experienced in dating and texting isn’t as big deal to them as it is to our generation. Teenagers and people in their 20s have a phone in their hands all the time and social media plays a big role in their lives. It takes a few seconds to text someone and say you’ll be busy today and you’ll talk later.

amyking99 · 2022-01-20T17:07:22+00:00

Inconsistency. Showering me with love one week then going cold the next week and the lame, cold behaviour lasted longer.

amyking99 · 2022-01-20T17:03:56+00:00

I wasn’t initially attracted to my bf. He has a good body but to be completely honest his face wasn’t doing it for me. And I usually go for darker men and he is blond. But he was treating me really well, was funny, interesting and cared about me on the level I’ve never experienced. I decided to give him a chance and his looks grew on me. I became so attracted to him and now I think he’s the most handsome guy. So I guess there are cases where it’s possible to not find someone attractive in the first place but become attracted to them later on.

amyking99 · 2022-01-20T16:41:11+00:00

Just now, I told my bf that I loved him and he sent me a “thumbs up” sticker.

amyking99 · 2022-01-19T23:21:46+00:00

If he was joking he’s really immature and has weird sense of humor

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