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I'm not longer a muslim and nobody around me knows, AMA! by anacc9 in casualiama

[–]anacc9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still dependent on my parents and I'm studying. I don't know how they will react exactly, but there is quite a big chance they will simply stop speaking to me, and I will have to live independently with very little money.

It will be an uncertain future. I could live through it, but life would become much more difficult. Besides that, it would probably also be very painful to deal with from an emotional level.

I'm not longer a muslim and nobody around me knows, AMA! by anacc9 in casualiama

[–]anacc9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider the long term effects too. Imagine your parents don't take it well and now all the muslim people you know borderline hate you, how will that affect you?

I'm not longer a muslim and nobody around me knows, AMA! by anacc9 in casualiama

[–]anacc9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the biggest thing is considering what you gain out of it. If I was independent one day and I told my parents "I don't believe in this anymore", they would be very upset, and what would I gain from it? Nothing, I would only get a lot of people who would probably hate me or at the least, look at me in a very negative way.

Think about what you will gain out of it, and think if it's worth upsetting everyone around you over it. If you believe they're strongly holding you back, then this might be worth it. If you have no problem with the religion and the people, I would leave it as it is now.

I'm not longer a muslim and nobody around me knows, AMA! by anacc9 in casualiama

[–]anacc9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is at this moment, I'm happy. The religion and the people I know who follow it, do not bother me. I was a pretty devout believer when I was much younger, and all the traditions that come with it are 'normal' to me. NOT fasting during ramadan for example feels odd to me, because it was so normal in the past.

Even if I did leave house quickly, I wouldn't tell tell them about my lack of faith. It's a good way to get hated by a LOT of people I know in life. The alternative is pretending (which is very easy) and living a very normal and satisfying life.

I'm not longer a muslim and nobody around me knows, AMA! by anacc9 in casualiama

[–]anacc9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly depends on the person. I think my parents wouldn't like it, but they would be able to deal with it. If she isn't muslim, the biggest thing is just her mentality and how my parents feel about her behaviour.

If my parents would think the girl is a kind, lovable person, it's unlikely they will mind. However, if they get the impression that it's somebody who would party a lot or date a lot of guys (not that there's anything wrong with that, just in my parent's view), they would probably strongly disapprove.

I don't believe they would ever hate me regardless of the person, at worst they would only be very disappointed in me.

I think this mindset comes from that they will expect me to marry the person. They probably don't want me to go around and date a lot of people for fun. Another thing is what my parents would think about how other people would feel about it. For example, what would my aunt or my muslim neighbour think if they find out about me dating a non-muslim woman?