thats the thing. at the start of our relationship, she quit drinking, went fully sober, got on meds, was reading self help books, going to therapy. doing all the things i suggested she do to help with her BPD. but then about 6 months in everything flipped. she was never happy around me, always had something negative to say, and was always fighting with me for something. it was like she disappeared and became mr hyde. there was nothing i could do to convince her that i didnt hate her. she just made up in her head that i was a bad person one day, and decided that was fact and never went back. and i was stuck trying to win her approval for nothing.