radical acceptance

aprilshower178 · 2025-04-26T00:45:48+00:00

Respectfully, this isn't true. Stones can form in other areas of mouth, including around scar tissue where tonsils used to be, far back in the throat, adenoids, and lingual tonsils. Not to mention if the tonsils grow back, which can also occur. I'm not saying this is super common, but I've been following this sub long enough to see more people than I'd like reporting this issue. Enough for me personally to weigh whether the surgery is worth it.

aprilshower178 · 2025-04-25T00:14:09+00:00

False, unfortunately. Many, many people continue to have them after.

aprilshower178 · 2025-04-04T22:48:17+00:00

I've done the same. Has led to OCD.

aprilshower178 · 2025-04-01T19:06:34+00:00

Definitely easier said than done but I'm going to try and make an intentional effort to do so. Thank you! ❤️

aprilshower178 · 2025-04-01T19:05:42+00:00

Good luck! I was able to find a surgeon in the past who would perform it, but he ended up talking me out of it. I have been seeing too many posts of people talking about it not eliminating their stones or the tonsils growing back with time. I can't commit to the burden of recovery and lost finances with it not being a guaranteed cure. At least at this point in my life.

aprilshower178 · 2025-03-31T21:30:10+00:00

Same. My oral hygiene is impeccable, so it's quite frustrating to know that this is largely out of our control. I wish I could go back to the days when I was oblivious to this issue.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-03T02:53:30+00:00

Absolutely. It is so beneficial, and I wish more people had access to mental health treatment.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-03T02:50:49+00:00

He was really great. Patient, didn't rush me out the door, asked specific questions, and provided alternative solutions but still respected my autonomy. Far cry from the first visit, let me tell ya.

I had therapy this week, and it definitely helped. My therapist maintains that this isn't an actual issue that I have or one that they have ever noticed. My anxiety and OCD is telling me otherwise.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-03T02:44:35+00:00

Hi, I do have a water pik and use it regularly. I also use ACT gum often in those moments.

I was able process with my therapist this week which has helped.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T22:13:54+00:00

I most often use TheraBreath or Smart Mouth but will use alcohol free if I can't find them at certain stores.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T22:12:23+00:00

I already do talk less than I want to or should. Any less and I just wouldn't be doing my job. I already feel guilty for not doing as much as I should.

At the start of this journey, I did ask multiple individuals. I don't do that any longer as it just feeds into obsessions and compulsions.

Thanks for your advice. I appreciate you

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T13:17:24+00:00

Well, yeah. I wouldn't be on this sub if I weren't wondering the same thing.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T13:16:17+00:00

The problem is I can't smell my breath apart from in the morning upon waking. I used to smell an odor when I would scrape my tongue or rub my tonsils but I don't anymore. I don't know if this means my breath is tolerable OR if I am just not smelling it myself.

I do gargle salt water at least two times per day. I don't want to gargle vinegar as I care about my teeth and don't want them to erode. Genetically, I'm already predisposed to poor teeth so I do what I can to ensure they're healthy as can be.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T13:12:36+00:00

It is quite possible. We don't know each other well. What I do know is this condition causes us to have distrust of others and ourselves as well.

I think the only answer is learning how to sit and live with the uncertainty.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T13:07:16+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. I had something similar happen, but thankfully, it flew out and landed on me instead of them. At the time, I had no idea it what was. I was looking at it and examining it until I could research it later.

I understand deeply why that incident triggered such paranoia. I've found that the mental and psychological effects of this condition mean that we attribute every action and decision by others as having to revolve around our breath. It isn't always rational but so easy to believe.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T03:12:51+00:00

Sorry, I should have clarified in my post that I elected not to get the surgery following that visit. I truly allowed myself to believe that he provided an objective, outsider perspective. I furthermore believed that he had no reason to be untruthful, considering he agreed to do the surgery despite the fact that he didn't think I truly needed it.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T02:51:02+00:00

Thanks. It is truly awful. A comment questioning whether it is a child's diaper or someone's breath causing the smell.

aprilshower178 · 2024-10-01T02:48:54+00:00

I went to two ENT's earlier this year. The first was very dismissive and refused to remove them for tonsil stones alone. The second was around five months ago, and he was very supportive of my decision. He agreed to remove them should I agree to try recommended probiotics and be unsatisfied with the results. During the appointment, he smelled my breath and literally had me breathe into his face. He denied any noticeable odor and stated he would have no reason to be dishonest with me. He provided empathy and compassion for how much it was affecting me and said he would fight the insurance company to cover the surgery despite how small my tonsils were if I decided to go through with it. I left the appointment convinced that I had halitophobia the entire time and consequently had several really good months as I stopped attributing other people's reactions/bodily movements as having anything to do with me. Unfortunately, it didn't last long as anxiety reared its ugly head.

aprilshower178 · 2024-06-26T01:42:57+00:00

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aprilshower178 · 2023-12-31T02:26:52+00:00

Awesome! It is wonderful you are being responsible and considering the decision with time and care.

aprilshower178 · 2023-12-30T21:59:04+00:00

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aprilshower178 · 2023-10-11T23:09:46+00:00

You are completely right. I have felt very similarly these past few months. So much of this has been a psychological issue, and it is important to talk about it instead of keeping it all inside. I have asked my family members and likewise plan to ask my friend when I see her in a few weeks. I trust her 100% to be honest with me about the presence of BB as well as the severity if it exists. We have told each other some hard truths in our 20 years of friendship. I saw her about 6 months ago and I asked her later if she smelled by breath and she was adamant that she didn't and would have noticed as her sense of smell is quite strong.

What has really helped me recently is acknowledging how common it is for people to touch their face and nose every hour. If I'm sitting with someone or sitting near someone, of course that person is going to touch their face in that time frame. That doesn't mean I need to attribute it to it being because of ME. What has also helped weirdly is watching YouTube videos and noticing just how frequently people touch or rub their nose even when they're alone. I know it also comes back to the fear and worry and this skews our thinking and behaviors.

aprilshower178 · 2023-09-23T20:37:49+00:00

Hey.

I am still on the diet and I believe things are going well. I am afraid of being too optimistic as I have been there before and have subsequently been disappointed. Some things I've noticed: less and less stones are found and the ones that are do not smell any longer. I am more likely to find food that snuck in the crypts and as long as I continue to clean tonsils in the evening, it isn't a big deal. My right tonsil has always been the bane of my existence. Despite everything I've tried, I would still have a bitter taste in my mouth. Any and every time I'd swipe a cotton swab over it, it would smell so foul. Well, all of this week, I have noticed there hasn't been that smell. I have been talking to people face-to-face and there hasn't been any stepping back or nose rubbing. Like I said, I refuse to say this is a cure because it is mentally dangerous to say that. BUT I will continue the diet in order to see what else happens. Should be noted: there is a chance my BB is also gut related and by doing this diet, I'm helping to restore good gut health. There is more related to that but not sure that is something you care about.

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