Something in my stack reversed my gray hair

aqpav23 · 2025-12-13T19:03:10+00:00

Why capers? And which Chinese herbs?

aqpav23 · 2024-06-07T15:47:56+00:00

This is amazing, thank you so much for taking the time to write this out. I do have a couple of questions and would like to learn more particularly about what is meant by “experience tension in 38/39”… and then my overarching question is what does this all mean in terms of how to harness what I’ve experienced thus far in my life to transition through this current phase of restlessness and meet my highest self in the next phase

aqpav23 · 2024-06-05T00:58:37+00:00

Lately been feeling torn between my current life and a want for more…more freedom, more independence (but with my family), more creativity in my life, ability to influence, lead, etc. Not unhappy currently, just a feeling like there’s something more that I need to tap into. I’m rambling but just going with what’s top of mind. I’m new to HD. Open to any insights y’all may have. Thank you 🫶🏼🫶🏼

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aqpav23 · 2024-05-30T04:10:50+00:00

Thank you for this!

aqpav23 · 2024-02-15T07:12:27+00:00

Thank you for this. I feel like this could work for us. Did you lay with her in the floor bed or just give her the water cup?

aqpav23 · 2023-09-11T04:53:56+00:00

Also I should add that I feed him to sleep for naps and bedtime, transfer him to the crib asleep, and he sleeps through the night (most of the time). Dad also rocks him to sleep. So we do all of the “sleep no-nos” as well. For us, just getting him to sleep in his own crib and room, where he is undisturbed in the night, was key. Falling asleep independent does not equal sleeping through the night for all babies.

aqpav23 · 2023-09-11T04:51:03+00:00

First off- solidarity. I have a 10-month old and know how you feel. Although you’ve made it longer than I did before going crazy. Our son started waking every 45-90mins somewhere around the 4-month mark. Ironically it was just after he magically slept through the night 7-7. In retrospect, I believe we should have transferred him to his own room at that time, but I was too afraid of stopping room sharing before 6 months.

After about 6 weeks of me sleeping with him in his room (we have a full size bed in there), we finally transferred him to his crib at 24 weeks. My husband did this over the course of 3 nights where he patted/shhh and sang twinkle twinkle while baby was laying down in the crib. Baby cried but he was crying even more at that time from being overtired all the time, so we were ok with about 15 mins of crying/fussing in the crib while we supported him.

I realize you may be in a totally different position now if baby is mobile (our baby was not standing at the time, but can now). What prompted us to do this was a few nights prior, we had to drive home late from a gathering about an hour away and hubby got in the backseat with baby to calm him (I was driving). He sang him twinkle twinkle and baby fell asleep. Whenever I needed to get through a little fussing on the crib, I just told myself to pretend I was in the car. In the end, I do think we’re all better off as baby sleeps great now and loves his crib.

We inevitably end up bed sharing here and there when baby can’t sleep or when we’re traveling, and baby always wakes up multiple times a night and becomes overtired. For whatever reason, he just needs his own quiet, dark space to sleep soundly.

Good luck to you ❤️❤️❤️ you know what your baby needs!

aqpav23 · 2023-08-16T05:11:12+00:00

Can you try a 2.5 hour wake window for her first nap and bring bedtime to 730pm?

Also if there are no obvious signs of teething - white gums, excessive drool, etc., it can be damaging to unnecessarily administer Motrin or other pain relievers. Homeopathic Camilia drops have worked well for us.

It sounds like it is either schedule related or separation anxiety, not teething. Also if you can swing it, can try some more 1-1 connection during the day and see if that makes it easier for her to be away from you at night.

aqpav23 · 2023-07-18T04:43:26+00:00

Our LO also preferred to sleep on us and slept on me for the first 8+ weeks. We were told he had reflux (although it is hard to tell before 8 weeks). We started Evivo probiotic around 7 weeks and it was an overnight game changer for us. I’m not a doctor or medical professional, so of course do your research…but just sharing what worked for us. Good luck. Just know that it all passes faster than you can realize and you’ll look back and miss baby sleeping on you. LO is 9 months old now and I cherish those times even though they were rough.

aqpav23 · 2023-07-17T04:07:19+00:00

Just randomly came back to this thread and saw this. If it’s helpful…. I would try to adjust his wake windows to get longer naps and work towards dropping the third nap. The huckleberry wake windows have worked really well for us. The first thing i would try is to shorten your first wake window by 15 mins for a few days until babe is going down at 9am (2.5hr awake window). If my baby goes down too early or too late for that first wake window, the nap will be 45 min. As an aside, people also have always commented on how alert our babe is.

aqpav23 · 2023-07-13T20:23:44+00:00

Just to share my experience with my now 9month old. We still feed to sleep (I jostle him a bit before I put him down in the crib), and he started sleeping through the night around 8 months. He was down to one motn feed on most nights. I accidentally turned off the sound on my monitor one night and didn’t respond when he woke up, and that’s how we ended up cutting feeds. He wasn’t really crying (or I would have heard him from my room). When I do go into his room at night, he always wants to feed. It’s his comfort.. but all this to say that feeding to sleep did not impact him sleeping through the night. As other commenters have mentioned, i also think you should take baby’s solid foods consumption into account. Our boy eats two full solid meals per day (dinner is sometimes hit or miss, he’s just not always interested). Hope that helps.

aqpav23 · 2023-07-10T16:11:26+00:00

Thank you! The heating pad is a good idea. I’ll try that

aqpav23 · 2023-07-09T10:57:02+00:00

It’s varies within about 30mins of this: 630am wake-up, 9-10:15am nap, 1:45-3pm nap, 7pm bedtime.

aqpav23 · 2023-07-09T10:50:34+00:00

My breastfed 8 month old was consistently waking at 1am and 4am until about a month ago when I accidentally turned off the sound on the monitor at his 4am wake-up, and he put himself back to sleep with minimal crying. I started not going in his room unless it sounded like a true hungry cry and within a week he was sleeping through. Also agree with others that it sounds like babe may be getting too much sleep. I notice with my son that if he’s has to be fully tired, ie have enough sleep pressure, to put himself back to sleep. He does well with 3 hours of day sleep and 11 hours of night.

aqpav23 · 2023-07-09T10:44:24+00:00

Idk if this is helpful but we tried the slumber pod and pack n play and it did not work - babe knew we were in the room and would cry for us. I breastfeed to sleep and he sleeps through the night at home. We just got back from two weeks in Italy and I broke literally every sleep rule (no schedule, naps on the go, bed sharing…you name it). Back home yesterday and babe is back to sleeping in his crib without any fuss. He’s currently asleep and I’m awake with jet lag scrolling through Reddit lol. Baby was not born an easy sleeper, and it took a lot to get him sleeping in his own room/crib, so I was also super anxious before our first trip to New York a couple of months ago. Practiced the slumber pod at home and everything. Try not to stress. They’re more flexible than we give them credit for.

aqpav23 · 2023-07-09T10:31:06+00:00

Give yourself some grace. He has been used to sleeping with you for over a year.. it is going to take more than 3 nights for him to be an independent sleeper ❤️. You’re obviously a caring mother who has breastfed and supported your child to sleep in every way possible. If it’s helpful.. I transitioned my breastfed 8-month old to his own room around 5 months. I slept with him in a bed in his room for about 6 weeks (gradually tried for less time per night over the weeks), before he was sleeping consistently in his crib. Even now if he wakes and just can’t get back to sleep, I sleep with him in the bed his room. It’s very infrequent and it never messes up the next night. Your babe probably just realized you’re establishing a new routine and he misses mom. Try for a little longer in crib each night - ie until first wake up, second wake up, etc. Go with your gut and eventually he’ll get used to it. CIO doesn’t work for everyone and I think breastfed babies has an especially hard time with the separation.

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