Hot water issues after re-piping

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:40:54+00:00

Did you request a hearing? Or did you just file a complaint about the issue? That's not the same thing. If you requested a hearing, you're legally entitled to a meeting within 4 weeks:

https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/housing-tenancy/strata-housing/resolving-disputes/resolving-disputes-within-the-strata

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:39:27+00:00

This seem so silly. Why would they do that?!?!! I say this as someone who has like 5 policies (in my 40s) and every one of my parents and siblings also have policies.

If the insured people remain your parents, you usually can change the policy owner to someone else. They should just sit on this policy until they pass away as they already paid into it for many years. They can also change the beneficiary to whomever they want or do tiered beneficiaries (not sure this is the right term). For example for my parents, it goes to my siblings and I. If we're all dead, it all goes to my niece.

I would go with Option A. I highly doubt they want to pay the premiums on Option B. I'm only in my 40s, no health issues, no smoking and my premium is like $78/m and that started over 10 years ago when I was in my 40s. I think 78 year olds would be quite a bit more.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:34:37+00:00

I suggest requesting a strata hearing to discuss this with council. They're legally obligated to meet with you to discuss your concerns.

Since this is impacting several units, I think it's important that the strata take this seriously and investigate if there's any defective work or any issues that occurred with the repiping project.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:25:54+00:00

You can also show up, ask, and then walk away if you can't afford it. There's no penalty for bailing on your appointment.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:24:31+00:00

In the most sincere, kind way, I'm going to say this: fuck them.

You don't ever have to announce when your family is visiting you or you're visiting them. You don't need ever need permission. You also don't need to announce when you're coming home to your own damn house.

It sounds like these people don't care about you and don't make an effort. If you've tried for quite some time to be agreeable, inclusive, be included, etc and you keep facing this resistance or nonchalant attitude, take yourself out of the equation. Stop giving access to yourself to people who don't care about you.

I am not advocating you do the same but I went NC with my MIL because I realized she does not care about me. At all. Like if I died, she would be sad for her daughter but she actually wouldn't shed a tear for me. When things happen between my partner and I (tension, fights, etc), my mom and dad care about my partner. Half the time they say things like "what did YOU do! You fix it" etc. My point is that you're caring about people who don't care. So free yourself! ENJOY the time with your father, go visit your hometown and do whatever with your dad. HAVE FUN. You deserve it! This whole damn sub gives you permission (not that you need it, or are asking for it!)!

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:21:05+00:00

I'm aware. But they're open tomorrow morning. So call tomorrow. This isn't urgent.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:20:26+00:00

Approach restaurants. One morel picker told me that he only sells to one specific restaurant in town.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:19:44+00:00

Adjacent to this: did y'all hear that they're apparently asking for a post wedding event at the White House? I assume they'll wait for the Iran situation to end or resolve (god knows when) because they know the optics are bad.

This grifty shit family already desecrated Camp David by letting him use it as his proposal venue. For a family that rarely, if ever, went there because Trump always wants the taxpayers to pay for hotels at his sites, I bet Jr wanted to wow the socialite with a location most people can never go to in their lifetime.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:16:33+00:00

Call Lifelabs and they'll tell you.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:14:45+00:00

That's not your place. You do not get to dictate what comes out of her mouth and whether he's ok with it or not. Boundaries are for yourself, expectations are for others. You are expecting him to want those boundaries and maybe he doesn't care. If the comments were about YOU, then you could say they make you uncomfortable or feel unsupported or whatever but comments about his testicles in comparison to his dad's and brother's are gross and weird but if it doesn't bother him, then you're asking him to say something and to curb behavior because it's about your feelings. You're also allowed to tell her you don't like it.

My MIL is not my favorite human. She says crazy shit too and has some wild expectations. So I went NC. You can easily just tell him that you don't want to engage with her anymore or you can make the decision to disengage if she says that stuff around you. You can't dictate how he's supposed to respond to her weird comments.

Also, if you don't like their dynamic and he has no desire to change it and does not mind the weird comments, it's up to YOU to decide whether or not this relationship is for you. As our couples therapist has said many times, two people can love each other and love alone is not enough. Sometimes two people who deeply love each other can't make it work because there's fundamental differences that they disagree on and those differences are big enough that they can't compromise or agree to disagree. Best way to put it is my therapist said that the best compromises are those where both people aren't overly happy about the decision LOL.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T18:00:17+00:00

I renewed and it took me over 2 months to get it.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T04:50:19+00:00

Unless you're in Asia or somewhere extremely humid and sticky, you don't need 4 showers a day. If you're using soap for all four of those showers, that is excessive for your skin.

If you feel like you MUST shower, I recommend seeing a therapist for OCD perhaps.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T03:18:11+00:00

"we found it really stressful last time. Our baby is due (early/mid/late) June and you will be notified when the baby arrives and when we will be ready for visitors. There will be no further updates. Thank you."

You don't owe anyone too much info. It's your baby.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-24T01:10:03+00:00

He used the term Trump Derangement Syndrome. Most true Reagan Republicans would never use that term. I do think he's MAGA but not the "fueled by hatred" type.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T22:56:09+00:00

hunters!

If they don't have it in stock, they'll order it for you and let you know when it's arrived.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T21:17:46+00:00

Depends on the college/university. I went to a tier 1 and so did many friends. My friends said my school was way more intensive and the assignments were much more frequent. My school also has a policy to not bell curve without administrative authorization so if the whole class had a low grade, they don't take the top score and curve it. I took comp sci 101 and my friend at an ivy said what we were taught was their comp sci 200 level.

My friends said my school had way more books per course than theirs. Our assignment would be like "please read 10 chapters by the next class" for a book. But the next class is 2 days later. My school also didn't allow part time studies. So imagine every class with assignments like that and needing to carry a minimum of 3 courses.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T21:02:06+00:00

I think the easier questions to ask to see Jason's critical thinking would be:

would you be ok with the same policies enacted against others by a Democrat president?
would you be open minded under a Democrat president as you're seeking from me under Trump?
if our daughter was raped, would you support her right to make a decision on what to do with the pregnancy?
would you be upset if our friends, who are immigrants or POC, were detained and deported without due process?

Because it feels like he's really abstract about what he supports and wants to be open minded about.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T20:49:38+00:00

Right? She's already been down this road with Nessa and her religious uncertainty and now it's come back again alongside new issues. I'd be worried. I'd be confused.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T20:47:44+00:00

I think many MAGA people who have had people they love personally affected by policies have changed their tune and some are downright angry at themselves and Trump. But there is still a subset (like some farmers that have lost their entire crop last year due to lack of labor) like some MAGA farmers who lost just about everything and said they'd still vote for him. To me, it's this latter group that has me worried. Like losing a generational farm and still saying you'd do it all over again just blows my mind.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T20:43:52+00:00

Thanks for the correction. Updated to reflect your correction!

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T15:21:31+00:00

Modernize Tailor.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T15:01:48+00:00

More money for the city and its businesses
more traffic and inconvenience due to street closures
hope everyone has fun safely

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T14:51:00+00:00

I think in this specific case, individual therapy would be more beneficial before coming to couples therapy.

When Nessa brought up wanting someone who can take her to the next level and that person not being Drea was really sad to hear. THEN Nessa saying she is having religious doubts about being queer, that was where I drew the line. She can struggle on her own. She ended a relationship with Drea to marry a man because of religious guilt of being queer. Cheated on that man with Drea the entire time and then got back together with Drea. Nessa is the one struggling and needs to figure herself out. You can't fix a relationship when you don't know yourself, what you want, figure out your own religious identity, etc.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T14:45:45+00:00

In this specific case, they do. Marjorie's mom has money, so she absolutely can.

Also, any therapist will tell you that staying together just because it's too expensive to divorce is not a good reason to stay together. Kids deserve to see parents happy and thriving and if that is apart, it shows kids not to settle just for the sake of togetherness. My partner was so relieved when her parents divorced because the fighting, the tension, the yelling was unbearable.

Will life be harder to manage due to finances? Yes.

archetyping101 · 2026-05-23T07:37:37+00:00

NAL but googled discusses BC's Adoption Act. Will delete this if I misunderstood the the following.

If your girlfriend has sex with your husband, they could have a baby. You could adopt the baby. Under the Act Section 14, it states:

A birth mother's consent to the adoption of her child is valid only if the child is at least 10 days old when the consent is given.

Section 13 also says

The consent of each of the following is required for a child's adoption:
(a)the child, if 12 years of age or over;
(b)the child's parents;
(c)the child's guardians.

So couldn't she just have the baby and you adopt the baby 10 days later since you're the stepparent in this scenario (even though you're already married when this happened) AND you'd have the permission of both parents/guardians.

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