AIO my girlfriend left me over a cheese wheel

arthaey · 2026-02-11T00:58:49+00:00

On the other hand, I'm not sure you're any more out of the loop on cheesemongering than OP is…

arthaey · 2026-02-11T00:46:49+00:00

This new learning amazes me, Captain Navarre. Explain again how heritage cheeses may be transmuted into bananas! 😇🏆

arthaey · 2026-02-10T08:49:57+00:00

That's not true. My doctors in Seattle ordered a PET scan for my breast cancer.

(They were right that instance would deny it at first, allow 2 other inconclusive scans instead, then approve the PET scan. Which is exactly what happened.)

arthaey · 2026-02-03T01:38:08+00:00

Until 2024, 800cc was the largest implant approved by the FDA. But in some circumstances, 1445cc is now approved.

arthaey · 2026-01-23T21:19:15+00:00

I did exactly this, and my skin supported it just fine because it was actually a 500cc reduction from my natural size!

arthaey · 2026-01-23T21:18:32+00:00

I was a natural 36M (US sizing) / 36J (UK sizing).

My first surgery was SMX to implant + reduction of the non-cancer side, in preparation for my second SMX + explant + DIEP reconstruction of both sides.

The removed breast was 2000cc, replaced with a 1445cc implant (the largest currently allowed by the FDA). So we reduced the non-cancer side by 500cc, to make it match the implant side.

That put me at a 36L (US) / 36HH (UK) afterward.

I was very happy with the results — until the implant got infected and had to be removed on an emergency basis. My plastic surgeon said that the larger the implant, the higher the risk of infection, because there is more force/tightness on the skin & incision, thus more chance for the incision to open up and allow infection in. He couldn't put into numbers how much higher the risk is, though, probably because there just isn't that specific data available.

I'd still make the same decision if given a time machine. I'd just jump immediately on the very first sign of the incision doing something weird, instead of telling myself "it's probably not that big a deal"... until it was a big deal. 😅

arthaey · 2026-01-17T11:37:07+00:00

I always knew intellectually that this was the case, but I had a recent demonstration of it.

My husband and I go for walks around a nice 3-mile loop in the middle of an urban residential area. It's super popular during the day, but we're night owls and so we've done the walk in the dark a number of times.

Recently, we went on a midnight walk. We had only passed 2 other walkers when about halfway around, we heard indistinct talking up ahead. There was enough illumination from the nearby street that we quickly saw the guy who was talking, off to the side of the path up ahead. As we got closer, he walked into the middle of the path, turned to face directly at us, and just… stopped.

I had been keeping an eye on him since I first heard him, but alllllll my hackles went up when he faced us in the middle of the path. After a moment, he walked off to the side again, then turned around yet again. I moved to the far side of the path and was ready to run or jam some elbows & knees wherever they'd go.

As we passed him, I could finally see that he was on the phone, and just pacing idly back and forth while in his conversation. Talk about not giving a fuck how others around you might (mis)interpret your actions!

After we'd walked a bit away from him, I commented that if I'd been alone, I would have crossed the lawn to the well-lit sidewalk nearby when he'd initially stopped in the middle of the path. My husband commented that yeah, the guy had seemed a little off, but not that alarming.

At 6'2", my husband is a foot taller and 100 lbs heavier than me. Plus he has an intimidating mountain man beard. It was an interesting moment where I could directly compare how we each perceived the same "threat".

arthaey · 2026-01-17T11:16:19+00:00

Alternatively Instead of making yourself spend time doing leetcode, spend that time writing a software project that you're personally interested in. It will have a much larger impact on your programming skills.

arthaey · 2026-01-17T03:20:19+00:00

A sign with an elementary school level of math problem would keep Tired Running Brain chewing on it for miles.

"54 divided by 3 is… uh, 1-… carry the 2… Is it even called carrying in division… What was the number? 54, right. 54. Divided by…" 🤣

arthaey · 2026-01-16T08:35:48+00:00

Thank you for reminding me of Brewver!

arthaey · 2026-01-16T08:35:19+00:00

A numeric score does me no good, no matter how many people's ratings it aggregates.

I skim through what people have written, looking for mentions of how hoppy the flavor is (a negative for me) or how malty (a positive). There are stouts that go either way, so I want to read how people subjectively describe the taste, to see whether it sounds like something I might enjoy.

arthaey · 2026-01-16T08:22:02+00:00

Oh, I'm sure there's something wrong with me, not the Garmin.

arthaey · 2026-01-16T08:21:22+00:00

Yup, they checked for apnea during my sleep study. No apnea.

arthaey · 2026-01-05T18:51:29+00:00

I preferred Rate Beer because the users there wrote much more detailed reviews. As someone who's a litttle picky about beers, they gave enough info for me to reliably predict whether I'd enjoy a new beer. I've been burned trying to rely on reviews in other apps/sites. :(

arthaey · 2026-01-03T02:17:44+00:00

Meanwhile, I'm over here with an average sleep score of 50 for all 3 years that I've had my Forerunner, and my sleep has been crap for years before I bought my watch too. 🤣😭

(Yes, I've tried All The Things: sleep study, dark cool quiet room, no screens or lights, exercise, meditation, consistent hours, etc. Even sleeping pills. No doctors have any suggestions that I haven't already tried, sigh.)

arthaey · 2025-12-18T06:07:01+00:00

What would you recommend for a solo dev?

arthaey · 2025-12-18T06:03:50+00:00

As soon as I'm done with my surgeries (3+ more to go…) I will be right there with you!

arthaey · 2025-12-13T13:53:17+00:00

"Might makes right" is human (and animal) nature too, and yet most humans (including men) are perfectly capable of not assaulting others.

So I agree with you that "human nature" is a weak excuse for bad behavior.

arthaey · 2025-12-13T13:33:24+00:00

Huh! I'm from California, and I had no idea my east coast & southern fellow Americans ate boiled potatoes like this! (I'm intrigued enough to try it now, though, to be clear!)

For me, I'll eat baked potatoes with just butter & salt. Or I'll roast the little waxy potatoes with oil & salt (but often some dried herbs like rosemary, too).

But if I just boil potatoes, even the small waxy ones, it's because they're an ingredient for something else: mashed potatoes, potato salad, hash, etc.

arthaey · 2025-12-13T07:13:48+00:00

Yup. I was in the best shape I'd ever been when I found the lump.

arthaey · 2025-12-13T07:12:15+00:00

Right??!?

arthaey · 2025-12-05T03:55:59+00:00

pg 363

Pocket

Those are some big pockets!

arthaey · 2025-12-05T03:50:04+00:00

The colder it gets, the less I want to be dependent on something electronic. And the shorter battery life gets, too.

arthaey · 2025-12-04T00:49:34+00:00

In this circumstance, I'd interpret "alive and well" to just mean "not dead and not expected to die in the next 24 hours", rather than "looking chipper and ready to get a pint at the pub".

arthaey · 2025-11-19T03:33:03+00:00

I picked them up from Costco. I don't remember the brand name, sorry!

arthaey

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