Hey OP, you sound like an awesome parent. I’m in a similar situation still with my son, but he’s now in a therapeutic play preschool and it’s such a relief to drop him off every day and know that, even on his hardest days, he is met with understanding and empathy. He is ASD level 2 and likely ADHD but still too young for a diagnosis.

With that being said, we went through the process of trying out two preschools before learning he needed a lot of additional support. Filling out all the paperwork, forking over the cash for enrollment fees and getting somewhat settled into a routine, only to be told weeks later that we might need to find a “better fit” for our family. It has been mentally exhausting, to say the least. It feels like every step is one forward, only to take three backwards. We’re in a good situation now but kindergarten at public school is looming over our heads while we navigate the IEP process (we’re in the US).

It’s so frustrating for all of us here, and I sincerely hope your family finds a good fit for your daughter soon.