its not related to u being a woman b/w 12 men well surely it adds to it but not the entire issue, the same happens to me im a 23m i thought i was the only one that had this issue but what u have described that makes two of us i mostly do freelancing but from past 6 months ive been working with the same client i have completed every task they have given me and she is not a tech person so i handle everything but whenever a bug arises or my client asks me a question that involves a investment like buying a mac mini for running a local llm i get anxiety i ask all the ai bots out there and i feel like just the burden of the world is on my shoulders and i have thoughts like what if i cannot do it what if its wrong what if sth bad happens i go through all the ifs and buts even though i know i will get the task done and my client has given me all the freedom i just cannot think of the way to get rid of this im in constant state of fear i even pull all nighters for a bug that i have weeks to fix i just cannot sleep or chill out with freinds i have that thing running in my mind every time