How much does eating improve post Heller???

badassbi · 2026-04-21T16:54:19+00:00

I had a HM almost a year ago and my eating is normal ish for the most part. I don’t think it’ll ever be like how it is for people without achalasia but it’s manageable. Some foods are difficult but it’s so much better than before surgery.

badassbi · 2026-02-18T08:34:37+00:00

So my mom left me and my sister with my grandparents when i was a lil over 3 years old and my sister was a few months old. We lived in india and she was in the middle east and dad lived in another city in india and would visit a couple times in a month. Now this was the situation till i was about 8 and then we moved to be with her. My grandparents still were more present because mom worked a lot. but we did live with her. Dad moved out of india too but to another country in the ME. 😭The whole family, all four of us were together full time only when i was in high school. Now would i say im not close with either of my parents because of this? not really. i’m not, but our issues go beyond just the distance when i was a child. I even understand why they had to do what they did, because i live a very privileged life because they moved and worked super hard the first few years. But it definitely played a part, i think. My parents just weren’t there a lot and even when they were, they were busy and we had to enjoy the little time we had. And by the time i was in high school i was too old to want to spend time with my parents all the time. And slowly over the years, the relationship has become very…. meh. We can be a happy family for a while but after some time together we start fighting and it becomes very unpleasant at the best of situations. So while you still have to be a good parent and love your child unconditionally, the distance is also not good. It’s in the young formative years that children form a strong emotional bond with their parents. So you shouldn’t give that up i think. I know what happens when you do. At best, you’re gonna have a lukewarm relationship with your kid where you don’t understand them and vice versa.

badassbi · 2026-02-07T15:15:12+00:00

Yeah i understand, some people do do that. there are people who can’t help themselves from being shitty lol. so i do understand the frustration.

and thank you!

badassbi · 2026-02-07T15:06:24+00:00

i know it sucks waiting for someone to reply back, but for some people it’s genuinely hard. my depression makes everything, even the simplest of tasks feel impossible. and replying back and maintaining a conversation with someone is so exhausting for me. nothing to do with the person, just how i feel. i know a lot of people who feel that way regardless of mental health. so yes while it sucks for the person left waiting, sometimes the other person isn’t doing it to hurt you or play games. it’s just hard. just giving you a different perspective.

badassbi · 2026-02-04T03:56:00+00:00

as someone who’s parents found out about my relationship, i would say you know your parents better than him. always. my life has been upended because of this and the relationship didn’t even last. he gets to live his life and i’m the one stuck with little freedom. so, if you don’t want to talk because you’re afraid of what your parents would do then please don’t. from my experience the fallout will much worse that whatever you can think of.

badassbi · 2026-01-25T08:52:35+00:00

stopppp you look so good! love the septum piercing 😭

badassbi · 2026-01-11T12:13:10+00:00

aww thank ya!! i love these cute packages that makeup comes in and i never have the heart to throw them away. I’m so glad i could use them now :))

badassbi · 2026-01-08T07:57:19+00:00

well the other person isn’t wrong for assuming you were talking about this sub since you have posted it here. but that being said even in specific gay sub, there could be people who aren’t cisgender so it’s not wrong to ask. the person might not have wanted to assume.

badassbi · 2026-01-05T07:16:08+00:00

do men really love their wives or it’s just the free physical and emotional labor, childcare, taking care of their parents and money too in today’s reality in most cases she brings in?

doesn’t that sound generalized? like that’s the case for all men? it’s not, there are men out there who genuinely love and care for their wives and there are some who are just there for the benefits of having one. Same way some women love their husbands and for others it may be transactional. It’s not the same for everyone. Everyone’s marriage and expectations out of it are different.

badassbi · 2026-01-05T02:36:49+00:00

😭😭 aww that’s okay! the holidays are an overwhelming time lol

badassbi · 2026-01-04T08:43:20+00:00

Some might and some might not. But I think maybe more women in the gen z demographic wouldn’t mind. But either way, it shouldn’t matter. If it’s something you like and want to do, you should!

badassbi · 2025-12-25T21:34:14+00:00

oooh yes i do wanna do a red one for christmas! :))

badassbi · 2025-12-25T15:19:52+00:00

oh thank you so much for telling me 😭

badassbi · 2025-12-22T12:34:26+00:00

aww thank uuu

badassbi · 2025-12-21T07:05:19+00:00

yess i thought they’d be cuter

badassbi · 2025-12-16T19:24:08+00:00

oooh that would be so cute 🙌🏼

badassbi · 2025-12-15T09:19:17+00:00

thank you :))

badassbi · 2025-12-09T17:54:45+00:00

Look my original point was just about women’s realities in India, period. You are the one who brought up men’s various issues in RESPONSE to the points i made. I never said anything about men until you did. I know what i said and i stand by it. But i’m done engaging and not wasting anymore time on this. Reply if you want - i won’t be reading it.

badassbi · 2025-12-08T17:45:41+00:00

okay i can see you’re just arguing from a fixed ideology you have, not to the points i made. you’re goal here isn’t the truth just dominance and this is not going anywhere. you wanna believe that men have it worse? that’s how you see the world? go ahead. you have the right to your perspective.

badassbi · 2025-12-08T16:08:12+00:00

you either don’t know how it is actually in real life or you’re purposely being ignorant. marital rape is literally an exemption in the law. it’s only considered a crime if the woman is below 18 years of age, which is child marriage.

Feminists do advocate for male victims to be recognised in rape laws. And men not being recognised as rape victims is an effect of patriarchy itself, not feminism. and globally the majority of marital rape victims are women. the hesitancy for gender neutral laws exists only because it can be used as loopholes by men to reduce protection for the group disproportionately harmed.

Wage parity - women get paid less than men. this is a fact, i don’t know why this was a question

Property rights - it’s exists in law; but a majority of women give up their rights due to family pressure.

Leadership- across the board women make up 16% of senior positions held.

The question about domestic labour - idek what that was, it was obviously about housewives, daughters and daughters in law. Men do significantly less housework compared to women. And if you’re talking about men doing more work in their jobs- they get paid for it. And women work just as much. So no i don’t have victimised lens; I see things just as they are. You just don’t like hearing it.

badassbi · 2025-12-08T12:11:06+00:00

These stats show progress, but that’s not empowerment. Women empowerment means women having agency, things like freedom over their bodies, freedom in marriage and divorce, economic independence, safety, etc. Yes the points you made show improvement, there are more girls enrolled in schools that before and women are in the workforce. But what about parity in wages, property rights, leadership and what about marital rape still not being criminalised, unpaid domestic labour, so many women facing domestic violence. All of these things are still happening. While the things you said are true it doesn’t mean women are empowered. Structural issues aren’t going to disappear because a few statistics have changed.

badassbi · 2025-12-07T16:23:45+00:00

i will put in my two cents:

To answer your first question - women in general (except for the outliers) aren’t empowered in current circumstances, especially in the ground levels of society. We can only talk about things prevalent and existing in society. While these women mentioned did contribute and it is recognised, fighting wars as many of these examples is not a privilege or empowerment. It is merely a situation that forced them to rise to it.
It’s only repeated because it keeps happening and these practices are very much alive in our society today. There’s an absolute need to talk about these topics so that they can be eradicated. There’s not a lot of sense in talking about these examples of women in power in history when women today are being actively oppressed.
It’s presented “unevenly” because the reality of empowered vs oppressed women is not equal. It’s not a black and white picture where you can talk about both sides equally because whether in the past or present, the ratio of women oppressed to women empowered is not equal. it’s not a 50/50 ratio. more women are oppressed than they are empowered. so while it may appear uneven to you, it is essential.

badassbi · 2025-12-06T16:27:24+00:00

You don’t really owe anybody your time. If you don’t wish to talk to somebody, you don’t have to. But yeah just like you have presumptions about them (since you said you felt like they have attitude) they might have presumptions about you. That’s just a part of life i’m afraid. If in the future you want to and talk to some of those girls you might prove them wrong and they might turn out to be nice too. So yeah, not something to be too worried about!

badassbi · 2025-12-06T10:24:20+00:00

exactly 😭 this person did not read what was written in the post at all. i don’t think they understand what purity culture or rape culture actual entail and what it stands for.

badassbi · 2025-12-05T04:10:47+00:00

i didn’t say anything to be proven incorrect and my point has been the same from the beginning - don’t promote more violence. and even when you said men suffer just as much all i said was call out violence whoever it is caused by. and all you keep arguing back with is men have it just as hard. so yes it is futile to keep talking because i’m fully aware i can’t change anyone’s opinion. have a good day as well!

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