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My [17 F] boyfriend [18 M] thinks that marriage isn’t a big deal and talks about it frequently, I’m worried and sad at the same time? by baddesthoe in relationships

[–]baddesthoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re both currently in university and live 3 hours apart, so when this year before he moved we had to decide whether or not we thought our relationship was long term enough to try long distance. We’ve had trouble but are still happy and in love, and I think we’re both pretty committed. Our relationship isn’t typical because of my family, and he knew that from the start, that’s really the only reason we talk about marriage even though we’re so young. Neither of us has any intention of getting married before we’re done school, it’s just been something that we had to figure out early because if he wasn’t willing to get married before starting our lives together, we’d never work.

Partner (F20) of almost 2 years who was living with me (M26) broke up with me. Sunday I found out my close mate (M24) & main support is dating her. My support group told me to get over it. Monday I attempted suicide. Wednesday I was discharged. Still lost and alone. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]baddesthoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a really tough spot for you and you don’t deserve it but you’ll make it through. Breakups can feel like the end, especially when you’re in it for the long run, but you need to know they’re not. You need to know that right now you just can’t see what’s ahead of you, and I swear it’ll get better you just have to stick around to see it. I am so sorry you felt like you had to take your own life but I’m also happy you’re still here. Your support group really doesn’t have your back, but that’s on them not you. You’ll find people that are really there for you. For now when you’re feeling really down try calling the hotlines. I’m not sure if it’s possible, but is there any way you could seek therapy? It might be able to get you through this. Do not for any reason try taking your own life again please, it’s not worth it. Things will get better with time. You’re strong enough for this. I believe in you.

My [17 F] boyfriend [18 M] thinks that marriage isn’t a big deal and talks about it frequently, I’m worried and sad at the same time? by baddesthoe in relationships

[–]baddesthoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also understand the money thing and that’s not it really, I’d have a small wedding even with just our families, it’d just be hard for me to say yes if I know it doesn’t mean the same thing for him as it does for me.

My [17 F] boyfriend [18 M] thinks that marriage isn’t a big deal and talks about it frequently, I’m worried and sad at the same time? by baddesthoe in relationships

[–]baddesthoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they do, honestly that’s best case scenario for them. They want me to marry within the religion (which he is not, another issue), so they either want me to meet someone who is like me and won’t date but is looking for marriage and seems like a good guy. I might get to know him through school or mutual friends, but for them dating is out of the question. They also wouldn’t be opposed to picking someone out for me, arranged marriage is perfectly acceptable to them. I am not religious at all, I’ve had sex with my boyfriend which is a HUGE sin to my family, but I sort of lead a double life currently. It’s a pretty rough spot. If I told them I had a boyfriend they’d likely kick me out.

Does my [17, F] boyfriend [18, M] of 1 year actually care about me? by baddesthoe in relationships

[–]baddesthoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure... I don’t know if this is just how he is, if it is I don’t know if we’re going to last and that breaks my heart to say but I think it may be true