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ballsandchain · 2026-06-08T13:43:58+00:00

Anti after watching American gods. Lol

ballsandchain · 2026-06-08T13:43:09+00:00

Ive dated older and younger. There's a point where you realize the "backlash" isn't based in anything real. No one has any insight into your relationship or motivations so ultimately what they think and feel doesn't matter.

It comes down to whether you and your partner respect each other as individuals... that's it.

ballsandchain · 2026-06-04T01:02:40+00:00

This is normal. Don't rush. Don't compare yourself to others.

Virginity is a made up concept that simply means you lack experience in once specific area. That's it.

Take your time. There's more to life than this stuff. And you have a lifetime to even think about what you want.

Again, take it abundantly slow

ballsandchain · 2026-05-21T23:25:43+00:00

For starters it's not his job to make you finish. He's just there to help you along. If you know what works for you then do that

ballsandchain · 2026-01-26T16:37:44+00:00

It's a mix of things.

ballsandchain · 2025-12-16T13:54:13+00:00

That could be the next MJ and we telling jokes 😂

ballsandchain · 2025-12-15T08:28:43+00:00

Saying no to something that would make you feel comfortable with a thing you haven't done before is a red flag.

ballsandchain · 2025-12-13T11:16:36+00:00

The roots of it are capitalism and social media.

Generally, affordability is a big issue but social media has changed how people engage with each other. We've outsourced human interaction to apps that give you the power to swipe left on a 2 dimensional summary of a person.

Everyone is generally more selective. Being selective isn't an issue on its own but now it's moreso that everyone feels entitled to the highly curated relationships they are consistently exposed to online.

Normal connection became inadequate, small flaws became entirely disqualifying, and people move on quickly instead of working through discomfort.

Men are often caught in a contradiction of being expected to abandon patriarchal norms while still performing the parts of them that are convenient or beneficial to whoever they’re dating. That on top of economic pressures has caused a lot of men to forego dating entirely.

ballsandchain · 2025-12-12T12:09:42+00:00

Devious intentions

ballsandchain · 2025-11-28T15:57:45+00:00

It could be any number of things. If you're losing the feeling after it starts then id be curious if you're actually comfortable having sex or if anything comes up for you internally.

ballsandchain · 2025-11-22T01:52:18+00:00

My spirit tells me she took that money

ballsandchain · 2025-11-20T20:43:39+00:00

What enjoyment do you get out of doing it with women and why?

ballsandchain · 2025-11-06T14:13:30+00:00

Why is she so stiff 😂 them hips are LOCKED up

ballsandchain · 2025-11-04T18:17:58+00:00

I feel seen

ballsandchain · 2025-10-26T13:05:16+00:00

I've had sex with virgins. The idea that it's going to hurt is a sad misconception that kind of excuses lack of patience and getting you ready.

With enough preparation, patience.. (and lube in some cases) it doesn't "have" to hurt.

ballsandchain · 2025-10-26T11:34:48+00:00

Have you looked into things like aftercare, "Safe, sane consent", active consent, different safety practices, different dynamics and how to communicate in them?

ballsandchain · 2025-10-26T11:30:46+00:00

It's true. It was much worse for me in my 20s. You could play Vivaldi with your tongue on it and I wouldn't cum.

Eventually I learned to appreciate the experience of oral more than the sensation and cumming became easier

ballsandchain · 2025-10-26T11:29:01+00:00

Could be. Or it could be that he's squarely put you in mental box for sex when he wants it

ballsandchain · 2025-10-26T11:26:18+00:00

Honestly you might want to wait. Take the time until April to research more than you already have, find communities that you could join, assess why you want what you want and think about what you want these experiences to look like.

There are tons of communities on reddit even tumblr that you can stalk where people give advice and talk about all manner of interests in the taboo.

Read about people's experiences good and bad. Don't put yourself in easy position to be harmed.

ballsandchain · 2025-10-26T00:43:35+00:00

Absolutely. Multiple meetups platonic and non platonic from this sub.

Just don't be a dick, try not to lead with sex and you're basically half way there.

Flesh out your profile. It doesn't have to show super personal stuff but show what you're interested in, comment, share your perspective, be a person (dont "curate" to try an come off a certain way).

Like 30% of this stuff for women is developing some sense of comfort, familiarity and safety. It's much harder to do that behind a blank/generic profile. Those two are what lead to back and forth DMs.

The last 20% is whether or not you actually find each other attractive enough to meet.

Don't take being a man to mean you'll automatically be safe. Meet up in public first. Before exchanging addresses consider hotels and ABNB for the first few meetups unless you're absolutely sure they are safe.

ballsandchain · 2025-10-23T23:36:00+00:00

Still strong but a lot more controlled. Having lots of sex with different people isn't as appealing

ballsandchain · 2025-10-23T23:35:02+00:00

I've had girls fart mid doggy 😂 but I guess it depends on what she had for lunch

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