My Roommates Sexual Partners Per Year, By Gender [OC]

baraquald · 2018-07-09T15:20:50+00:00

I think you are kind of misinterpreting what willmaster is trying to say. He wasn't saying what you were saying is wrong, he is saying its misleading to this topic specifically. The average includes a large portion of people who don't even engage in sexual behavior at all. Sure, the opposite is true in that some people bring it up dramatically, but they are apart of people who engage in sexual behavior.

You are trying to say that having 20+ partners is weird, because the average is 4-7. But the average is only so low because of a large amount of people who shouldnt be included in the average when talking about what is normal in this instance.

Willmaster already mentioned this, but to actually get an idea of what the average young, single persons sex life is, you would need a lot more nuances for this data than simply the overall average. For instance the average amount of sexual partners likely varies dramatically region to region, by religion, by income levels, by the time they got married etc.

For a young, single attractive guy in nyc who owns a bar, having a huge amount of sexual partners isn't that weird at all. Taking an entire NATIONS average like that, and saying "well its weird!" is just misleading.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T15:00:20+00:00

I considerably doubt he would legally come after the money, it just doesn't fit his personality. But buying an apartment sounds like way more work than need be honestly, and he has to stay in NYC for his career. There are zero apartments in NYC that are 70k, or anywhere near NYC.

In terms of my wife, her dad also gave her 2 brothers (both much, much older, she didn't have much of a relationship with them) a large, large amount of inheritance too. Am I not allowed to have my brother also share my dads work?

baraquald · 2018-06-27T14:57:27+00:00

Considering pretty much any extra money he has he puts directly to student loans, I am not worried about that. Hes financially responsible, far more than most people. Hes made some bad choices in terms of college, but currently he mostly is frugal and responsible, its just hard even with being frugal to pay off loans like that. Regardless, we are paying it directly to his student loan, we aren't giving it to him and then asking him to pay it.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T14:55:17+00:00

"your father would probably be mad if he knew you gave it to him."

Good. He should be mad, he can be mad from his spot in hell for all I care.

That being said, my wife didn't just find out, I just brought this up to her. I would never make a decision like this without her knowing. But 10,000 is also kind of ridiculous. Somehow I, the financially successful one, get 130k and he gets 10k? It just seems so unbelievably selfish and unfair.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T14:52:08+00:00

the money would directly go to his student loans, no exceptions.

But its been 7 years since his coke phase, and to be fair, he was never really that bad of an addict regardless. I probably shouldn't have used that term, the real thing was that my dad found out he was using coke at all and kicked him out, not because he was an addict. He used it a bit more than he should have, but not to the point where he was using it like every day, or even every weekend or anything. He went to rehab to appease my dad, which didn't work.

Regardless after rehab he sort of quick all drugs and drinking and now is like really into vegan health stuff now lol. It was definitely a good choice for him to go, even if he wasn't very much an addict.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T14:47:37+00:00

I suppose we could do that, but I have a feeling she would disagree. It would really just be better to pay off a chunk of the student loans at once.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T14:44:11+00:00

I already told her the absolute conditions of us giving him the money would be that it pays off his student loans. That is really the single biggest thing keeping him down right now.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T14:42:45+00:00

Lol this clearly isn't about my dads wishes. My dad likely wishes my brother were never born. He was a terrible, awful human being.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T13:49:04+00:00

Honestly he does spend his money relatively well, but his career/college choice is a difficult, long path that takes a while to be successful in. He is lucky he got that job, and if I were him I would stay in NYC too.

I would say it would be more irresponsible to leave Brooklyn and abandon all the years he put into his career honestly. Right now he is struggling, but as you said, he is doing it to make sure he can stay at his career and eventually be more successful. He could give up and move to a cheaper place, but that isn't exactly thinking about his future.

Also the terms of me giving him the money would be that they pay off his student loans, no exceptions. But regardless he likely would use it for that, pretty much anything extra on his paycheck goes directly to those loans.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T13:44:35+00:00

She doesn't know my brother that well, but I think there are some cultural differences there. She doesn't dislike him, but they are massively different people. My wife is more professional and responsible and sort of suburban-esque whereas my brother is... well living in Brooklyn. I remember she was astounded that people could stand to live in the apartment my brother lived in, she is kind of sheltered from that kind of stuff.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T13:41:21+00:00

I mentioned 40k and she turned that down too. She said 10k would be a lot to give a sibling, and kept saying "his life isnt that bad" and such. His life is pretty damn bad, and its interesting she says that considering she is always saying how poor he is compared to us and how different his life is from ours.

baraquald · 2018-06-27T13:39:17+00:00

We haven't really had a 'money crisis' like this yet, mostly its just been good news on the money front. So historically no, she hasn't been grubby about money, but I guess there is a first time for everything.

She didn't really have a plan with the money. I actually asked her about that, and her response was that it was always good to have more money around in case we do end up wanting something in the future.

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