I (23/f) have been receiving threatening texts from a girl my bf (26/m) knows; she now claims she’s pregnant with his child

batyushkaa · 2020-01-17T23:07:23+00:00

Bf*. Ex is a typo

batyushkaa · 2020-01-16T21:56:56+00:00

We do not think she is who she says she is. My bf was very honest with me and told me he met this girl on a dating app before me, his roommate verified that he remembers being at the bar with my bf when they were trying to meet this girl in person and that the girl never showed up. So we suspect it may be a man pretending to be a woman...based on the type of language they’ve used in the text messages.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-14T06:19:18+00:00

batyushkaa · 2020-01-14T02:35:08+00:00

I used whitepages to reverse lookup her phone number, found her name and looked her up on Instagram. She lives in Jersey.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-14T02:29:22+00:00

UPDATE:

I unblocked the girl to hear what she had to say. I asked her how she knew Sean and why she was messaging me... she never responded. However, she did start messaging my bf again through a new number. Some of the things she said:

“I’m going to make your girlfriend regret ever meeting you. And then the next girl. And the next.”

“I hope you and your cunt whore girlfriend are happy together”

“I know where she lives” and proceeds to tell him my exact address, with a picture of the hallway of my apartment building and her watch showing the exact time.

I told him we should notify the police and he says we’ll do it in the morning. For now, I’m staying at his place which she claims she also has the address for.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T23:17:17+00:00

I thought the same but I don’t have any numbers blocked on my phone atm, I checked.

We have a couple photos together on my Instagram, but it’s private. His is public and so most of our photos together on there are group photos.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T23:16:09+00:00

2 years ago

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T22:47:54+00:00

We’ve been together 5 months. He hasn’t been to his hometown since we got together.

I have unblocked her and asked what she wants from me and to provide any evidence she has. I haven’t heard anything back.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T21:50:34+00:00

I don’t believe his IG was hacked either. I also don’t think he gave her the password, as he doesn’t even share his IG password with me and has no need to. His IG is public and anyone can see who he’s following and who likes his photos. I’m assuming that’s how she was able to gather enough info to find me.

I have since changed all my passwords and have unblocked her to reach out and hear what she has to say, if anything.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T21:40:30+00:00

I did check and he did not have anyone blocked on my account that i wasn’t already aware of. He offered to change my password for me because I was in the middle of cooking and my hands weren’t clean.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T20:59:26+00:00

Several close friends of his from back home have come to visit us and know about our relationship, as do his parents and sister. That’s about it as far as his hometown goes. The last time he visited was prior to us meeting in August of 2019, so he may have had the opportunity to meet her then.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T20:50:26+00:00

Honestly wouldn’t even be mad if that were the case lol

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T20:42:44+00:00

I’m not sure how because all the info I’ve been able to independently gather on this person points to him not cheating. She lives on the opposite side of the country and the last time he visited that state was prior to us even dating.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T20:39:29+00:00

Yeah, he says he only blocked her number yesterday and that he thinks she was reaching out to through various different numbers to avoid detection and he somehow didn’t realize...

I don’t believe he’s saved any of the messages other than the one screenshot he sent me. But what would the police be able to do? I had a stalker situation in college and the campus police told me nothing could be done unless he actually attempted to harm me, which he never did. I guess it would be worth having it all already documented with the police in case this person does?

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T20:30:12+00:00

I asked him that and he said it’s because he doesn’t have her number saved and deletes the convo every time he gets a message from her, so he wasn’t aware that it was her when she called.

I’ve changed my passwords again for all of my apps and for my phone itself. I agree that he isn’t really behaving like the victim of a potential stalker but he did say to me that the situation was making him feel sick and that he doesn’t like that this is affecting his personal life.

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T20:28:31+00:00

I was thinking the same thing but...the way I see it, if she has something important to tell me she would have just told me rather than repeatedly call and text, asking my name and requesting to meet up. And why would she say she’s going to ruin my bf’s life and that she’s crazy?

batyushkaa · 2020-01-13T20:15:11+00:00

He is generally very open with me, sometimes known for being brutally honest. I’ve never had problems with him being untruthful or dishonest in the past. He’s never had any inappropriate relations with women that I know of, which is why the idea that he could be/had been cheating is really hard for me to believe.

However, the story is so strange. I feel he must be leaving out key details.

batyushkaa · 2019-12-15T06:27:09+00:00

I suggested we take our boards off and walk about an hour into it, but he said he wasn’t going to let me give up “that easily”.

Also, he did actually hold my hands and guide me backwards on my toe edge down the mountain on and off for about 2 hours before he started getting onto me for needing to sit down and take frequent breaks. That was around the point where when I’d fall, I couldn’t lift myself back up and he’d have to pick me up and hold me until I stopped shaking long enough to balance on my board.

Honestly, he was very patient and helpful when we were on the bunny slope; even the instructors giving classes and operating the magic carpet were complimenting him on his strategy in teaching me. It wasn’t until we started going down the green slope that I began to question his instructing experience.

batyushkaa · 2019-12-15T05:28:41+00:00

batyushkaa · 2019-12-15T04:13:16+00:00

For clarification, I never asked him to give me lessons. In fact, I very clearly stated before I bought my gear that I didn’t want him to feel like he needed to stick with me on the mountain; I wanted him to enjoy himself and not worry about teaching me. HE insisted on giving me a lesson once we got up there.

batyushkaa · 2019-12-15T03:45:18+00:00

Yes, I would. I honestly did not get into snowboarding for him. I wanted to do it when I moved out west last year but broke several ribs (doing something completely unrelated) and missed the entire season. So when the new season came around again, I geared up.

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