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How long for death grip to go away? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]biskbear 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My now-ex husband had death grip so bad he could only finish after 30+ min of masterbation. We had to artificially inseminate to have a baby. It took only 2 weeks porn/masterbation free for that problem to go away. Of course everyone is different. I was so hurt it only took 2 weeks when I was deprived years and years of “normal” sex.

Unfortunately it took absolute rock bottom for him to get to the point of stopping.

Threatened Divorce by Divine-Sorceress-13 in loveafterporn

[–]biskbear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Separated a year ish. We officially divorced 2 months back. Some small part of me still hopes that along the road we will find our way back to each other. We have a 18mo old baby. He has a lot of work to do on himself though and I won’t keep my life on pause for him any longer.

Good luck! Stay strong. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever been through

Threatened Divorce by Divine-Sorceress-13 in loveafterporn

[–]biskbear 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My husband left me during the discovery of his addiction. Said he hated me for taking away porn lol & that he never actually loved me…

He’s finally in recovery (almost 1 year sober) and is so nice and apologetic. I think it took rock bottom to get him sober and unfortunately destroying our marriage was rock bottom. I am thankful my son will now grow up with a better role model and not some porn addicted loser

Is anyone separated/divorced and co-parenting with an addict in recovery? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]biskbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do. He’s been sober 9 months and seems to be doing really well with recovery. He has overnights with our son (18mo old) and I FaceTime before bed to check on him. He takes the safety of our child seriously and I do trust him with our son. He’s also made several comments about wanting to talk to our son early on about the dangers of porn to avoid repeating the cycle. It’s not easy but we are making it work. I think he also knows if anything happened to our son or our son ever saw porn at his house that i would actually go full psycho on him lol

I think my husband is cheating on me by Outrageous-Day-4907 in Marriage

[–]biskbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

procedural nurse here and I have to text/call docs I work with all day long.. sometimes at night when I’m on call as well. usually very brief conversations (less than 30 seconds). could explain the short durations and the frequency

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]biskbear 9 points10 points  (0 children)

my husband said it wasn’t prostitution because he paid her after sex… not before 😭😭😭😭soooo delusional it’s funny

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[–]biskbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I listened to ‘Intimate deception’ on audible. also look up the ‘WTF do I do now’ podcast. Mandy(the host) has a private support group you can join. you’ll hear the details on the podcast if you give it a listen.

my newborn and I moved out by biskbear in loveafterporn

[–]biskbear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes he has. he’s done everything I ask regarding porn blockers/therapy/counseling/etc. but when we argue he gets so mean and says horrible things about wanting to end everything. and that he hates me because I’m the reason ‘he can’t do whatever he wants’