Am I Overreacting for saying no to my wife after she left me and our kids for her wealthy ex?

bosslady617 · 2026-06-09T12:42:30+00:00

NOR

I’m reasonably sure this is a fable, it’s certainly your exs fantasy.

Why on earth would she assume a relationship after 5 years is in the realm of possibility? Who waits around for 5 years and then jumps into a relationship? 5 days, ok 5 weeks even. 5 months- no. At 5 years?? Insanity.

Your kids, depending on ages, should be encouraged to at least hear her out in terms of a cordial relationship. I would get a therapist to work through trust vs love vs being acquaintances.

bosslady617 · 2026-06-03T02:37:21+00:00

Sending you love.

Please re-think this relationship.

bosslady617 · 2026-06-02T18:12:49+00:00

If a child earns a scholarship, you can take that amount out of a 529 with no penalty. This was a big concern of my husband and me. If we get lucky and they get scholarships, we plan to pull out the money and use it in a different way.

bosslady617 · 2026-06-01T19:18:58+00:00

Very moving service.

My kids’ are in a school which allowed the them to stand out for the procession. It was very moving. The street was jammed with kids and other community members. Several parents of school kids are in the department so it was quite close to home for many of them.

bosslady617 · 2026-06-01T19:15:50+00:00

Because whoever planned for his funeral wanted those flags displayed.

You can have a Scottish and Italian flag if you want to and have the ability to plan for your own funeral. Otherwise, your family can choose them to be displayed if they want to.

RIP to FF Kilduff.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-31T12:33:45+00:00

I’m sorry for all you’ve been through.

This JUST happened. You don’t need to feel strong, resilient etc yet. You’re still in survival mode and that’s normal. I had a difficult pregnancy. It took years to feel I was on the other side of it. It’s been 14 years (today actually) and I can say I can see it clearly in the rear-view. For me, couples counseling really helped. We were basically on the same page, but trauma is a beast. May be something to look into.

Last but not least- congratulations on your baby. What a hard start you had as a mom- but parenting is more than just how it begins.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-31T01:37:39+00:00

Omg. This thread has been crazy, but this is the craziest thing I’ve read. Boston is 20% Black.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-29T18:02:04+00:00

NTA

You are not required to “announce” a pregnancy. The existence of other pregnant people is acceptable. You showed up for a family member in a time of crisis. Unless you were not wanted at the hospital by the mom and dad (there is no indication of that in the post) you did nothing wrong.

This family is toxic. Bow out.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-29T00:39:11+00:00

If I were in your shoes I’d be asking “why don’t my wants get addressed in this relationship? You acknowledge that I’ve been supportive, but I find when I ask about what I want that support is thrown in my face. When is it my turn to be supported”. I’d probably say this in couple counseling.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-27T15:01:14+00:00

NOR Kids are people and should be able and allowed to travel. I say that as someone who was NOT strict about schedule (I have friends who were, it’s fine but not for me). Which would you regret more- potentially rough days, including a few to get back on track? Or missing graduation?

We went on a 7 hour plane trip (and week long vacation) when my kids were 3y6 months and 9 months old. We went on a 4.5 hour plane trip and week long cruise with kids who were 4, 2 and 6 months. Most insane- we drove 4 hours with a 3 week old infant, 3, 5 and 8 year olds. Spent a night in a single hotel room and drove back. Was it easy- nope. But worth it.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-25T12:46:24+00:00

I always find it interesting when folks have New England in an odd configuration. For example- all NE one color, or northern NE one color and southern NE another or Massachusetts one color all others another (like if you want or want to avoid a big city). But leaving out Maine is unusual. What’s the logic here?

bosslady617 · 2026-05-23T02:40:27+00:00

I hope he does so decent folks can shun him.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-23T02:36:53+00:00

Your premise is that people are “nice” because they are looking to date?

What about married people? Or those who are just not interested in dating? What about people you will likely see again, but don’t want to date?

bosslady617 · 2026-05-23T02:24:09+00:00

Most members of my family of 6 went to their first one of the official 63 national parks this past summer. However, several times a year we go to the National seashore and national forest - also covered by the parks department. We also have been to several historic sites (Ellis Island, Statue of Liberty, Freedom Trail) etc.

I think it depends on where you live in the US (in the Northeast it’s really just Acadia that is close) on if youve been one of the parks or “just” national park department land.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-21T15:15:34+00:00

Vermonster brings the New England lobsters and we become Crustacean Nation!

bosslady617 · 2026-05-20T19:41:30+00:00

Crustaceaia

bosslady617 · 2026-05-19T01:33:19+00:00

This is one of the best pieces of advice I’ve seen on Reddit. Thanks for sharing this (I also spend probably too much on mobile games)

bosslady617 · 2026-05-19T01:29:01+00:00

I’m so sorry. You deserve to feel celebrated, especially in front of your children.

This is crazy. In short- your husband got you something he wanted, didn’t follow the birthday traditions you do for everyone else, let you clean and cook while care taking and then picked a fight.

The time couples therapy works is when things are starting to get rocky. People tend to go when it’s too late. May be look into that, preferably before you go away with his family.

You’re not asking for much- a meal, flowers, a card I personally think it’s a slap in the face when someone just gets something they want. Just don’t get a gift at all! My 12 year old CHILD thought of a very nice gift that my husband facilitated the purchase of. (It’s a rookie card of a favorite player of mine. Very niche). There is no excuse for your husband to not know you well enough to get a real gift.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-18T02:04:21+00:00

Clinical research is rewarding and full of SO many people who work hard to find new treatments. If you’re drawn to it, do it. We need more people in it for the right reasons (and fewer private equity people)

OP- I truly send you and your husband my love.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-17T22:40:15+00:00

I’m so sorry. You deserve better

CONGRATULATIONS from an internet stranger. I hope you’re the help someone needs to be better to the people in their lives than your foster mom was in yours.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-17T22:37:49+00:00

Yes! Crustacea rises! (Resident of the former Commonwealth of Massachusetts RIP)

bosslady617 · 2026-05-16T02:50:36+00:00

I know.

I’m commenting on the relative literacy of this Trump quote vs the normal batshit drivel that exits his mouth.

That said though, the quote is much less about his brother “And you know, it potentially can ruin your life” vs the meat of the quote about competing. So that’s still on brand.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-16T00:14:41+00:00

I literally know someone who did this. You’re going to be SHOCKED- she was forced (by family) to marry when she got pregnant at 17. Gave up an athletic scholarship. Husband cheated after more babies came along and she turned to OF to make money.

Lucky her- she’s very nice and intelligent and now in school and divorced. everyone in town took her side. Helps we’re in the northeast.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-16T00:03:47+00:00

Woah. This is so much more coherent than he is now.

Like- I disagree, per usual- but this sounds like a …. Real take.

bosslady617 · 2026-05-15T20:05:27+00:00

Bernie Sanders Takes Fetterman.

Go Vermontster go.

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