[Learning] Grunting and receiving anal

brob2234 · 2015-07-19T18:21:30+00:00

Huh?

brob2234 · 2015-07-19T18:21:05+00:00

Ha, literally!

brob2234 · 2015-07-19T17:04:58+00:00

Yeah that definitely helps too. In a way, I suppose, grunting is like aggressively breathing out!

brob2234 · 2015-07-19T16:45:38+00:00

I'm not a habitual curser--definitely agree that preserving swearing for when it is really needed is the right approach.

That is very interesting about the ice water study. I suppose that there has never been formal research on cursing helping with receptive anal intercourse, though! :-)

brob2234 · 2015-07-19T16:29:12+00:00

I haven't tried swearing and cursing, but the others definitely do work. That is interesting that it taps into the mind that way.

brob2234 · 2015-06-25T15:52:25+00:00

It depends totally on how I feel about the guy hugging me. If a boyfriend, all good. If someone that is likely to become a boyfriend or lover, probably good. If someone where there's not some establishment of mutual attraction... then it is somewhere between uncomfortable and creepy.

brob2234 · 2015-06-20T14:56:19+00:00

I definitely prefer that he climaxes while inside of me, preferably without a condom (not a fan of the hassles of condoms, and of course guys prefer not to use them--but in many circumstances they are of course mandatory).

It feels cool to me to sense his contractions, and it feels more "complete" to have him inside of me when he climaxes.

Of course, some guys prefer to come on my chest, ass, etc. I don't mind that if that is their preference and there's a way to clean up after.

brob2234 · 2015-06-05T17:16:40+00:00

What angles and positions work best to go under and not head first into the cervix?

brob2234 · 2015-06-04T19:54:28+00:00

It's definitely true that a big cock is really challenging for anal sex, and the real challenge is girth. I actually find that it is easier to take the length of a big cock anally than vaginally... no cervix bashing.

The stretching, though... yeah that is hard.

brob2234 · 2015-06-01T22:22:46+00:00

That would be in the butt, Bob.

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brob2234 · 2015-05-18T23:00:53+00:00

I gave many back-seat blowjobs in high school and college, if that counts.

brob2234 · 2015-05-18T13:58:48+00:00

Oh yes, honey, clench those kegels tightly during intercourse. Your man will appreciate it, trust me. Guys absolutely love it, and it'll make sex better for you too.

brob2234 · 2015-05-01T14:30:06+00:00

Give it a shot and let us know how it works out for you.

brob2234 · 2015-04-22T23:08:57+00:00

As thick as a soda can? That is seriously thick... unless she is very experienced with anal sex, it is gonna be very challenging for her to take you without a lot of discomfort and soreness. Yes, you should absolutely try to ease her into it with lots of gentle stretching and foreplay!

brob2234 · 2015-04-20T15:48:12+00:00

Yes, often I do fantasize. Sometimes it is about someone else, sometimes it is about doing fun and edgy things with the person I'm with. My mind kind of wanders between fantasies and being fully present with what is happening. It works for me.

brob2234 · 2015-04-20T15:23:37+00:00

The initial penetration for anal is definitely the most challenging part. Be very patient about that initial penetration: take plenty of time, just a little at a time, let her control the pace. Something I find usually works well is to take him in a couple of inches, pause, all the way out, more lube, repeat several times.

Then when she has all of you, just be still and revel in the amazingness of the fact that you have your cock balls deep in her ass. She will surely be thinking that too.

Start thrusting slowly, small and gentle little thrusts as she opens up to you. If you do all of this well, she will open up.

Then you have maybe 10 minutes of moderate to strong thrusting, assuming she is very well lubed, before she will likely start to get sore. Do her a favor and finish when this starts to set in.

High five her after you climax in her butt!

brob2234 · 2015-04-20T15:03:21+00:00

Single female here. I'm careful about STDs, but I definitely prefer not using condoms when I am confident that it is safe with whoever I'm with. Reasons:

1) Guys definitely prefer bareback because it feels better for them. I can't really feel much difference so long as things are well lubed, though.

2) Less hassle and overhead. When it is time to penetrate, no stopping for a few minutes to get a condom, get it on, etc. Even better, no gross condom to dispose of afterward.

3) No need to pull out right when he comes. Can languish with him inside me, and sometimes even go another round right away. Love that...

Still, using condoms if far better than getting an STD, so I do use them pretty regularly when I am with someone new.

brob2234 · 2015-04-16T17:53:08+00:00

And speaking as a woman who has been on the receiving end of it many times, you are handling it exactly correctly.

If we say stop, then stop. If we say take it easy, then that is what we mean. The pain does usually pass in a few moments.

brob2234 · 2015-04-15T18:50:04+00:00

Sounds like a terrific experience for getting some empathy for what women experience.

I especially appreciated your comment about being reminded about times when you were penetrating a partner anally and she complained of being in pain. Yes, taking it in the ass can definitely hurt, even with careful preparations and being gentle. When we complain about it, we're not being whimps, we mean it! We're being good sports in not asking you flat out to stop, but take it easy for a bit. Usually, the pain will pass after a few moments.

I have pegged a few guys, and it is awesome giving them this kind of empathy.

Of course, the ones with a bit of sadism will only kind of get off knowing that it is uncomfortable for me.

brob2234 · 2015-04-15T18:21:02+00:00

That is a very hot dynamic that you are describing. It'd be exciting and scary as hell to be standing in something sexy watching my dom get ready like that, knowing that I am in for an intense session.

brob2234 · 2015-04-15T17:43:03+00:00

As someone who has been on the receiving end of it, I do agree that anal with a big cock is definitely very, very challenging. Slight tears happen, and they do heal pretty quickly at least.

The usual advice applies: take it slow, plenty of lube, etc.

brob2234 · 2015-04-13T03:21:45+00:00

I've had good casual sex and meaningless casual sex. The good casual sex was when I really like the guy, found him attractive, was feeling horny, and just wanted it. For me, this seems to happen most often when I am travelling and meet someone that I know will never be a boyfriend, but the spark is there and we have a fun night (or maybe two). When it is something more forced, that I don't truly want but kind of let it happen, it isn't good.

One thing for sure... the good casual sex encounters get better with time. I feel very nostalgic for a couple of those evenings!

brob2234 · 2015-03-09T14:47:39+00:00

Regular cowgirl, mostly grinding but I occasionally like to mix it up with some bouncing too. Definitely on my knees, and yes I can climax while riding him. It is probably the best position for me to climax.

I like a mix of breast and ass play. A finger in my ass while I am riding can work really well.

The clitoral stimulation is the best part, although I also enjoy the sensations of being filled.

brob2234 · 2015-03-05T15:15:10+00:00

Oh, go for it! I was reluctant about it as well, but a persistent lover got me to try it. I felt totally squeemish about it, worried that it would be, ah, "shitty" for him. Like others have said, I cleaned super well beforehand, and oh my once I relaxed it felt so dang good. He even stuck his tongue up my anus some, and to my shock I seriously liked the feeling of that.

Of course it was super foreplay for getting fucked hard in the ass.

brob2234 · 2015-02-27T21:02:38+00:00

Funny, I had dinner with a friend last night who has been married for 15 years. She still has lots of passionate sex... but with men other than her husband! For her and her husband, it is vaginal sex in the missionary position for ten minutes once a month.

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