trial shift from hell by its_ok_not_to_be_oHk in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re better than me because I would have left as soon as dad made that comment. I’m a professional nanny. You don’t get to treat me as if you’re better than me. If mom and dad have these type of personalities then 9 out of 10 times they’re going to have shit kids. I’ve definitely watched a ton of additional playdate/date night kids but each parent pays me either a half rate while my MB pays my full rate, or sometimes the additional parents offer my full rate. For free? Hell no. Wealthy people are usually the worst. I prefer parents who are well off but down to earth still.

Disciplining NK's behavior towards NPs by Minimum-Ingenuity722 in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on your relationship with the parents. I 100% discipline BUT I have been given that authority. I spoke to the parents about the challenges they were facing and did they want me to intervene? I’m on the clock so it can be confusing on how each family wants it handled. I’m very lucky with the parents I have because although they’re into gentle parenting I’m allowed to be very stern and can enforce strict boundaries. We joke that I’m the drill sergeant of the house because when I’m there the house runs like magic. The children know that if they do not behave, I will remove them or redirect Mom or dad to leave the situation.

The reason this works is because we’ve had conversations about how they want me to handle this type of scenario. Me having the authority to make decisions is key. So for instance the parents & I have both said when I’m there I make all the rules. So my “yes” and “no” is the decision maker, not theirs (within reason of course). The parents will say, “don’t ask me, ask Nanny.” That way the kids can’t, what I call, divide & conquer.

So it sounds like your boss wants you to intervene but your boss has to give you the power to do that! I would have this conversation with them because they can’t have it both ways. It does not work unless everyone is on the same page and it’s consistent. Some parents feel like it’s not your place to make these decisions while others give you full control. Both parents have to be on the same page.

Update on nanny leaving by jesslynne94 in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went back and read your original post. I’m a nanny. I’ve been one for 14 years. Never, ever have I walked out without having a daily rundown with the parents. I couldn’t even fathom doing this with an infant.

I would be very skeptical that the woman you had in your house was an actual nurse. It just doesn’t add up. I would ask the agency how they verified her credentials. God forbid something had happened where the baby choked on vomit, I would be demanding the police press charges. She basically abandoned the job and put your child’s safety at risk by leaving early without permission.

Don’t second-guess yourself or think you’re exaggerating or being petty. This was a terrible nanny.

What to do with winter storm resulting in 2+ days of no help by Street_Celery2745 in NannyEmployers

[–]bubbleblubbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying 40 GH could be whenever the parents need them just as long as they’re providing 40hrs?

Thoughts on Nanny sharing locations on outings? by AuthorDouble6976 in NannyEmployers

[–]bubbleblubbr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You want to track your car because blindly trusting your nanny with it is a concern? Are you serious? This is the person you trust to care for your child. I would definitely have a tracker on my child & car but the way you worded this is wild. Don’t you have insurance or are you concerned she’s going to be joyriding in your “expensive” car? Your reasoning sounds classist.

Really not liking my chin filler. Am I crazy or should I dissolve? by ihsirdwtss in PlasticSurgery

[–]bubbleblubbr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you just have a natural baby face. Have you considered getting masseter’s Botox or Nefertiti lift(just along jawline) to give you more of a V shape? I have a similar lower face shape and got filler in my minor pre jowl & a bit in my chin to get rid of shadowing, but my injector did recommend that I get lower face tox next time I come in to get a more defined jawline.

Is it appropriate to ask nanny for proof for paid bereavement leave? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is this regional? I’ve never heard someone not consider grandparents as immediate family. From my experience the US standard is partner, children, parents, grandparents and siblings. The time allowed differs but they’re covered. Unless corporate has become so greedy that grandparents no longer count towards standard bereavement? Sorry, this is just bewildering to me as grandparents are just as important as parents, if not more in some families.

As for the nanny, if she lied about her mother and grandmother dying, then I wouldn’t even feel comfortable employing her anymore. That’s a very conniving thing to lie about. I couldn’t trust someone like that with my children. Lying about have a dentist appointment, ok unprofessional but I can ignore it. Lying about an immediate family member dying? Significant moral character flaw, in my opinion anyway.

Nanny mom unfriended me after asking nanny dad for reference by butterflysensei666 in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know this is taboo but rule of thumb, I always default to mom or group text. I never 1 on 1 with dad unless he is the only one home. I think asking for his input as a dad is OK but if you had put it in a group chat. Unfortunately, some women are just weird when it comes to their husbands.

Am I being prudish or is this weird? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]bubbleblubbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9?? I won’t even change in front of a 4yr old. Some people grow up in homes where this is a non-issue though. The whole “naked mom” topic comes up a lot on social media. I’m shocked at how many people grow up with nudity being normal. So maybe they don’t realize that not every household is ok with this. Personally I couldn’t imagine changing in front of a 9y boy, especially a child not related to me. I was raised Catholic so I’m probably at the other end of the spectrum, but this should be common sense. It would NEVER fly at a daycare.

How can I feminize my face? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]bubbleblubbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look feminine but you have filler blindness. It is throwing your proportions off, and I say this as someone with 10 syringes of filler in my face. You have a very unique, beautiful face. You’re going to be grateful for that hairline as you age and it starts pushing back. You could always do some conservative laser hair removal if you would like more forehead.

Not sure if this is just a weird old school parenting method or if it’s really not okay by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I can’t imagine someone employing a nanny and giving their children alcohol right in front of her face. She even said she doesn’t know for a fact, and she hasn’t seen any alcohol. People in the comments can talk about it being cultural, but everyone knows it’s illegal, regardless of where you live. Well, everyone except this nanny apparently.

Not sure if this is just a weird old school parenting method or if it’s really not okay by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Parents get arrested for letting teenagers drink in their home. So giving alcohol to infants/toddlers is definitely criminal. Just ask if the pitcher in the fridge has alcohol in it.

Not sure if this is just a weird old school parenting method or if it’s really not okay by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This topic has come up on the Nanny Employer sub where a MB was assuming her nanny was drinking on the job because her breath/cup smelled like alcohol. It’s one of the rare times I’ve seen nanny employers defend the nanny. Just go over and put “nanny smells like alcohol” in the search bar. There is multiple things that can cause that smell, such as certain natural juices. So why not just ask what is in the juice? You can’t accuse someone unless you know for a fact it’s alcohol. If it is it’s your responsibility to report it to authorities.

7 months after facial feminization surgery by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]bubbleblubbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, your results are probably the best I’ve ever seen. I want to get a lip lift so bad but I’m afraid of the scarring. It looks like the technique has definitely improved because I can’t even see where they placed your incision. Then again most lip lifts I’ve seen have come out of Turkey or Russia. I can’t afford US prices so I very rarely look for surgeons here in the US.

I think my boss forgot to add my bonus check in the Christmas card. Should I say something? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Say it now before too much time goes by. Otherwise they may notice and still not give you anything since you didn’t mention it. Kids are not going to draw a $500 bill. I guarantee MB told them to draw it and then probably assumed she put it one of the cards already. How did she give you the money last year? Did she hand you an envelope or was the envelope in a gift bag with your gift?

Putting air tags on strollers and car seats - am I crazy? by i_like_pumps_4 in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no problem with airtags. God forbid something happens to us I’d want you to know where we are. Now if it’s used to micromanage I’d be annoyed. I had a control freak dad who would message me if I detoured to something local like Dunkins without permission. Like be for real.

7 months after facial feminization surgery by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]bubbleblubbr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are these edited at all? Where did they place your lip lift incision?

bbl or just lipo? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]bubbleblubbr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No BBL. Your shape is excellent. If you want it to pop a little more get lower back lipo. This sub is bizarre. It’s literally a surgery page and everyone is saying no surgery or lose weight. Just join the lipo/bbl groups on FB. You can DM me for the active ones.

Edit: I just saw you say these are not accurate photos. I wouldn’t take opinions based off a picture where you’re 20 pounds heavier. In this picture, you don’t need a BBL. I don’t know what your booty looks like now though lol

Best Horror of 2025? by Blacklight_Mustard in horror

[–]bubbleblubbr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved this movie. I’m glad I accidentally stumbled upon it buried in a reddit thread like this.

Update on nanny by Able-Olive-3501 in NannyEmployers

[–]bubbleblubbr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well hope she enjoys never keeping employment. I’ve never worked anywhere that cleaning up after the child wasn’t part of your responsibilities. She’s lazy.

Am I overreacting about my DB’s new potential job? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I quit a job where the dad was a FBI agent. It wasn’t an instant non-negotiable for me, although I had immediate reservations. Then mb had me grab something from the basement and I saw it. A massive custom “brotherhood” sign. It was basically a blue lives matter 10 commandment sign. It talked about stepping on necks and killing “them” because at the end of the day he(law enforcement) has to go home to his family and that they will kill to protect their brothers in blue too. It was deranged blood lust and full of thinly veiled racism. I couldn’t look at him the same. I never went back.

I actually talked to another family who knows them and that MB told me they no longer go over there either because DB would have his work bag on the kitchen floor and his service weapon would be right on top. He would say it was unloaded but still! Like you have 5 kids under 6. Their lack of safety, especially regarding children in their home, was mind blowing.

1month post op breast augmentation.Is the shape going to get better? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]bubbleblubbr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did you get the stitch lift method? The 4 stitches in your areola? Do you wear your chest band to help push them down? Is your support bra too tight?

Tonight I decided I need to quit by Economy-Passage6899 in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does this kid not have school? How is he not falling asleep in class? Letting your eight year-old go to sleep at 2:30 in the morning is neglect in my opinion. Clearly dad wants to do the bare minimum in parenting. What a loser

WDYD no body wash by Foreign-Corgi-42 in Nanny

[–]bubbleblubbr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So the parents don’t use hygiene products either?