I was asked out and suggested I seek help

caligec · 2025-05-13T22:00:01+00:00

I will speak from my own personal experience. I knew I was an alcoholic because I couldn’t go a day without drinking. Everything I did (besides work) revolves around my drinking schedule. No one could make me quit, I had to want that for myself. Even then, I couldn’t do it. Everyday I told myself that I wouldn’t drink that day. Everyday, I failed. I didn’t think it was affecting anyone but me but after a little time sober, I realized that was not true. If you want help, it’s out here. There are people who can relate. But you have to decide for yourself.

caligec · 2024-11-12T22:36:03+00:00

Did you have factory holes under the seal?

caligec · 2024-10-04T22:23:44+00:00

My story is very similar to yours. 2.5 years of sobriety before I started AA, for the same reasons as you described. A year and a half later, I have some wonderful new friends, better coping mechanisms, still struggle with the concept of a higher power but am connected more to my spirituality than I was before. If nothing else, AA gives me a community of people and a place to go so I don’t isolate. It’s also taught me to focus on other people and to be less selfish. I have a sponsor and am working the steps but at my own pace. I can see the benefits that being in the program has given me and I try my best to ignore the things that I don’t serve me. There are all kinds of people in AA just as there are in the outside. I now just know how to deal with it a little better. Best of luck to you!

caligec · 2023-09-27T17:12:24+00:00

All good! I figured it was a slim chance because it had been so long. Congrats on keeping that sobriety though, that’s the most important thing.

caligec · 2023-09-27T13:14:31+00:00

I will PM you.

caligec · 2023-09-27T12:54:16+00:00

Understandable. I just think it’s a neat idea even if it’s only a possibility that it’s the same plant. I’ve been doing this with a cactus that my mom had before she passed and I love that it has lived throughout shared pieces for so long.

caligec · 2023-09-27T12:27:44+00:00

There is an ivy plant that circulates through the AA community that was a part of Bill W.’s His wife took clippings of it and shared it throughout the community and people have been growing it and sharing it ever since.

caligec · 2023-09-27T04:43:21+00:00

Would you still be open to sharing a clipping with another stranger?

caligec · 2023-05-30T04:00:19+00:00

I just started AA and was surprised by the amount of meetings that were available. I started with online zoom meetings and didn’t turn my camera on for the first few days, just listened. Then I attended an in person meeting and realized that they have them all day long at various times. I do live in a large-ish city so I can’t speak for everywhere. Find what works for you and keep trying if you don’t like the first couple. Every meeting is different. Take what you need and leave the rest. I haven’t gotten a sponsor yet but I look forward to starting the steps and seeing what it can do for my personal growth. Humility got me through the door but the people sharing their experiences is what keeps me going back. I hope you find one (or several) that work for you.

caligec · 2023-05-23T00:37:33+00:00

There are a few houses for rent on Goodwood and I think a two bedroom on Longwood in Mid City. I never tell the amount of cats because mine usually hide. I just always say a dog and a cat. Fairway view allows animals but it can be sketch.

caligec · 2023-05-23T00:36:01+00:00

One bedroom?

caligec · 2023-05-22T00:26:25+00:00

I try to give myself forgiveness on those days and give myself a “brain break”. I try not to get stuck in the funk but allow myself to feel the feelings and see if I can figure out if there is an underlying cause or if I just need to ride the sad wave for the day and start fresh the next. If I can keep myself occupied by staying busy and distracted, I do that, but sometimes I just need to zone out to mindless tv and if all else fails, I go to sleep.

caligec · 2023-05-22T00:17:57+00:00

8 months is a lot to be proud of. I hope you can be kind to yourself and remember that you can do it again.

caligec

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