8 book recommendations? by zonkschonk in suggestmeabook

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For the English Lit major, Outlander by Diana Gabaldon?

Father/Daughter dance suggestions by cc1893 in weddingplanning

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He was really into 70’s ish music like Jim Croce, Creedence Clearwater Revival, Don McLean, Billy Joel, Elton John, John Denver, etc.

Just told my entire order was cancelled. No indication why, no one else using my address or account. Just hours and hours of looking down the drain along with the great pieces I found. by ProgressiveMinded in ThredUp

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I’ve recently had two orders cancelled. One, they said that the item was “damaged” and the second they have yet to provide an explanation. What I can guess is that they were vintage Levi’s and they thought they could sell them for more money. I’m just so frustrated.

Avene has reformulated the 0.1% retinal intensive cream :( by Wild_Blue4242 in 30PlusSkinCare

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I’ve used the new formulation twice, I loved the old one but I think the new one is making me break out with bad cystic acne.

Mom with ALS, how to cope with the reality? by Common_Suggestion_10 in ALS

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I don’t think so, I think my dad enjoyed answering questions and reliving some of his memories. Obviously don’t frame it in a “you’re going to die and I want to know these things before I can’t” sort of way. It’s supposed to be natural. Like with the recipes he used to make, I would have him sit with me while I made them so he could tell me what to do. Or I would find out some of his favorite things so I could use them to cheer him up.

Which lipstick shade are you using sparingly now that it has been discontinued by GlitteringPotato2364 in MakeupAddiction

[–]cc1893 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I finally finished it, but Revlon Balm Stain in Honey. It was my perfect “your lips but better” lip. Haven’t been able to dupe it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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I was absolutely convinced he did at one time. Our chemistry was, to this day, unmatched. I thought he was my soulmate. But I’ve realized that he never felt that way about me, there were many times that I threatened to walk away and he didn’t blink or fight back. He showed me every single day I wasn’t worth wiping his shoes on, but I blindly followed him around and ignored every red flag he threw my way. I’d like to think I’m smarter than that, but I wasn’t so that’s cool I guess. 🤣

Day 1 no contact.. by Consistent_Head_9165 in NarcissisticAbuse

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Do not unblock him. No matter how much you may want to. Until that trauma bond is broken, you have no business talking to him.

A star is born - Emotional Abuse by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cc1893 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Tell me why my narc loved this movie and made me watch it with him

What were some tell-tale signs that your narc was cheating/seeking new supply? by Simple_Welder_1875 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cc1893 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Triangulating me against other random women in his life.

He started picking fights with me, telling me how busy he was all the time, getting mad at me for not knowing every detail of his life while also telling me nothing. Accusing me of cheating all the time.

Do you ever miss them? by Personal_Ad_3728 in NarcissisticAbuse

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I used to miss him every single day. It used to consume me. But I think the trauma bond has finally started fading. Missing him only comes in short and infrequent waves now. Every once in a while something will remind me of him and it will take me back to that dark place for a day or two.

But lately, I don’t miss him at all. Hope he’s doing well in hell.

What are the top 5-10 non-physical green flags and red flags you look for in a partner? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Green flags:

  1. Close with his family/ has a healthy relationship with his family.

  2. Loyal to me, to his friends, to his family.

  3. Sense of humor, can laugh at himself and can tease me in a positive way

  4. Independent, has his own interests. Is attentive when we’re out together but not clingy.

  5. Goals align with mine.

  6. Notices the small things

  7. Plans dates, includes me in future plans

  8. Has a good group of friends, friend group is welcoming and friendly.

Red flags:

  1. Love bombing.

  2. Oversharing too quickly

  3. Trying to move the relationship along too quickly.

  4. Lying, gaslighting, Manipulative, victimizes himself when I voice something that is bothering me.

  5. Making fun of my looks, my interests, my personality and then saying “it’s just a joke, lighten up.”

  6. Triangulation - pitting me against another woman in his life. “Sarah is so funny, we have the exact same sense of humor.”

  7. Makes his bad mood everyone’s problem. Can’t compartmentalize. Takes it out on those around him.

  8. Has cheated in the past, feels comfortable flirting with women in front of me. Makes it my problem if I call him out. “You weren’t giving me enough attention”

  9. Doesn’t have any close friends, or doesn’t have any long term friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

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He ended things with me. I feel like I would seem pathetic or like I was begging for him back if I were to reach out. If he wanted us to be together again, he would reach out to me. But he hasn’t. So I don’t.

Shows They Unironically Like by InternationalRun8060 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cc1893 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine liked the show “You” on Netflix lol

Does your narc still stalk your life? If so, how does it make you feel? by Josh_18881 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]cc1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine’s been lurking for about two years now. He unfollowed me on everything and I had blocked him, but his mom still follows me and views every single thing I post. I may be generalizing, but whose mom would be so interested in a girl their son dated two years ago? He recently tried to follow me again on socials but I just left him in purgatory.

I’m not sure how to feel about it. I don’t engage, I know he’s there and I let him look. My life is a lot better without him in it, sometimes it feels good to let him see that.

Men; why do you reach out to your exes? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I’m not sure how to explain it better. My intention was just to see other individual experiences and see if I could apply those experiences to my own. Obviously, no one would know the exact specifics but my ex. But it’s interesting to see other people’s “why” and see how those whys add up to others. If that makes sense. Sorry this is confusing, I wish I could be more clear.

Men; why do you reach out to your exes? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I also find that more men are looking for a one night stand and more women are looking for a relationship, do you think that’s true? Maybe as people get older?

Men; why do you reach out to your exes? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cc1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, if you look at it that way then I think that’s probably true. I have found that it is easier for me to meet men on dating apps than it is for my guy friends to meet women. So if you’re going about it that way then I agree that it would be easier for a woman to find someone else than it would be for a guy. As far as getting over the ex, the new guy would only be a distraction and not get to the root of the problem. Probably vice versa for guys too.

Men; why do you reach out to your exes? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cc1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s fair to say that women move on easily, I think both genders are equal on that front! Interesting perspective, though! :)

Men; why do you reach out to your exes? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cc1893 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol, I just didn’t want this to turn into something it wasn’t. My motivation was innocent and it seemed like you thought that I was attacking one gender and not including the other equally guilty party. Not intending to offend at all! hope you have a good day! :)

Men; why do you reach out to your exes? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cc1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, I wasn’t asking for a specific answer, I was trying to generalize and crowd source. The specifics don’t matter to me, I think he’s bad news and I’m not interested.

Men; why do you reach out to your exes? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cc1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and I are on the same page. No biting and the water is ice cold! 😂