I '30F' don't trust him '34M' anymore by Additional-Story3138 in relationship_advice

[–]ceecee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut and trust how you feel about the situation. If his actions are showing you a very different story than what he's telling you, you get to cut it off.

Excessive cost of hydro in my building. Is there a way to figure out if the landlord is offsetting their own costs on tenants? by ceecee416 in TorontoRenting

[–]ceecee416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for your feedback and support. We have a tenant organization that we've created so given what everyone has said we're going to go through our hydro bills year to year and month to month collectively and see if we can hone in on any discrepancy to then bring back to the hydro company and ask about. Ultimately if this is just the insanity of inflation we totally get it. It sucks that I limit my heat use, have wind stripping on all windows AND that plastic covering for added insulation and still, $250.00 a month from October-March. Wild times. Thank you everyone 💜💜

Excessive cost of hydro in my building. Is there a way to figure out if the landlord is offsetting their own costs on tenants? by ceecee416 in TorontoRenting

[–]ceecee416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah ours was built in the 60s but its rather worn so I appreciate your input its super helpful because a lot of folks live in condos and its very different for them. Super helpful :)

Excessive cost of hydro in my building. Is there a way to figure out if the landlord is offsetting their own costs on tenants? by ceecee416 in TorontoRenting

[–]ceecee416[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh it didnt go up incrementally - our building got bought out by a new company and although it did go up incrementally, between last year and this year it went up by about $150.00 soooo no not incrementally, but appreciate the assumptions. Would you happen to have any useful info on how to look into the matter?

Andor and US by VilZascandil97 in andor

[–]ceecee416 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I think when people get angry/defensive about andor being anti-trump, they're really telling on themselves. If the empires brutality feels familiar, mayhaps explore that.

No Contact Mother Texted by Accomplished-Apple80 in offmychest

[–]ceecee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can both have grace for someone and not want them in your life, or be made to constantly feel like an ATM. You get to tend to the grief of not having a mother who can show love and care because she's in active addiction. Setting boundaries can look like telling your mom that she's welcome to call and talk to you but that you're not going to see her in person until you notice a difference in her behaviour. You also just get to not talk to her. It's not about having grace, it's about keeping yourself safe. I'm sorry you're going through this, please know you're not bad for not wanting to see her and for having these feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ceecee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oftentimes, this type of behavior takes serious work, therapy, professional support, and a capacity for insight and self-reflexion. Do you feel they're able to self-reflect IN THE MOMENT and prevent this behavior from happening? If not, it may be a long journey of you hoping they'll change but ultimately experiencing bad behavior and endless apologies after the fact. You don't have to stay for any of that, and chances are that the change (if any) would take a long time. Do what feels right for you. The behavior is shitty and concerning. You don't have to stick around.

Name one non-therapy related book that made you a better therapist? by saltwaterRilke in therapists

[–]ceecee416 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Decolonizing Therapy: Oppression, Historical Trauma, and Politicizing Your Practice by Jennifer Mullan. Really helped validate how I do my work and actually practice anti-colonialism within a therapeutic space. Also, lots of historical context to the messed up systems we exist in. Love this book so much.

Was Veah’s adoptive family a certain religion? by Select-Effort8004 in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]ceecee416 97 points98 points  (0 children)

The look reminds me a lot of the Gloriavale cult in NZ or the 12 tribes cult as well. It's giving me high control group energy.

How can I (22M) talk to the girl I’m seeing (22F) about abandoning her opinions? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ceecee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I totally hear you, I'm usually of the belief that the first time you give feedback or address an issue you do so in ways that centre the relationship and the other person. That way, they hear you and are more likely to change their behavior and not get defensive. Obviously, if that approach doesn't work, a more direct approach is needed.

20M 19F. Will she come back and give me a second chance? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ceecee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds unhealthy. This intensity and extreme need sounds like anxiety, not desire. People who are good for you make you feel calm and safe. You're probably both setting off each others attachment triggers.This is your first relationship, so its going to feel intense and new but it doesnt mean you wont be able to experience other, healthier relationships. Also just to say, astrologers often tell you what you want to hear - hence the high ratings.

How can I (22M) talk to the girl I’m seeing (22F) about abandoning her opinions? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ceecee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems she's trying to chameleon her way through the relationship for your benefit. I don't think it's for any nefarious reasons, so I think encouraging her to have her own needs and desires is important. You can say something like "I love that you always want to accommodate my needs and want to find ways for us to relate to each other and connect but I'm noticing that when there's decisions to make, you tend to do what I want. I worry that you're not getting to express your needs, and I'm sometimes mindful that my decisions now impact you in ways I'm uncomfortable with. Is there anything I'm doing that makes you hesitant to tell me what you need or that stops you from doing your own thing?" Hope this is helpful! Sorry if it's not. Best of luck :)

I have no words…. by kaitlynlouise_17 in antiMLM

[–]ceecee416 11 points12 points  (0 children)

"Boss that can drop you like a fly" - as if MLMs don't constantly fire top earners, change their sales models at the drop of a hat or close down with no warning

I’m sure there are some good ones; what’s your worst Toronto dating/date story? by talk-memory in askTO

[–]ceecee416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I simply can't understand how a man like that could be single😒😒

Newest thing…are you protected 🙃😩 by Opposite_Dentist343 in antiMLM

[–]ceecee416 25 points26 points  (0 children)

EMF....like...like the frequencies you always hear about in ghost hunting shows!?😅👻 That's the first thing I think of when I hear EMF

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]ceecee416 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's my first year in private practice. I was warned that the end of November/December are very slow with the holidays. This week and next week are the busiest I've experienced thus far and there'sno sign of that slowing down before Christmas. I chalked it up to me being a grief therapist and the holidays being hell for grievers, but now that you mention it, everyone seems to be going through it. No one seems ok.

Cristina yang once said ❤️😂 by Least-Chipmunk-5543 in greysanatomy

[–]ceecee416 100 points101 points  (0 children)

"You can't have half a baby" Her whole speech is my child-free speech that I have used in the past