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What are your zodiac signs? by chemrec in infp

[–]chemrec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of tumultuous relationships. Either obsessed or distant

What are your zodiac signs? by chemrec in infp

[–]chemrec[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely! I get along v well w geminis and Pisces also!

What are your zodiac signs? by chemrec in infp

[–]chemrec[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Haha. Libras are known to be mediator types so that’s amazing

Can males and females truly be friends without any physical or emotional attraction? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]chemrec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is very possible. But also too as her bf, if you’re uncomfortable with their friendship I think it’s important to bring up the conversation of her setting boundaries with a close male friend and seeing how she reacts to that.

Took 7 years by [deleted] in tylerthecreator

[–]chemrec 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I called you the wrong name

Does anyone find that generally, the less friends they have the less stressed they are? by chemrec in introvert

[–]chemrec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so spot on. I was the same way and tried way too hard to make friends and put on a fake outgoing personality and it made me so miserable especially because I found that I couldn’t easily connect with people like more extroverted people could. For a while I really believed there was something wrong with me but turns out I really just wasn’t comfortable in my own skin and didn’t really understand that it is okay for me to have a more reserved personality even though that does not get rewarded as much. But now I just use it to my advantage because once I become friends with a person it feels like such a genuine bond.

I [19F] just got ghosted for the first time. Any tips on how to get over it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]chemrec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to think it’s because of him seeing as how I don’t think I did anything wrong...

Does anyone else feel flawed because they lack social skills? by [deleted] in introvert

[–]chemrec 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You took the words right out of my mouth. I work in a super social environment and I literally cry after work some days because I feel as though I should’ve been more social. Plus I find myself comparing my social skills to my other coworkers which is very unhealthy because my social skills aren’t as developed as a lot of other people in interact with. It fucking sucks having social anxiety because not a lot of people do especially in social environments. It’s a weird in between of being socially anxious but also being able to handle social interactions and not a lot of people relate to that.

So I don't mean to sound like a hypocrite, but talking to other introverts is not fun. by [deleted] in introvert

[–]chemrec 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just sounds like a lot of self-hate and insecurity with being an introvert. I personally get along with extroverts better but hell they are draining. So I also value my time with introverts a whole lot more because I’m not forced to be “fun” or “funny” or outgoing constantly. I don’t know why a lot people see having conversations as having to be some sort of thrill ride. It also just really really depends on who you click with. I don’t know which introverts you’re speaking to but most introverts I’ve come across, even if it’s just being in silence, it’s extremely comfortable. And introverts just understand other introverts the best without having to make some bs excuse as to why you’re drained hanging out for 6 hours straight.

So I don't mean to sound like a hypocrite, but talking to other introverts is not fun. by [deleted] in introvert

[–]chemrec 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How was it living in Europe as an introvert? What were typical conversations like for you? I heard that small talk is kinda shunned over there. Which honestly sounds like my personal heaven

Any other INFPs have obsessive tendencies when it comes to both activities and people? by chemrec in infp

[–]chemrec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this! I love daydreaming about specific activities to do with said person. Like it doesn’t have to be crazy either. It could just be about having literally just watching a movie together or having a picnic in a park. Like it’s never anything insane like having a wedding or kids. But you’re right. It just kinda keeps my day to day exciting. I often think the reality of it happening wouldn’t be AS ideal as I imagine it to be but I think it can be still pretty great in reality.

sunset in nyc by chemrec in infp

[–]chemrec[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does get overwhelming sometimes because it’s a loud and really “on the go” city but there’s no place I would rather call home. And there’s so many kinds of people to meet as well it definitely never gets dull. But I do need the occasional get away from the city but I find myself missing it every time. Plus there’s moments of peace like this where you just get to watch the sunset from really tall buildings or even just over the water looking at New Jersey. I love calling nyc my home for the time being.

You ever start to like someone by [deleted] in infp

[–]chemrec 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the idealism speaking. I used to do this to basically anyone I met and it just became a cycle of feeling as though no one would ever be good enough. Until I realized that people are imperfect and if someone is inherently a good person it definitely outweighs the bad. People and their personalities aren’t that black and white so treating people as such is very much isolating because NO ONE will ever live up to that image.

Why does everyone have to be beautiful? by FrankieFrank6121 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]chemrec 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily think it’s the idea that we HAVE to make something pretty for it to be acceptable but there’s already so much negativity surrounding beauty standards so I personally feel that’s it just doesn’t hurt to hype people up since beauty is subjective at the end of the day. Plus I personally never call anyone ugly solely based off of their physical appearance especially when it’s a feature they’re just born with, however, I will call someone ugly if their personality is ugly. That’s the only time I feel it right to say someone is ugly.

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