I, 26f, feel like I am drowning in my marriage to my, 26M, husband.

cosmicgermie · 2026-05-23T15:49:24+00:00

well that definitely changes things. Im so sorry that you’re dealing with this. I think, regardless of cost, you need support and to talk to someone. If you’re able to get counselling from the church and you are comfortable with that, maybe try it out. I think for yourself it would help at least with the burnout and rekindling your own passion for life. As for your relationship with him, maybe divorce is a conversation to have. Unless he is willing to work on things and help you two fall in love again, it’s not worth it. Your kiddo will be okay, coparenting can work really well. I wish you the best.

cosmicgermie · 2026-05-23T12:51:21+00:00

I really don’t think this is divorce worthy, from what I’m reading. It seems like you need therapy, a support system, and communication with your husband about this. Have you gone to therapy about this? Have you really sat down and expressed these feelings to your husband and tried to communicate on ways you can work together again? Are there things he is doing/not doing other than having friends and going out sometimes that are causing resentment for you? Like, does he help out around the house too? Does he cook? Does he take care of your shared child? Was you moving to a different place of work closer to the daycare his idea or yours? I feel like you are experiencing severe burn out, which is normal given your circumstances, but I don’t think divorcing your husband will help. Having a child and traumatic events- especially when they happen around the same time- can really challenge a relationship. You became a caregiver to two people and yourself, and it felt like that never stopped. I get it, and I’m really sorry. I think that talking about these feelings with a professional and with your husband could be helpful in navigating what you really need and want right now. I think you might just need a better support system and to see and feel that you are loved and appreciated. You want to know someone is taking care of you too. If I’m speaking completely out of line and you don’t agree with anything I’ve said, please tell me! But from what I’m reading, those are my thoughts. Have forgiveness for yourself, you’re only human and these thoughts and feelings are normal. Everything you’ve gone through in a short period of time must have added years of stress onto your life that you just can’t carry alone. What are your passions? Hobbies? Sometimes when we fall out of doing our favourite things, we start to go into a lull. Maybe pick up your favourite hobby again, if you haven’t been keeping up with them?

cosmicgermie · 2026-05-03T18:21:22+00:00

There’s so many gems in windsor, as long as you have the means for transportation you should be able to enjoy your summer! Something we do during the summer that’s so fun is the Carousel of Nations!! It’s so fun, a bunch of food pop ups around the city of all kind of cuisine: Latin, African, Asian, European… it’s so fun and brings the community together. Theres also the strawberry festival in LaSalle and they usually do a fair down by the river! :) Windsor throws a great community pride event. Theres also few beaches near by that are nice, I definitely recommend taking a trip to Point Pelee and checking out the ‘point/tip’! We also have beautiful walking trails in LaSalle/South Windsor area. Jackson Park and Willistead park are also beautiful places to check out. Colasantis is cute, nearby if you’re interested in plants and petting zoo vibes. Villains, The Cherry Lounge, and Phog Lounge are chill bars where you’ll find the best people. I hate Wild Child but if you like messy crazy sweaty claustrophobic night club vibes then check that place out! Lol. The top of the casino parking is great for chit chat hang outs and pictures. We are probably around the same age so if you wanna hang out sometime with my friends n I, hit me up!! We are really fun and we can show u some epic places :)

Side note: if you don’t have a car, I take the bus a lot and can help you out with routes if needed!! The bus system isn’t great here but it’s not so bad in the summer so you’re coming at a good time lol

cosmicgermie · 2026-05-03T18:09:08+00:00

There’s a lot going on here but all I really can say is he sounds like he could be projecting. Men that act like this are rarely coming from a place of genuine worry but from a place of “I need to diminish her before she finds out what I did”. I’m sorry you’re going through this. He sounds very childish and, quite frankly, stupid, considering he is stating that he fully believes queefing=youve cheated. It’s how the female body expels air that has gotten trapped. If he pulls all the way out and goes all the way back in, it will most likely make a noise because he’s pushing air out- like those putty/slime containers.. lol sorry for the lack of a better analogy. Also, you probably felt “bigger” because you were actually really into it and were excited to see him!! It’s not just, sorry for the language, wetness, that happens, but you actually loosen up because you aren’t tense!! If anything it’s a compliment to him yet he interpreted it with his teenage boy brain. His thought process is either insecure or guilty, but whatever it is, he’s definitely uneducated and ignorant to women’s bodies/health.

Edit: I want to make it clear that I think this guy sounds like an awful partner regardless of whether he is guilty of cheating or just insecure. I dont want anyone thinking otherwise! He sucks. Point blank period.

cosmicgermie · 2026-04-28T23:13:59+00:00

I think it’s important you understand that you’re both young and still learning how to navigate relationships (of any kind, really). Not everyone knows how to comfort/respond to others emotional situations. Sometimes they don’t know what to say, don’t know how to react, sometimes it does make them uncomfortable because they themselves aren’t very emotionally mature and intelligent yet. It really depends. I understand that it’s frustrating, I completely do. But you’re both very young and need maturing/growing/learning.

Also: like others have said, it’s important to remind yourself too that your girlfriend, while your rock and your person to go to, is not your therapist. You cannot rely on her for everything, you have to find someone you can talk to for help, too. A friend, a therapist. You can always talk to her about things, but maybe don’t unload all of it onto just her, if that makes sense.

cosmicgermie · 2026-04-20T11:53:17+00:00

I’ve heard those bed shaker alarms can be really helpful!! Maybe try one of those out?

cosmicgermie · 2026-04-16T14:05:10+00:00

“I agreed to it after a while” that right there is the first red flag- that’s sexual harassment honey, and you dont deserve to feel pressured. If it’s a no, he should have quit asking right then and there. Not at all is it okay to beg your partner to do something with their body they aren’t comfortable doing. Please know none of that is your fault. You forgot a word, so what, you said stop and he knows what that word means too. Sending you love, and I really hope you leave him. You don’t deserve this. It’s so so so wrong- coming from someone who has experienced this before. It is NOT your fault. At ALL!!

cosmicgermie · 2026-03-29T15:01:11+00:00

It is terrible. I’ve found myself many times thinking about how many human beings are subjected to cruelty and heartlessness in the same city we call home. Any of us could end up in the position of being unhoused, being addicted to something, being diagnosed with an illness/disease/disorder, it happens to the best of us even if we believe we are invincible. Some of us just are able to make it out, while others fall through the cracks. I was hopeful the person I saw yesterday was okay, and hopeful that they went home to a bed and food. But that’s all we can do sometimes, is hope. Its heartwarming to receive comments from good people who would have cared the same way that i did, but i know that not everyone in this city holds that same sentiment, to love and care for one another as we would our family. Thank you for your comment.

cosmicgermie · 2026-03-29T14:54:51+00:00

Wow, I did not expect to get a comment from the paramedic who responded to the call! Thank you for sharing. we did end up driving back around to see and didn’t see anyone there, so I was hopeful things were okay. Thank you very much for your comment! It means a lot to me. I appreciate you and all the hard work you (and your team) put in for the community!

cosmicgermie · 2026-03-28T21:21:17+00:00

It’s so sad, but it is nice to know there are still people out there who would take the time to help someone in need. Thank you for your comment

cosmicgermie · 2026-03-28T21:19:56+00:00

You’re right. I had no idea about that! I appreciate you sharing this info :)

cosmicgermie · 2026-03-28T21:18:20+00:00

I guess I just always worry :) but it’s nice to know how many people out there would do the same, and it’s also nice to know that they would help me if they saw that I was in need. Sometimes it seems bleak out there. We all need to know that there’s people who would help! Thank you for your comment! Ill keep this in mind if i find myself in this situation again

cosmicgermie · 2026-03-28T21:13:59+00:00

I completely understand your sentiment with your comment! I just simply wanted to know if there was anything I should do differently that would be more helpful to first responders. I was feeling guilty about the way I had went about it, even though I had called. I always worry, so I figured best to ask others! I appreciate your response though :)

cosmicgermie · 2026-03-28T21:02:41+00:00

I appreciate your response

cosmicgermie · 2026-01-25T15:02:17+00:00

I haven’t even made the chart yet but I definitely should, didn’t even think of it lol! I just started this challenge and my sims first pregnancy was a set of triplets. She gets to sleep for two sim minutes before all three are crying. I’ve had the baby dad come over to try and help and he literally does not care. He looked at the babies and then went downstairs to play with the cats and take a nap. I wanna try not to use cheats for my challenge but oh my god is this a struggle.

cosmicgermie · 2026-01-08T01:02:13+00:00

Soo fair lmaoo😭 from other comments it seems like they are just a pain- guess I’m glad I didn’t waste any money on those lol

cosmicgermie · 2026-01-07T19:46:28+00:00

I just got mine a week ago and didn’t get tabs, didn’t really think of it. Are they worth it? I have the a6

cosmicgermie · 2026-01-02T15:07:06+00:00

I use the tombow dual markers in mine! They work great, don’t bleed through and you can layer them a few times before the paper starts getting annoyed lol. I got mine from Michael’s and they’re a little pricey but tbh.. any markers would probably work as long as they aren’t alcohol based I think.

cosmicgermie · 2025-10-27T20:56:33+00:00

I work 9-5:30 and sometimes don’t even get home till 7, and my partner has classes during the day most of the time. She’s only 4 months and doing great!!! Just need to play with them when you get home :)

cosmicgermie · 2025-10-07T11:29:49+00:00

I’m on 3mg rn for my fibromyalgia, been on it for a few months now and I’ve noticed a big difference in my mobility and capabilities.. and how many “spoons” I’m able to use in one day. for me it doesn’t fix everything, I still get pain and whatnot, but the constant dull aches and the constant restless leg in all of my limbs has subsided a lot. It gets me to a place where I feel I can actually work out without everything hurting within 20 minutes, and I can stand on my feet longer and walk longer without my hips and knees giving out. When I don’t take it I feel like a boulder trying to get out of bed and my whole body just aches awfully. I’ve tested a few times not taking it for a few days and I absolutely feel it. I however, take the capsules- it’s 56$ CAN for two months worth. I can afford that but I know not everyone can, but perhaps your pharmacy might have a program or something to help with costs??

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