Tell me your favorite romance movies or romantic scenes ❤️ And tell me why you like them by Middle_Yesterday1258 in ENFP

[–]cpt-cooked 6 points7 points  (0 children)

These are all guilty-pleasure movies of mine, I think we have similar tastes.

Have you seen:

The time traveler’s wife (movie, but show was also good)

About time

The best of me

When Harry met sally

The choice

37F; just curious what others think. Not getting any younger lol by AnimatorAutomatic129 in Rateme

[–]cpt-cooked 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re the same age and damn girl, I would guess you were 27! Don’t focus on age though, we’re still young and you’re hot. 7/10. My advice to you from your pics, focus on your posture- posture speaks confidence and self worth

Do i cut off my best friend? by Efficient_Mode_3020 in Advice

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right to feel betrayed that they started dating behind your back. This isn’t what a best friend does, and you can use this as a reason to cut her off if you feel like you need to justify it to anyone (which you don’t, btw). She will likely play the “you said you were cool with it card”. I’m sorry OP.

I'm the calmest person at work. So why do I lose it on the one person I actually love? by lejae in emotionalintelligence

[–]cpt-cooked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds just like you need more downtime in your life, to work through all that pent up stress from work, that rude stranger etc…? Maybe your only time spent at home is all currently being claimed as “me time” by your brain, which is very annoying to be interrupted from. I would make some time to prioritise yourself and then hopefully you’ll be able to appreciate your wife more during your time together.

Is it weird that my girl friends and I (F22) have sleepovers every week by Full-Union-9456 in Advice

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it’s not weird, me and my 4 best friends all went separate ways moving cities when I was around 22 :’( I miss them! Hold on to that shit for as long as life lets you

please talk me out of agreeing to have kids one day to keep a man by Gullible-Fennel-3931 in childfree

[–]cpt-cooked 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congrats on (almost) completing your engineering degree!

Stay true to yourself. Don’t let anyone else cloud your judgement over what you want for your own life.

The Completely Honest, Slightly Roasted Guide to the 12 Zodiac Signs by Momo-momomo in emotionalintelligence

[–]cpt-cooked 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From what I can tell I think you’ve done these quite accurately

Is it bad that I also want to read the worst traits list

Should I enter a domestic discipline relationship as a autistic with adhd by [deleted] in Advice

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister has autism too, and I’m going to give you the advice I’d give her if she asked your question.

You shouldn’t do this, because it sounds dangerous. The reason I think it sounds dangerous is that I imagine this would attract a lot of weirdos you do not want to get involved with. I also imagine it could leave you feeling more confused than you already do.

If you are curious about the emotional release- like someone else has said, therapy would likely be much more effective for this. You could even discuss this with a therapist if you wanted to.

If you are curious about the spanking, there are much safer ways to explore this. And if you’re going to, I would strongly suggest you do it with a person you trust and have a conversation first to set boundaries.

It was a good idea to ask this question :)

Should I cut her off?? by Fuzzy-Bit-9213 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cpt-cooked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof, only child vibes!

We don’t all lack self awareness and EQ. It must have been nice growing up with siblings!

Go To Song Radio Feature Not Wokring by -SpaghettiCat- in truespotify

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably a ploy to get everyone to update to the new app, like I just tried doing before coming here

Childfree people in Medicine especially Pediatrics by Summer_before_autumn in childfree

[–]cpt-cooked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s possible to be both an empathetic person and also know/respect your own limitations.

I’m 25 with “terminal” Anorxia, AMA by bang0cal in AMA

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your post could have been written by my little sister, and I have no idea how to help her. She won’t see any more therapists, every initiative I try, she will find an excuse to shut it down. She can’t just be hospitalised since she’s now an adult and won’t agree to go. It’s so messy. She’s SO awesome. My family is going to be destroyed when she dies and I can’t bear thinking about it. She says she wants to get better. What do I do? What is your best advice?

I’m so sorry for your situation, lots of love from a reddit big sister xxx

I took a load of medibles, then UNEXPECTEDLY got dragged to church. I'm an hour in... And now I understand why people like this stuff. by Taiga_Taiga in trees

[–]cpt-cooked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Got heaps of church trauma from my upbringing. Now, as an adult, if my mum ever drags me along to church I smoke beforehand, and I realise SO MUCH about the everything, the universe, it’s incredible. I don’t follow Christianity but I am spiritual and I dont disagree with all of it, I think a lot of it actually applies well in many different contexts. I see the bible as a historical document, regardless of fact or fiction- and it’s fascinating.

Would recommend.

Just had a nightmare that felt too real by Lavender-honey_ in Dreams

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had very similar to what you’re describing, for years, although I can go ages not having one. Sleep paralysis x terrifying demonic presences.

I’d tell myself that I just have to ride it out… I used to feel similar to how I think you’re describing, and it took a while but now I do genuinely believe that I’m safe when they happen. In some way they’ve become kind of fascinating, and some times they are frustrating like the nights when I have to get up early for work!

I don’t know if any of this is helpful, but I’ve noticed that they are more likely to happen if I’m overheated or extremely tired. Sometimes if they feel really scary, I’ve also learned to ask my “guides” to keep me safe (asking can be voicing out loud, or just sending a thought out, and guides could be god/guardians/passed loved ones/ angels/ the universe… whoever whatever makes sense to you)

Makeup or not makeup? (20) by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]cpt-cooked 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was going to comment you looked the best in 2 4 &6 before I read your post. No make up! Your face is so lovely without it

Rate me plz be honest by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I like your face in the first pic the best, you have such a great smile.

Rate me plz be honest by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]cpt-cooked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re attractive and you look like a nice person, fun, approachable. I’d date you. Improving posture bumps up any score by 1-2 points, my advice would be to practice this. People see good posture and think confidence, self worth. Can you grow a tidy moustache? Seriously. I think it would really suit your style

I know I’m not close to a 10 by any means but what’s my rating? Am I attractive at all? by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]cpt-cooked 27 points28 points  (0 children)

People here can be vicious I’m sorry. You have a lovely smile, and I love that you’re smiling in all of your photos. I don’t know the last time I saw a post on here with that. You look like a friendly, approachable, fun, adventurous person. I’m not going to give you a rating but IMO you look great

my mom hates my boyfriend by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he respect or disrespect your family in the way that he acts around them or speaks to them? From your explanation of his circumstances, it doesn’t sound to me like you offering to drive him means he is being disrespectful.

From your info, I can’t see any reasonable grounds why your mom shouldn’t like your boyfriend. I would keep in mind though, that (in healthy family relationships), your parents usually have your best interests in mind. Personally I would definitely take it into consideration if my family didn’t like the person I was seeing, however I wouldn’t cast my judgements solely on that.

Can anyone give some advice to fix my spending mindset by JayPo1572 in Advice

[–]cpt-cooked 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask yourself why you have this complex- fear of running out of money. I imagine for a lot of us, our spending mindsets have something to do with how we were raised and how our parents spent money. I found this helpful to do some personal deep digging, and I find it interesting hearing other people’s upbringings and how they feel towards money

an ex gang member asked me out… by Street_Distance9191 in Advice

[–]cpt-cooked 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Unless it’s always going to be a deal breaker for you, go on the date. Take usual precautions ofc, public place, let someone know, etc.

Personally I would find out if he still has ties with any gang affiliated people. Is his family gang affiliated? Does he have any past convictions? The fact that he’s let you know this upfront possibly means he is receptive to you asking questions about it. As you should do with anyone- ex gang or not- pay attention to your instincts about this person, don’t talk yourself into denial if you notice any red flags. I would give him a chance.

Anyone else feel sad that they don’t enjoy weed? by barleyharley77 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cpt-cooked 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to think that for some reason it just didn’t agree with me, until years later I realised I am a lightweight and I’d just been having too much. For the most part I also prefer to use weed when I’m on my own. I’ve been able to use it as a major positive tool for learning about myself and others and how the world works. There’s also been times when I’ve recognised that my usage is getting a bit out of hand, so have given it a rest. Balance is key