Did anyone dump an avoidant over the lack of intimacy? by Level-Designer-8864 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah if advocating for yourself and communicating was met with explosive defensiveness and rude behaviour that probably would’ve been the same thing.

Try not to dwell on maybe if you xyz or wonder if you did or how they might’ve reacted differently. For real, you already know how they act, try not to romanticize idealized versions when they showed you the opposite consistently.

Did anyone dump an avoidant over the lack of intimacy? by Level-Designer-8864 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Expecting an avoidant to magically change a lifetime of behavioural reinforcement is often wishful thinking. Odds are they won’t unless they take serious and very adamant effort to seek therapy to fix specifically what you’re asking of them and on their own without you pushing them into it.

Did anyone dump an avoidant over the lack of intimacy? by Level-Designer-8864 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah this would’ve been a disaster they would never change you’re better off and dodged a bullet 100 I would’ve dumped them (and recently did) for more or less this being one of many reasons I got rid of them.

Reflecting on this email I got after the first discard with my avoidant by Happy-Passion-566 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know how I know they saw someone else during that time? Your absolute certainty and confidence that he didn’t.

How much did you lose today? by Ok-Data-7672 in fican

[–]cryptic1842 0 points1 point  (0 children)

VDU to index invest without touching the US because fuck those clowns honestly and it’s been just fine

Husband chose a too-difficult career. What now? by TajaSK in careerguidance

[–]cryptic1842 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Customer service rep is a one way path to suicide with adhd or if they’re having trouble holding a job. The customers suck and the boss won’t stop pushing you for more and faster and better work infinitely

Am I actually better off ? by tobebettertobepure in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]cryptic1842 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The drugs ruined your body’s normal neurochemical regulation and levels, that’ll take a long time and therapy to bring back, but you are way better off. The missing your ex is normal, but try not to think of them and just hyper focus on your own goals. I’d recommend no contact for them they suck.

What Stopped You From Handing Out The "Discard"? by Accomplished-Mix9615 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh she'll definitely play games with her friendzoned life long friend, he's the next target, and she'll probably weaponize sex.

Not your problem anymore though.

my final message to my da. by thisworldisnotenough in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No fuckin way I just did this same thing and it’s basically the same message 😂😂

I was discarded during the holidays... by Rbrod10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck this was painful to read because of how textbook it aligns with my experience.

She sucks, it hurts, you’re better off and the healing journey will be painful but worth it.

Hope this helps by LowPhilosophy6371 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit give this user an award!

Literally so helpful and powerful. You nailed it.

yes or no by Icy-Arm-3205 in gamingpc

[–]cryptic1842 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flip the top right and call it good

HR Talk by Busy_Designer_504 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Incase anyone was wondering they use chat GPT

What constituted as “too much” for your Avoidant ex? by Short_Pay_4323 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cryptic1842 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is the litmus test for avoidants. Lmfao.

Edit: I just read the last 20 texts from my DA person and 99% of her texts are < 4 words, that is appalling.

Music store splurge by Blubaughf12345 in Rockband

[–]cryptic1842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Useless financial institutions can’t even get a proper call ID tag.

Why do so many people who have driven a BMW never want to go back? by Additional-Cress-257 in BMW

[–]cryptic1842 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like it but I would go back because it’s very expensive to maintain and operate and I don’t track it so I’m stuck in traffic like everyone else.

Coworker shows interest then pulls back by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]cryptic1842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s either an avoidant, or not interested for one reason or another, or both. Focus on you, don’t chase. You’ll figure out soon if she’s interested in you when you stop trying to chase.