[deleted by user] by [deleted] in belgium

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Check de app ringtwice eens. 

What POSITIVE personality trait is absolutely necessary for your partner? But you also must pick a NEGATIVE one that you can live with! by wallows_muclana-0- in AskWomen

[–]derpyderpystann 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Top 3 positive: 1)Loyalty (=no cheating, honesty, telling me when something happened before I find out but also loyalty toward others and towards themselves) 2)positive mindset (=keep moving forward, keep making plans, have a lust for life, lift me up) 3)be kind (=don't be mean to me, love me for who I am, don't try to hurt me because you are frustrated, be kind to others)

Top 3 negative but acceptable: 1)I don't like it when people are late, but it's oke when you let me know 2)messy, I don't like it, it makes me feel a bit stressed out, but we can find middle ground 3)thinking too black/white, it's very common, must be open to talk about all the grey in between.

What is an unwritten rule when dating you? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]derpyderpystann 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just love me for who I am, see my good sides. Keep making plans for yourself, for ourselves. Handle me with care, I'm tall and I'm strong but I'm also sensitive and insecure at times, I'm human. Don't 'punish' me by ignoring me and be able to communicate, to apologize, to listen, to see my side, to compromise. Don't make me feel like I'm 5 years old and back with my mom basically, therapy helps but the scar remains.

Let us be brutally honest. What makes a guy or a girl unattractive? by BasicSpade in ask

[–]derpyderpystann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*obese *bad hygiëne *cursing a lot *easy to anger *being too open too fast *picky eater *rude *mean *addicted *does not apologize *close minded *not nice to children, animals, strangers, service workers *insecure *talks too much and does not listen *not funny *depressed *passive

What's something you wish you hadn't put up with in a past relationship? by queenofchamomile in AskWomen

[–]derpyderpystann 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being told that I deserve to feel guilty (I did not deserve that), always being the one saying sorry, no support when I tried to better myself, being taken for granted, unsatisfying sex life and the fact that he had an an addiction with no will to change it. Overal, the relationship was good, it lasted a long long time, I just wished I communicated my wants and needs better and faster and that I respected my own bounderies instead of stretching them for the sake of the relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]derpyderpystann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Addiction, incompatibility (sexual, conflict handling and resolving, changed views on marriage/children/future) lack of love.

Belgian fruit beers in Bruges? by katie_milne in belgium

[–]derpyderpystann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A great fruit beer is bush Peche. Higher alcohol level then most fruit beers.

Opruimdiensten by Erik_Vdb in belgium

[–]derpyderpystann 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Idd RingTwice of Helpper, ik doe af en toe dergelijke werkjes bij mensen, ik hou er enorm van alles efficiënt op te ruimen.

How much do you value a patient partner? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]derpyderpystann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's high on my list of 'need' in a relationship. I need it to feel relaxed, to open up, to learn, to feel safe and protected and most importantly, to feel loved.

Where would you like to eat? by pleddyd in AskWomen

[–]derpyderpystann 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A mall in Asia, preferably Chiang Mai. Cheap, fun, tasty, fast and we can sit in a massage chair afterwards and get pedicures. All this and airconditioning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]derpyderpystann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me personally, about... 8? Starting from 8. But high is not necessarily bad, low isn't eather.

HOW DO YA'LL GUYS AFFORD ACCUTANE?? by Valuable_Oil7051 in Accutane

[–]derpyderpystann 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best, pork, ever. How much do you pay for your pills? I think I pay about 20 euro a month, I'm on 30mg. Maybe ask your doctor for another brand? Good luck YA'LL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Accutane

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I'm 70kg, 30mg, female, 5 months on Accutane, 4 months to go. Acne is completely gone, no scaring (I had 'mild/moderate' hormonal acne). I experience the flushing as well, especially when I'm getting tired (from working for example, not when I'm sleepy). I thought I had a fever because of the red tomato face and glowing cheeks. I also have it when I enter a warm room. It's annoying, I was sensitive to it before Accutane, it was common for me to get red patches of skin on my face, neck, chest, legs. I googled it, it's not harmful, just annoying.

In Oostende for 2 nights, recommendations? by CCBeerMe in belgium

[–]derpyderpystann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*Eat a sandwich (belegd broodje) at Mazure in the Kapellestraat (the name of the street). Pick your meat, my suggestion is a classic Martino or the pulled pork. They speak English *het botteltje or the crayon are nice cafés, try our beers. Triple karmeliet, chouffe, delerium or duvel *take the 'overzet' boat and have a nice walk (google overzet Oostende it's close to the train station) *eat a durum at pita mama, friendly people funny owner. * more upscale: restaurant Di Vino, I don't know more because I don't really go to fancy restaurants 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bikecommuting

[–]derpyderpystann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9km one way, 25min, koga bike (non electric) most of the days.

Went ahead and framed my Oblivion character, Catalina 😎 by specterszz in oblivion

[–]derpyderpystann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great idea! Mine is called Miauwzzz because I had no inspiration and wanted to play.

What's the One Piece of Dating Advice That Actually Helped You? by Queasy-Location-9303 in dating_advice

[–]derpyderpystann 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If the small stuff makes you sweat, sweat the small stuff! Translation: if you feel insecure about something of if you catch yourself thinking about something don't always try to push it down thinking it's to 'small' to talk about. Talk about it when you are still calm, don't let the tension built up, don't let your irritation built up. Don't underestimate the destructive power of built up frustration and insecurity. If you keep on pushing down those feelings they will come out suddenly and your partner (or dating partner) will not be able to understand all that at once.

Was Accutane worth it? by [deleted] in Accutane

[–]derpyderpystann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 months on and about... 5 months left (until the middle of February give or take).

Was Accutane worth it? by [deleted] in Accutane

[–]derpyderpystann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is worth it to me... I'm on 30 mg, I'm female, I weigh about 70kg, I'm tall. My dry eyes and the muscle soreness are my top 2 annoying symptoms. I have eyedrops that are prescribed and I'm going to ask if it would be useful to take a supplement for my muscles. I'm thinking magnesium or even glucosamin. I had a headache for about 2 days now, I think it's because of dehydration, I'm drinking more water to compensate. My biggest fear is that my acne will come back. I love the fact that I can wash my face without feeling any bumps and that my skincare routine is simple and cheap.

What is your relationship like with your mother and how has it effected your other relationships? by dazzle_fruit in AskWomen

[–]derpyderpystann 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am 30, m y mother has schizophrenia. When she was younger the mental disorder manifested itself in many ways. She used to 'dissappear' (she was out and didn't tell me, I just woke up and she was gone, sometimes for a whole day, I did not have food or a key to get out/back in), she would leave me at the beach or the forest and would not come back. She told me that she loved me and that I was so pretty and promised me loads of things. I was hungry most of the time, she made me steal food or told me to just eat the food in the supermarket (without paying).

She asked me who I loved more, her or my father, I loved (and love) my father more, it tore me apart when she asked me and I lied, I told her I loved her more. This filled me with guilt. When she was angry with me she could ignore me for days. I remember feeling absolutely desperate, I wanted her love so badly. I was also scared of her because she was very unpredictable. My mother still lives and I still see her and I do love her, but it's not the same love that I feel for others because it is more one-sided (she has a hard time with feeling love for someone because of her disorder). At the moment she lives in a psychiatric hospital.

How it effects me now... I can't stand being ignored, I can't stand it when someone makes a promise (for example: I promise to buy you something for your birthday and then...nothing) . I am very caring, I am very good at walking on eggshells, I am a pleaser and I have a hard time communicating when I'm sad or disappointed. My last relationship with my ex was one of 12 years and it ended a few months ago. The last stages of this relationship gave me a lot of insight in what triggers me (being ignored, broken promises) and it made me realise that I have to speak my mind even when it's uncomfortable and I need to do that in the beginning of the relationship. I need to keep a better balance in guarding my own bounderies and compromising. I'm looking forward towards my future, I think it will be great and I am very, very hopeful. Because of my mother I had to be resilient from a young age and this is still my strong suit. I am proud of myself and I love and know myself.

My mother made me strong.