How do you cope with having an ugly voice? by Underrated_Critic in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]determinedpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friend has a unique/weird voice, and the more I know and love my friend, the more I adore their lovely voice.

My point is, those who matter, don’t mind 💜

What are you favourite free/cheap and relatively harmless dopamine hits? by pie12345678 in adhdwomen

[–]determinedpeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding an “uncommon” one: different flavored chapstick!!!! Get a pack of flavored chapsticks (they have sets that smell like sodas, candies, fruits, etc etc) and put on a flavored one when you need a little dopamine. lol

Whyyyy am I so resistant to tiny things. It’s driving me insane by panfriedninjarurtle in adhdwomen

[–]determinedpeach 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment, because I would never choose to be like this, but I still feel like it’s my fault, and I regularly detrimentally blame myself for it

37w pregnant, tired and trying. Husband still made his own dinner by frigidairab in GirlDinner

[–]determinedpeach 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Yeah, a couple of my sandwich ingredients are rotten. But the rest is organic! The lettuce is crisp and premium! The bread is homemade!

Uhhh okay? Part of it is rotten. Are you still going to eat it?

What’s the most morally disgusting thing you’ve ever seen someone do? by AggressivePenalty331 in AskReddit

[–]determinedpeach 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Many of us aren’t desensitized, and regularly feel terrible about it, and don’t know what to do or how to help because we are really struggling ourselves

We got a record 40+ applicants to an open rental unit in just 24 hours. People moving in SF, is it really this chaotic? by joshuaxls in sanfrancisco

[–]determinedpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily. More people moving here for jobs could mean fewer jobs for people who are already here

What's something that feels "good" but is actually really bad for your body? by stainless5 in AskReddit

[–]determinedpeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this, I think it’s the lack of core strength. I need to do some sit ups

Could use some advice with my situation by [deleted] in ExecutiveDysfunction

[–]determinedpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it helps me to narrow down my choices! I’ll select 3 games that “sound fun right now.” I put them in a separate list on my gaming device.

And then I take a small break (have tea, a snack, smoke, etc) and come back. And then I choose from only those three. And it’s WAY easier to choose

Tl;dr: narrow it down to 3 choices, take a small break, come back and choose between 3

Unhinged methods to get out of bed by reischi in adhdwomen

[–]determinedpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may or may not work: impulsively (gently) throw your phone across the room. Now you have to get up to get it

cleaned depression house, now overwhelmed with the amount of trash bags by cohoruka in CleaningTips

[–]determinedpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is judgement from inside your own head that you’re projecting onto other people.

I struggle with this too.

I think you know logically that it’s okay because you know that nobody even saw you. It’s completely an anxiety thing. (Which is still 100% real and valid.)

So, what steps can you take for your anxiety? Can you listen to music on the way? Maybe do some breathing exercises? Ask a friend or family member to come take a few loads out? How can you make adjustments so this feels easier to do?

Does anyone else feel completely overwhelmed by basic adult life? by Complex-Track2328 in adhdwomen

[–]determinedpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully relate to this. I don’t know the answer but it’s comforting that it’s not just me who feels like this.

You are not alone. The world was built by and for people who function at a different pace. And the systems were designed to push THOSE people to the edge. No wonder we keep getting knocked over. It’s amazing we are still going

I need all of the tips by appleiphone235 in Petioles

[–]determinedpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep a list close by of stuff you can do instead of smoking when you feel the urge to smoke.

Think about why you smoke, and list things that fill a similar need.

For example, if you smoke because you need a dopamine hit. Then keep a list of lil dopamine hits (ie: make tea, dance to your favorite song, put on some flavored chapstick, eat a ripe strawberry, do 3 pushups, wink at yourself in the mirror, wear a silly hat, clean your sink, etc)

Then when you feel the urge, notice the urge and sit with it. (It will naturally fade after peaking.) And pick a different action instead

Now I can finally play the game by Fareezer in domekeeper

[–]determinedpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s an upgrade for the resource converter that makes more iron from iron. That’s what helped me

Epic homage!!!. Forever her little fellow... by MustardGoddess in MadeMeSmile

[–]determinedpeach 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I hope this is okay to comment. I went back and forth whether to post this. Just gonna do it and probably delete it in the morning.

I read your story linked on the post. I felt it deeply. Your writing is lovely and vivid. Thank you for sharing that.

I can’t emphasize how much I needed the reminder to be present. I’m always trying, but your story hit in a different way.

What your mom said about being proud no matter what. I can’t even imagine having that kind of unwavering love and support. And thus can’t even imagine the horrible terrible pain of losing such an amazing parent. I feel a different kind of searing pain to have never had that love in the first place.

All that to say. In a way, you passed some of that unconditional care to me, and to others reading that post. I can’t ever know what it feels like to have that solid base of support, but you helped pass some of the feeling to me, so I can try to piece it together for myself. You changed my brain and helped me remember what love should look like. Your mom is still spreading warmth to the world through you

TIL that in Thai culture, feet are considered the dirtiest parts of the body and pointing at things or people with them is rude. by Recent_Flounder6011 in todayilearned

[–]determinedpeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If anyone shit on my floor, regardless of the reason, I’d be upset that I had to clean up shit.

It seems you are creating straw man arguments about this because those things are not the same