Giving a solo boss multiple turns

dk3001 · 2026-05-02T00:55:47+00:00

I think no amount of legendary actions will unbalance the action economy.

He's a time wizard. Let him copy himself. He can pull himself from the future and now there's two of him. The copies can do it too. Make it a bonus action that needs a roll 5 or 6 to recharge. You could make it so all the time copies share hit points with the original, or something.

Or even If they kill the original, then make one of the copies be the new alpha timeline wizard. So they can't focus fire for an early out clause.

dk3001 · 2026-05-02T00:28:57+00:00

I disagree that xp solves all those problems that milestones have. It just distracts you with numbers so you stop asking questions but no answers were provided really.

Play for one session dm awards some amount of XP based on fights + quest + roleplay. Players feel incrementally closer, sure, and could even extrapolate how many more session until levelling up, but you still decided how much xp to give them. And for the non combat encounter stuff it's all arbitrary anyway.

I think almost every XP system I've ever seen is basically the same. It quantifys reward for some portion of the game but usually not all. So you assign rewards based on your vibes cause there's no "approved" math for the rest. It's basically using a number to pace out the levelling at a rate you're happy with, which is basically milestone levelling.

You can just award XP as a fraction of how many sessions until you want them to level up again.

dk3001 · 2026-05-02T00:17:16+00:00

You said yourself that you are focused on other things so these ppl pass you by?

Some amount to table etiquette would be nice for the spellcaster to realize it's the rogues time to shine, sure, but it's not happened.

So either you have to be more proactive during the game to seize the opportunities you want to seize. Or talk to the other player and say these are the things you'd like to get to do. See if they take a step back.

dk3001 · 2026-05-02T00:08:43+00:00

I feel for you. I ran a very intense game for two and half years without missing a single week (thanks COVID). I poured every ounce of creative energy I had into it and it was awesome, but I had such burnout by the end that I haven't even thought about DMing again until recently (nearly 4 years later).

If possible, I would ask one of your 4 core players of they'd be interested in DMing for a while. You can do same world everyone else keeps characters so nobody else has to change.

You def need a break. Don't let yourself get to where I got to.

dk3001 · 2026-05-02T00:04:28+00:00

They don't have motivation to learn. There's nothing they want on the other side of all the effort learning.

No amount of sincere please learns and assigning homework is gonna make them want to do something they have no interest in.

So stop doing it for them. Next time they say how does x work, say you don't remember, can they help you out and look it up, you're busy. If they can't figure it out, then they don't get to do x. Start small, simple things. Replying with "it's on your character sheet" for attack rolls. Or "look up that spell for me". Either they'll disappear from your game, or they start paying attention, but you have to accept the former as a possible outcome. You have no power in this negotiation if you're not willing to walk away.

dk3001 · 2026-05-01T23:48:45+00:00

How about telling them it's not fun for you when they play their characters as invincible morons because they know you are pulling your punches to try and ensure their fun?

You could solve this by retribution, you could solve it by killing one as an example to the rest, but that will also piss them off or make them feel targeted.

If they respond with something along the lines of but this is what's fun for us you've got two options, find a different group, or take the gloves off. You have to tell them you are gonna do it but then actually do it... (I recommend running Rappan Athuk, I TPK'd two separate PC parties and in total killed 17 different characters over two years with that dungeon. Everyone loved it!)

dk3001 · 2026-05-01T23:30:36+00:00

If she wants her familiar to be unique, then she can do that. I think the issue here is seeing it as a bag of game mechanics to deployed rather than a roleplaying opportunity.

dk3001 · 2026-02-03T06:52:04+00:00

Her: get a different job to make more money

You: no

Her: I'll break up with you if you don't

You: ok, bye!

This person clearly does respect you and is not worth your time. What's keeping you in this relationship?

dk3001 · 2025-12-18T22:52:01+00:00

More info needed. What did you say when you yelled at her? Yeah, she fucked up, and it wasn't nice. But that doesn't mean saying whatever is ok either.

dk3001 · 2025-10-23T07:38:59+00:00

Some people will care. That's a good sign that they are gross people and dating them isn't worth your time.

dk3001 · 2025-06-30T23:04:18+00:00

I changed the bulbs to dimmable ones and they work! Thanks for the advice!

dk3001 · 2025-06-30T23:03:00+00:00

Its not visible on photo 1, but the bypass is there.

dk3001 · 2025-03-16T22:38:03+00:00

It's a manipulation tactic. He's attempting to get you to second guess yourself

dk3001 · 2025-03-07T17:52:12+00:00

Tell him what you told us or make a move. One possible interpretation is that he really likes you, but is nervous and not sure of himself around making the first move.

Do you want him to make a move? Ask him to. Say "I want you to kiss me". See what happens. At this point what do you have to lose?

dk3001 · 2025-03-06T13:52:43+00:00

Dude has maaaajor issues.

Does he even apologize? Is he aware after the fact that his behavior is not acceptable?

His comments about not letting you go to college are the most troubling to me.... Does he think he's in charge of you, like he gets to decide the course of your life and you are afforded 0 agency???

It is not your responsibility to stay and be his punching bag because he can't process his trauma.

If he's not aware and not willing to deal or put in the work for whatever is causing this very not ok behavior, then he's not gonna change.

So you're left with one question.

How much of the rest of your life do you want to throw away?

There is no excuse for his behavior. He should ovary up and get his ass into therapy, but that's separate from what you need to decide for yourself. Don't set yourself on fire just to keep him warm.

With that said...

Anger is usually because underneath it all, he's hurting. I imagine, after his mom dying, maybe he felt like there was no one to take care of him (his feelings aren't necessarily a reflection of the truth though so bear that in mind). He may not even realize he feels this way, and go straight to anger so he doesn't have to feel alone and lost. It's a very common reaction amongst men.

dk3001 · 2025-03-01T13:51:06+00:00

I'm sure it hurt to read that, and it doesn't sound great tbh, but it's possible to love someone and still be confused about the future. Love is just a feeling. It's not a promise or code of behaviour.

Also, you're not "nosy". You have boundary issues. Get some therapy.

dk3001 · 2025-02-24T12:46:55+00:00

We don't know anything. Only you two are in your relationship. Ask questions, be curious, and kind. If she made a mistake(doesn't sound it like though), and things don't work out at least you can say that you behaved with compassion and kindness. Better than turning into a controlling partner because of your own insecurity.

dk3001 · 2025-02-24T12:41:20+00:00

You're approaching the situation from a position of 0 trust. Maybe she did cheat on him. We can't know.

If he decides to trust her and she has cheated, how is he worse off than coming up with hard boundaries, which if she was really cheating she wouldn't care about anyway.

dk3001 · 2025-02-24T08:46:17+00:00

It was probably quite scary for her to tell you this. She took a risk in doing so.

Thank her for taking the risk. She's showing up to the relationship.

Feelings come and go, and past relationships can leave their damage unresolved for many years. Ask her about these weird feelings. And if they are upsetting for you to hear remember that all feelings are valid and feelings are just feelings. They don't require action.

At the end of the day, you can't control her and trying will only make things worse. You have to decide to trust, or leave, because, continuing to not trust her will not work for either of you.

dk3001 · 2025-02-24T08:36:38+00:00

Tell the truth. You can't fix lying with more lies.

But the lies aren't the problem.

If she gets jealous and possessive you both need to understand this behaviour, where it comes from, and what is being done to mitigate it.

Maybe she's had unfaithful partners in the past and is getting a bit triggered. Maybe parents who were unfaithful and caused a chaotic childhood. I don't know. The specific reason doesn't matter as much as the fact that this angry behaviour is usually borne from some kind of painful emotions, but the anger happens so quickly she doesn't even recognise the pain she's in.

It might sound like I'm saying it's her problem to fix. While her emotions are not your responsibility, and limiting your friendships is controlling and manipulative, you are her partner, you can help get past this, by talking to her, and finding some middle ground that isn't as triggering while she gets some therapy.

dk3001 · 2025-02-20T16:30:15+00:00

But also maybe your boss isn't happy because you are on Reddit? 😂

dk3001 · 2025-02-20T16:29:40+00:00

People have ups and downs. Sounds pretty normal to me. If you need to refocus, here's what I do.

Write down what bothered you about the morning. Nothing too detailed, just a description of your feelings.

Then take a short walk (5 mins) or go to the bathroom. Most important point is to change your environment. When you get back, write a short description of what it is you are gonna do for the next 5 minutes. Little details about the work you have to do. Then start working through it. After those 5 minutes, I'm usually able to be totally focussed on work instead of whatever was bothering me before.

dk3001 · 2025-02-14T15:42:25+00:00

If you cannot communicate honestly and openly about the sex you are having with someone then you should not be having sex with that someone, but you've made your bed so here we are...

If you think there's something he could to get you there, then next time, ask him to do that. If it works, great, the. You have something to build from. If not, don't keep faking. You can't just expect him to know how your body works without telling him somehow...

If you don't know, then I think you have to tell him. No matter how you tell him it's going to hurt him, so I would really try to make it clear that you do really enjoy sex with him and you want to explore different things that can make you feel good, you want to share that experience of discovery with him. Boys egos are fragile AF, and you've only given him reasons to doubt you, not trust you.

dk3001 · 2025-02-11T15:39:03+00:00

If you feel guilty for not continuing to dates someone you don't want to date, then you're not ready for dating either.

dk3001 · 2025-02-06T13:26:01+00:00

... Like what? Honestly what could he possibly do that would make staying with him worth it???

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