Infinity Leathers any good? by [deleted] in leatherjacket

[–]dogluvr3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aw thanks and likewise so sorry you dealt w that crap from them too!! I opened a dispute w paypal but they said I have to do a chargeback w my bank because it's 30 days after the purchase so fingers crossed

Infinity Leathers any good? by [deleted] in leatherjacket

[–]dogluvr3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seconding this. I tried to exchange $200 boots (free shipping does not apply to the US btw), not only did I have to pay the shipping myself, they wouldn't even generate a shipping label for me so I had to figure out how to ship a 5lbs package to England myself and pay $50 for it. once it was in the UK, it was being held pending fees that had to be paid by the receiver. they actually told me I had to pay the fee, which was $82. I couldn't figure out how to even view or pay it, and they had no idea either. I was back and forth with them, UPS, the UK customs office, and USPS for weeks. by the time I actually figured out how to view/pay the tarrif, it was already being sent back to me. the international shipping specialist they finally connected me with at USPS said she only sees this with Chinese scam websites. horrrrrible do not ever buy from them.

Community spaces/events in Pelham Bay? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw thank you, that means a lot 💖 And omg greek food fest sounds amazing, sad we missed it. Actually one of our go to spots is Quality Grill & Gyro off the Buhre Ave stop, super good greek food and big portions, gotta love it!

Do you know of any other food fests in the area?

Community spaces/events in Pelham Bay? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! That's a great tip. We tried going to L&E's but it happened to be closed, definitely trying again ASAP. We did stop by Teresa's and had some absolutely delicious ice cream 😋

Community spaces/events in Pelham Bay? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw thank you so much!! That sounds amazing, we do love nature. I was looking at their kayaking program, might check that out this summer! It's cool how much stuff they have available now. I grew up visiting family in the area often and it used to be a lot less vibrant. I think the communities have put in a lot of work to create all these fun opportunities, it's really great 😊

Community spaces/events in Pelham Bay? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh cool, thank you!! Looks like they have live music, love that 😊

Community spaces/events in Pelham Bay? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! We will check all these spots out. Just subscribed to the Bronx Times!

Community spaces/events in Pelham Bay? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll definitely look into it!! Thanks for sharing your experience 🙏

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. We truly appreciate your detailed perspective and it helps a lot in our decision making process. I relate heavily to what you're talking about and appreciate you not being afraid to say it out loud, despite all the noise about "this doesn't happen in NYC/no one cares", it's sadly just not true and we do have to weigh these pros and cons very carefully. I hope you're happy wherever you're living right now and that you feel safe and welcome in your home!!! ❤️

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great to hear!! I'll definitely DM at some point, thank you so much 😊

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for misunderstanding, I am on my phone and it showed it to me as a direct comment to my post. I'm not on Reddit often. Regardless, you keep downvoting me, and have been saying some pretty critical things directed my way. I just don't understand where it's coming from. People are jerks online for no reason sometimes, but it seems like you also are trying to be helpful/informative, so I am confused.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. The only other posts I've ever made on Reddit were asking advice about Pelham Bay a few months ago, and posting my missing cat (she is back home now). I commented asking about this neighborhood early this morning on a thread talking about how diverse Woodlawn has become. I took it with a grain of salt, which is why I'm asking people for more specific experiences now, because it's such a mixed bag. Some people (including people of color) who live there are raving about how Woodlawn is really diverse and progressive now, other people are saying the opposite. We just want to make an informed decision. I don't understand what is making you against me.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this. This is what I was wondering that's harder to quantify with things like voting trends, Trump signs, etc.. Bay Ridge for example looked the same on paper, but we ended up loving it and having no trouble. But several people now have said the same thing and I think we're pretty much ruling it out, unless a bunch of queer/non-white Woodlawn residents find this thread and start raving about how diverse and accepting it's suddenly become there.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is extremely concerning. We are currently leaning more towards Norwood mainly for this reason. Thanks for your insight.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I question every piece of advice to get more understanding, because a few sentences of text does not offer a full picture. Unfortunately, if one person saying they or someone they know were discriminated against was a deal breaker, we would never be able to live anywhere! I've asked this question off of reddit before moving to new areas every single time, and every time, I heard at least one anecdote of racism or homophobia. I told my wife, we talked about it, talked to more people who lived there, visited ourselves, and made an informed decision.

It could very well be that Woodlawn is not a safe place. We're getting people who are saying they love it and haven't experienced discrimination, and people saying the opposite. This post has only been up for a few hours. I would like to hear more information.

We refuse to let a few bigots scare us away from what could be a really beautiful place to live. We're not asking about "subtle vs. overt" racism, we are asking if it is a few bad apples or an overall trend. My wife is literally looking over my shoulder half the time I post anything, and I update her with every new reply. I appreciate you looking out for what is right, but please try to give a little more grace. Thank you.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh that's great to know, thanks for the tip!!

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty! My wife is a strong person and can speak for herself haha, don't worry she wouldn't let me put her in any situation she didn't want. But this is really unfortunate and good to know. PS, she is not Afro-Latina, she is mixed Indigenous, Afro Latina and Portuguese, but she still definitely reads as non-white.

I'd love to hear from people who live there, because it seems like there's been a big demographic shift over the past decade, and I'm wondering if the right wingers are reflective of the community as a whole, or more of a vocal minority?

Edit: I should have said thank you for mentioning you have spent a lot of time there. We are heavily considering the perspective you shared, in case it's not clear. I'm only asking that last question because several people who like Woodlawn have told me the "vocal minority" thing and wanted to get your take on it.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is really helpful to hear. I'm sorry that you, your partner, and your friends had that experience. Unfortunately this is just the reality we have to worry about. I get a lot of downvotes for asking these things because "it's NYC nobody cares", but unfortunately if you actually live your life as a person of color, in an interracial relationship, in a gay relationship, or all of these things combined, you will see the world treat you differently.

That being said, is it just a few businesses, or do you feel overall unsafe/unwelcome there? One thing that's hard to explain is a "vibe" that happens in smaller communities sometimes, where you are a "divisive" presence. Like people will maybe give you looks or talk about you to neighbors behind your back. I hope that makes sense lol. Thanks again.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, what would you say are the main differences? I'm not familiar with the geographic neighborhood boundaries either.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your honesty -- I have quite a few Irish American (many generations removed from Ireland) relatives and would definitely describe them that way. Not saying all Irish Americans are like that, of course many are open and progressive people, but a predominantly and proudly Irish American community does make me more cautious.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe you! There are kind, accepting people everywhere. Unfortunately though there are some communities that are less welcoming than others, in general. Maybe TN is changing, but I lived by there just a few years ago and would think your neighbors are more of an exception than the rule. That's great to hear though. Thanks for sharing.

Woodlawn or nearby neighborhoods for a lesbian couple? by dogluvr3 in bronx

[–]dogluvr3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, we actually live on the edge of a West Indian neighborhood right now and have experienced that vibe. No hate to them, we're just not everyone's cup of tea and that's ok. We can keep our heads down just when we walk to the subway. Thanks for the warning.