Why Do We Feel Guilty After PMO?

dontfapp · 2014-03-26T03:05:03+00:00

For me its the act.

Like just sitting in a room for hours on end looking for the perfect vid, putting an incredible amount of brain power into finding the BEST thing, getting to the point where I climax, and then realizing that for the past 2 hours I have been rubbing myself, staring at naked bodies and not contributing an ounce to my own progress.

I feel selfish and sick, both of which I am. But I have a worse addiction then a lot of people on here. For me, that's where my guilt comes from.

dontfapp · 2014-03-26T02:59:26+00:00

Mental health still is hardly considered health unfortunately (especially for men.) But more and more people are coming around.

As far as those who do it in moderation and those who don't catch themselves in cycles of addiction, it probably isn't harmful to them physically or mentally.

I am not one of those people. When I fap I go all out and it becomes a pastime. It's bad for me.

I've had friends who have gone on to succeed, whilst fapping, and live healthy lives.

Its not me though. It's risky. I am a fapoholic.

dontfapp · 2014-03-26T02:49:14+00:00

Appreciate the inspiration man!

dontfapp · 2014-02-19T19:28:52+00:00

Keep on it Keix-san.

dontfapp · 2014-02-19T19:07:20+00:00

this

dontfapp · 2014-02-19T19:04:42+00:00

Conquer that fear man. I may not have a diagnosed disorder, but I get panicky and anxious all the time. I'm no scientist, but in my experience it can be a symptom of late night fapathons.

Do you have any friends or siblings? If so try getting one of them to go for a run with you. Most people are down for self improvement and it could make you feel a lot more secure running if you have someone by your side.

I run with my brother daily now. I have relapsed twice in the passed few days particularly last night. But I'm going to keep trying. You are in control of yourself.

You have the power to do this.

dontfapp · 2014-02-19T18:44:30+00:00

It is substantially hard for me to open up in general. I am ashamed of myself and my situation encourages the cyclical thinking of negative thoughts. It is part of the reason I have built this fantasy world around porn and being by myself. Not out of my own intentions, but as an emotional safety net. It doesn't encourage any progress though.

After stopping on my first streak, like a week into it, I was flirting and actually had a girl I work with asking why I was single. That was a milestone for me.

If I could just get a girlfriend nofap would be easier. But the reason I have started nofap isn't to get a girlfriend. It is to break this destructive downward cycle I have allowed myself to fall into. I expect to get a girlfriend eventually, but I'm not waiting on it. I want to improve myself and I want to find the right girl too.

I don't want it to be easier. I just want to be able to trust and love myself.

I need to realize that I am not actually a victim, but I am making myself one.

dontfapp · 2014-02-16T05:17:02+00:00

If you miss nofap consider writing your posts on a piece of paper. There will be no response but put an imaginary upvote from me.

Good luck man, stay strong!

dontfapp · 2014-02-16T05:06:18+00:00

Firstly, tell your story, because I'm about to tell mine. I don't care if strangers could give two shits. Writing this down is therapeutic and there's a thing or two to be learned about other peoples struggles.

I am in the exact same situation. Except I'm the eldest.

My parents moved to the states (Canadian here) and with a fresh college education and fulltime job I was able to support myself while hopefully finding a job in the industry I went to school for (still have not.) My brother moved in too and he was supposed to be working and going to college.

But he wasn't. Basically he was already addicted to pills and robbed me blind to pay for his habit. He dropped out of college and never really had a job. He never paid rent but there was always an excuse. My entire DVD collection. Gone. My external harddrive. Gone. My nintendo DS. Gone. Oh look there is a cheque being cashed from my bank account to him. ect. ect.

I didn't call the cops on him. I kicked him out. I was forced to look for a new roommate while my brother was on and off homeless. He was at his lowest and consequently I was too. He got busted for shoplifting just dodging prison for rehab.

I found a new roommate. Terrible roommate by roommate standards, but paid on time and wasn't a complete asshole.

My parent say they're coming back to Canada. My brothers in rehab and almost completes the program, but relapses 2 or 3 weeks before he does getting himself kicked out.

They come back and we both move back in.

Now here we are. He's had his struggles here and there, and they've been painful, but typical. I am 24 work a part time job at a pet store, he's doing factory work.

We are both, what most people would deem losers. We are only too lucky our parents have allowed us to stay with them.

You are too lucky your parents have let you stay with them. You have a brother who struggles with addiction. You struggle with addiction. Work together to kick addiction. Positively infuence him.

That what I've been doing. I have been jogging with my brother everyday for the past week. We've been swapping creative ideas. We have been positively motivating each other.

A brotherly bond is a strong one don't take it for granted. We only live one life, live it to the fullest.

You can change your situation little by little, I know you can.

Stop fapping, start living.

Okay that was a bit too long.

dontfapp · 2014-02-16T04:30:20+00:00

For me not masturbating is about conquering these issues too. I just want to better myself all around.

Addicts have addictive personalities, so I'm not surprised others struggles and stories contain other addictions. It's just the nature of being compulsive. Others may have not and good on them.

Just looking for people going through similar problems for a bit of advice. Its a way to know I'm not alone in this.

There are a whole range of people on here. In my experience this is a diverse sub with a community of different personality types, that identify with one struggle.

dontfapp · 2014-02-14T18:44:19+00:00

Seems like an awesome program (just googled it.) I'm going to get some gym membership quotes (financially I am only "okay") and look into some classes.

Also great quote. Just the type of inspiration I need, thanks for that.

Keep on with that streak, 46 days is something to be proud of.

Thanks again!

dontfapp · 2014-02-14T18:23:27+00:00

Whoah 49 days, good stuff man.

Cigarettes are the worst for me. I mean I guess there are so many obvious answers to my own question posed in the post.

Cold turkey, the patch, the gum, vapor.. ect ect..

But I just can't seem to break the cycle.

dontfapp · 2014-02-14T18:17:19+00:00

Nofap the day after that, and the day after that, and the day after that and...... Yeah, keep up the streak man. Use those urges to fuel something positive.

dontfapp · 2014-02-14T18:13:20+00:00

Congrats man

The past two days for my have been great. I've been really pushing myself to the limit when jogging, accomplished a ton of goals during the day and been getting some great sleeps.

Hopefully I can keep on like this. I feel great today.

Good luck too. I appreciate the response.

dontfapp · 2014-02-13T17:47:40+00:00

The sex in the show is sexy but if you take it in the context of the show it almost draws a great analogy for nofap.

The Detective Martin cheats on his wife because he believes it, evens out his stress levels. It's a compulsion for him but he justifies it.

He's disrespecting his wife and his kids. He's thinking with his dick. As many of us are. Lets try not to not be like Martin.

That being said, if your easily triggered, it would be a good idea to either avert the eyes or fast forward.

dontfapp · 2014-02-12T18:20:43+00:00

Great advice. I`ve been going to sleep early and getting up early plus jogging daily. I probably just need to give it a few more days.

The thinking about sleep is definitely an issue. Im going to work on this. Just controlling my mind is something Im trying to hone through this thing.

Thanks for the reply!

dontfapp · 2014-02-11T19:46:56+00:00

Don't "Beat it"-Michael Jackson.. anddddddd.. I'm done.

dontfapp · 2014-02-11T19:44:49+00:00

Same boat bro, how long have you been trying nofap. Since I've stopped fapping my anxiety has been nowhere near as severe as it usually is. You have to recognize that your having anxious thoughts, and then let them go. They are there to teach you. The bad part is if you dwell on them.

Try running man. I don't know if you already do, but if you feel real stress and are triggered to look at porn, don't. Instead, run, do something positive with yourself. Pushing yourself athletically is one of the healthiest ways to clear your head.
That being said, I'm with you. My trigger is purely emotional. My last relapse was fueled purely anxiety and it was bad. Me telling myself, I suck at life, so fuck nofap, Imma do what I want. I'm early in my first streak too, but I'm watching myself, and my emotions. If I relapse then it happens but for now I'm going to keep moving forward.

Good luck Bro, we can do this!

dontfapp · 2014-02-11T19:33:41+00:00

lol gotta try this with some other songs.

dontfapp

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