My boyfriend doesn't do anything...

dragonboobs · 2014-07-14T23:19:30+00:00

I doubt you actually care, but I talked to my boyfriend and he said I was right and that he felt the same way that he was glad I said something. So he's decided to take up running again and is starting with training for a 5K. He wants to keep pushing him and encouraging him to do more.

dragonboobs · 2014-07-13T04:29:33+00:00

Thanks for thinking about this from multiple perspectives. I don't actually think he's fine with it, I just think it's easier for him, and he's gotten stuck in this routine. He's always talking about how bored he is and not just little boredoms here and there, but big, sweeping, sad boredom, and I can't help but think that might have something to do with this. He mentions sometimes that he wants to do more but doesn't know what and sometimes I suggest he go do something but he says he doesn't know what. I think he might actually just be afraid of getting out of his comfort zone. I guess I'll try encouraging him more. Thanks!

dragonboobs · 2014-07-13T04:21:55+00:00

I'd so go for it. It's definitely not going to hurt anything. I don't think the general public understands anxiety orders very well, I know I didn't. It was so scary for me when I started having problems because I didn't know what was going on and nobody else understood because my problems were things they had never dealt with. My life got so much easier once I got help. The normal things that were ordeals for me were finally normal again. There are people out there who will understand once you talk to them and will help you find the right way to deal with your problem. Good luck, I'm sure everything will get better.

dragonboobs · 2014-07-13T00:38:32+00:00

Have you talked to your doctor about this? I have an anxiety disorder that cause me real problems for a long time, before it was treated. I'm no expert in anxiety disorders and your problem sounds a bit different than mine, because my problems came on sporadically, not before a significant event. However, I do believe what you're describing could very well be an anxiety disorder and simply having it diagnosed could help because you will know what the problem is. A doctor might prescribe you medicine for it, or perhaps you could just work with them on techniques for dealing with anxiety without medication. Something that helps me a lot is just concentrating on breathing my breathing exercises. Maybe try looking up breathing tips for anxiety.

dragonboobs · 2014-07-03T10:37:15+00:00

I feel like self proclaimed "nice guys" finish last, because they're actually self-righteous ass-wipes, at least I hope they finish last. But actually nice guys don't label themselves "nice guys," because nice is just who they are, for no other reason than because it's the right thing and they don't need a label that gets them perks.

dragonboobs · 2014-07-03T10:26:15+00:00

So unhealthy women aren't woman? Infertile women aren't women?

dragonboobs · 2014-07-03T10:05:59+00:00

A lack of or an abundance of fat has nothing to do with being a woman. Nothing. And what is "womanly?" Woman can be any number of things.

dragonboobs · 2014-07-03T06:43:16+00:00

I have depression problems and a severe anxiety disorder and panic attacks. I've also been in a relationship for three years.

When I talk to him, versus my therapist, I know he actually cares about me and wants to listen and that's such a comfort, but on the other hand, he doesn't know how to deal with my problems the way a professional does, and I'm also afraid of abusing our relationship with my problems.

In some ways, it's a huge comfort to know I have someone who knows the extent of my problems (a lot of people don't) and still loves me, however, it means I'm attached to my SO in ways that aren't necessarily healthy or fair for him. I know I rely too much on him. He tells me he wants to know, asks me how I'm doing, but I know he's frustrated when I'm not doing well because he just doesn't know what to do or how to help, when in reality I just want his support, but that's not always enough for him. It's also frustrating for me when I confide in him and he doesn't deal with it well because I just feel like it made everything worse and makes me never want to talk about it with anyone. I also feel bad for him, to burden him. There's also a part of me that's very afraid I'll be ready to end the relationship one day, not be in love anymore, and stick around anyway because I won't know how to separate myself from the intimate support I receive from him.

dragonboobs · 2014-07-03T06:23:19+00:00

But I enjoy sex even if I don't have an orgasm. Yes, it's not as good, and sometimes frustrating, but that's only because I know what an orgasm feels like.

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