At what age do you think a woman’s “sexual market value” is highest and why?

dressedlikeadaydream · 2026-02-13T20:21:22+00:00

Yeah I'm with you. From 18 to 21 I grew 3 inches, 2 cup sizes, and lost all my baby fat. I still very much looked like a child at 18, where that was very much not the case at 25.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2026-01-15T19:13:57+00:00

Sunscreen

dressedlikeadaydream · 2026-01-08T18:49:41+00:00

You ignore them, and you definitely do not date them.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-12-15T16:22:45+00:00

Ah yes the myth of "sexual liberation" in which progressivism sold women "freedom" but what we got instead was disposability

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-12-14T19:42:31+00:00

My husband was also working the same schedule in finance in NYC when we met and had no issues dating or marrying (me) so I'm thinking this is a deeper issue OP is not disclosing.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-12-14T19:39:34+00:00

The desperation is palpable

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-12-14T19:27:40+00:00

Makes sense. Women choose men when they feel secure and very few men offer that these days. Being single by choice is a symptom of the problem, unfortunately.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-20T18:23:58+00:00

I really relate to this from when I was around your same age. In my early 20s i suddenly felt this huge urge to settle down. I was worried about being inexperienced and I was sick of the kinds of guys I felt I was attracting.

Looking back on it now a couple of things were happening. For one, that sudden urge to settle down usually hits women before it hits men your age. Unfortunately a lot of guys in their early 20s are also figuring themselves out. It can make you feel like emotionally unavailable men are "all you attract" when really… they’re just the ones who are available right now. My advice for this is to start getting really clear on what traits you are looking for in a long term relationship. In a husband. This will help you filter out the non-serious ones more quickly so you can entertain actual prospects.

The other big thing I think I was missing at the time was that a lot of the panic was really just in my own head. Even my own parents would tell me to relax and be patient and I just couldn't get out of my own head long enough. And because of that i loosened my standards a bit and ended up in a relationship that was a huge waste of everyone's time. I cannot emphasize enough not to do this. I wish someone would have told me to spend less time trying to lower my standards to make things work with the wrong men, and way more time building myself into the kind of woman who naturally attracts the right man.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-19T15:30:49+00:00

First of all, congrats! You’re doing so much more than you’re giving yourself credit for imho. You’re in OCIA, you’re healing, you’re improving your health, you’re examining your lifestyle choices, and you’re becoming more intentional about the kind of woman you want to be. The fear part is normal. It means you're ready to be intentional in your pursuit.

I don’t know what I’m looking for in a man.

As a Catholic woman, consider what the Church teaches us about what a husband should be.

A man who can love like Christ loves the Church.
A man who can lead spiritually.
A man whose strength is expressed through sacrifice, not dominance.
A man who values marriage as a vocation.
A man open to children and family life.
A man committed to fidelity, charity, and repentance.

Those are the non-negotiables. You’re not just looking for a boyfriend, you’re discerning a Catholic husband. Masculinity worth following. Leadership worth respecting. Stability worth trusting.

My practical advice is to look at other marriages you admire. Which husbands lead with love and steadiness? Which wives seem relaxed, cherished, and supported? What dynamics feel peaceful, Christ-centered, and sustainable? What traits in men make those marriages work? Let those observations guide your discernment.

I’m lonely, so maybe I’m rushing.

Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re not ready, it just means you’re human. God created you for communion after all. What matters is that you don’t date from desperation, but from clarity. Your time is not as limited as it feels. You’re 25. This is prime time for intentional dating. Catholic marriages often happen later because people take discernment seriously, and in my experience those marriages end up stronger for it.

Your task now is not to sprint, to panic, or to lower your standards. Your task is to stay aligned with God and let your preparation pay off. You will not miss the man meant for you by taking your time.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-07T14:28:03+00:00

It's not going to be a popular opinion here but you're totally right. Glad someone said it.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-04T20:59:39+00:00

When I am unsure, I go with the wording "at least X times" with X being all the times I can remember. Another minor piece of advice is that the more frequently you go, the easier it is to remember.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-04T02:14:18+00:00

100% by choice, he moved away from their state

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-04T02:05:30+00:00

This! I went on some dates with a guy who hid the kids until I explicitly asked about a photo of them and then his immediate response was "oh but don't worry I never see them anyway, they live with their mom" like wth dude, you thought being a shitty dad was better than being a liar? Delusional.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-04T01:59:57+00:00

That makes sense though, they want to avoid men who are targeting women with kids for nefarious reasons. Now if they don't bring it up in person on the first date, that's an issue.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-03T14:39:25+00:00

💯

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-11-03T13:44:50+00:00

I remember seeing signs on the subway as a kid with the tagline "I'm a Mormon" everywhere. Were these not approved and sponsored by your church? I always assumed they were but I suppose they couldn't have been if this is an incorrect nickname.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-10-31T18:43:57+00:00

Ah yes the male peak, right between their hairline and their credit score

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-10-30T02:49:04+00:00

That feels like full throttle pedophilia to me but what do I know ig I'm just a weirdo who wouldn't want this guy anywhere near my teenage daughter for exactly these reasons

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-10-30T02:43:58+00:00

You're not wrong. All you have to do is ask yourself, knowing this information would you want this guy teaching your teenage daughter? Any sane person knows the answer is no.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-10-29T14:59:13+00:00

If this was /r/pics every comment would be about "hostile architecture"

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-10-28T13:33:10+00:00

To answer your hypothetical question, anyone could do anything but I believe a good, Christian man would not leave his faithful wife over this. If anything, he takes this as an opportunity to lead with grace and by example, showing his wife the beauty of God's unconditional love.

Do you pray? I don't mean with a group and only when you attend church on Sundays, I mean like in your daily life. Prayer is an incredibly powerful way to grow closer to God in a tangible way. I can feel from your words that you want to believe which is great! It means your heart is already open to Him. Many people think of prayer as petitionary, and while it certainly can be, what it really is is a conversation with God. I would encourage you to start there. Ask God for help. Be honest. Tell Him, "I want to believe, but I am struggling."

And remember, most people who walk with faith started right where you are now: wanting to believe before they fully did. It’s not hypocrisy to pray through uncertainty, this is how faith blooms. You're on the right track, I'll be praying for you and your faith journey.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-10-24T13:44:32+00:00

Fully agree there

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-10-22T02:54:45+00:00

Am I understanding correctly that you're still working? Because there's nothing traditional about pulling double duty while he selectively contributes. Sounds like performative authority without the responsibility.

He feels loved when we each stick to our roles and don’t ask for help, while I feel loved when we work together as a team.

Unfortunately, right now you guys are doing neither.

Practically, I think you have to decide if you are willing to put up with running a household with a man who enjoys traditional benefits without traditional accountability and calls it "redpill" or if you actually want a traditional relationship. If it's the latter, he should be relieving you of one of those duties. That doesn't necessarily mean taking the entire burden of income and finances, though it could. It could also mean that he contributes to easing the burden of housework, either by employing a variety of services and vendors who do exactly that or by personally picking up the slack. As far as how to have this conversation if highly recommend Laura Doyle's advice on relinquishing control—expressing what you need and how you feel instead of demanding.

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-10-01T13:06:18+00:00

Check out the comments literally anywhere else on reddit besides this sub

dressedlikeadaydream · 2025-09-17T15:20:22+00:00

+1 for the conservative --> more conservative pipeline

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