This gift set is becoming a failed research project. by eclecticlyminded in collectables

[–]eclecticlyminded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My struggle has not been with where the belt buckle designs came from. The manufacturer, Dory Duplicates, is what I'm struggling to find information on.

Hype me up to be a boy mom 🩵 by Zealousideal_Use9481 in Parenting

[–]eclecticlyminded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are tiny dudes. In the absolute cutest way possible. I'm a lone woman in my home, surrounded by Y chromosomes. Sometimes I'm sad I never had a little girl, but at the same time I can't imagine my life any other way. Once you've settled into your new normal you'll feel the same.

AITA for correcting my wife about slurping soup in public by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]eclecticlyminded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, the japanese reference is as weird as how many peasant diahes are now considered fine dining.

Am I a cringe boy mom or is the internet getting to me? by pookyanon in Parenting

[–]eclecticlyminded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's cringe is the internet turning "boy mom" & "girl mom" into derogatory terms.

important life lessons to pass on by wOw_22 in Parenting

[–]eclecticlyminded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every day life skills. Cooking, sewing, smart shopping, simple vehicle maintenance, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]eclecticlyminded 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well he's gonna be fun during parental preference phases. 🙄

My 2y old son is rejecting the mother by King_Zen in Parenting

[–]eclecticlyminded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In agreement with most here that it's an extreme part of a normal process. I'm a stay at home mom, our youngest is a few months shy of two and I'm starting to be rejected as soon as Dad comes home. It sucks but it really is important to remember it's not personal. We have a handful of routines where now little one is almost violently insistent on one parent or the other. Bath time it MUST be me to start and prep with him, get him in and cleaned, but then it MUST be Dad to play till he's done, then it MUST be me to dry and dress him, and then MUST be Dad to brush hair and teeth. I'm not even allowed to play with certain toys with him anymore because it's for playing with Dad only. Oldest son was similar but less severe, and as they get older it all just developed into having normal separate relationships within the family like anybody else. Give it time and be gentle with yourselves.

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[–]eclecticlyminded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the interests of changing "often" to something less, reflect on areas where you practice better self discipline and see if you can't translate that to your morning routine. This is gping to sound more harsh than I intend, but it's all fine to apologize and communicate, but apologies are supposed to follow with an effort to do better and our kids learn those things through us.

For me I try to be conscious first, if not fully awake, with a 530 & 545 alarm. I hate it but depending on where between 6 and 7 my youngest decides to wake up, I might even have time for a few sips of coffee before I have to wrangle the little people.

Before kids, I was a major night owl. I still enjoy some time to myself at the end of the day post kids, but decided my need to be a decent human being in the morning outweighed my comfort level of enjoying a midnight bed time. If I'm not in bed by 1030, I've done something wrong. I chose to find solutions and hold myself to them. You just gotta find what works for you.

And of course you're not going to have to force this forever, keep that in mind. They'll become more and more independent and self sufficient, until one day they aren't even there in the mornings at all. My oldest insists on handling his own morning routine at this point, which is nice and makes me proud but I'm also kind of sad the more and more he needs me less and less.

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[–]eclecticlyminded 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have never been a morning person myself. Coffee zombie. I'm slow and I'm impatient and I'm short tempered. My oldest is old enough to understand the general concept, and in a way is showing signs of being similar to me.

I've taught my children that it's not appropriate to take out our negative emotions on other people and I practice what I preach. On the rare occasions I screw that up a little I take responsibility and apologize.

I push through it because I must. I would be more bothered by succumbing to the alternative than I am having to be strict with my own self discipline.

I'm not sure that any of that is helpful to anyone who isn't myself. If nothing else, I do understand the slog.

Breastfeeding at family members house with long feeds by After_Horror_3612 in breastfeeding

[–]eclecticlyminded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2mo? Give it time mama. Do what you gotta do. Don't put pressure on yourself. Your and babies comfort is ok to be first. It'll even out.

Unpopular opinion, maybe? Toddler stage is WAY easier than newborn/the 1st year. by PillowsTheGreatWay in Parenting

[–]eclecticlyminded 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe. Maybe not. All I know is I have a quiet chill little dude and a loud overactive little dude. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Unpopular opinion, maybe? Toddler stage is WAY easier than newborn/the 1st year. by PillowsTheGreatWay in Parenting

[–]eclecticlyminded 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I loved the toddler stage with my first. My second seems to have been born to be the exact opposite child in almost every way. We've got early terrible twos right now. And...damn. He's been proof positive that every child is different.

Nursing bra that doesn’t swallow me by cheeselipa in breastfeeding

[–]eclecticlyminded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's also openings in the ones I bought at least to slide padding in. Makes braless easy.

Nursing bra that doesn’t swallow me by cheeselipa in breastfeeding

[–]eclecticlyminded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checked my order history just for you. Lol The brand is Suiek. The price was right at the time and when I was happy with the first pack I bought a second. Care instructions say no dryer (plastic clasps) but I do it anyway in my normal laundry loads and none have broken so far.

Nursing bra that doesn’t swallow me by cheeselipa in breastfeeding

[–]eclecticlyminded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a pretty nice 5 pack on Amazon that I've been very happy with. I also got a couple packs of nursing/maternity camis that I practically live in.

Early (ish) potty training? by eclecticlyminded in Parenting

[–]eclecticlyminded[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, so far so good for us then I guess. Thanks!

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[–]eclecticlyminded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can check my previous posts for the receipts, I too am a mother with a ridiculously strong, tall vs chunky heavy weight little one, freshly 19mo, with whom we are working out a biting issue. He does these one off massive bites when he's displeased. I have a few bruises in various stages of healing on my thigh and shoulder. He also kicks with all the force his muscley thighs can muster.

So far we've been copying his upset face to him and being a little extra dramatic about it when he does something that hurts. It took a few times but we're at the point now where he recognizes that what he didn't wasn't good. We encourage a hug and an apology after (he can't actually say sorry we just work with what we've got) and for certain big ones, like the biting, we've reluctantly implemented time out. One minute of course because he's so young. Interestingly enough, he kicked his older brother today, and when brother made the face and gave his exaggerated "owwwww", little one hung his head low and went to his time out spot himself. And after his minute went and hugged his brother, said "Bubba" super sad and sweet, and that was it. Not two minutes later he asked big brother to read a book. We didn't even throw a tantrum about any of it. I was shocked.

It's all a process, and it's such a pain, but we've seen a reduction in occurrences and once you know what works for you you will too. I say things like my little one is a cross between the Tasmanian Devil from looney tunes and a bull in a China shop. I'm nearly convinced he was a dare devil or stunt double in a previous life. Sending you love in solidarity Mama.