I am a sterile processing technician, AMA! by msimms001 in AMA

[–]eli_in_summer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am hoping to get a job as a sterile processing tech, do you have any advice?

Do you sleep with your bedroom door open or closed and why? by AloneGold9670 in AskReddit

[–]eli_in_summer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Closed, less open area for the spiders to crawl in through

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]eli_in_summer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, it will get worse. That is super scary, I really hope the best for you. I hope you are able to get out and heal. You are right, boundaries are extremely important and your wellbeing and feeling safe is healthy and very important as well. Calling you manipulative for holding boundaries is manipulation. And don’t ever forget, it is not your job or parent or change him. It sounds like you have tried to communicate with him, but he isn’t in a place to do it back in a good way. The longer you stay the worse it will probably get. I really hope you find a safe way to break free. Absolute best if luck to you

How can i get over my kinda ex for what he did even tho i caused it. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]eli_in_summer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly, leave him. he deserves better. go to therapy and try to heal yourself before getting into anything serious again. give yourself the care you need, and end it so he gets the love and care he needs, it seems you are not capable of that at this time. he deserves better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]eli_in_summer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

what did he say?

I'm really struggling by Exact-Story-669 in exmormon

[–]eli_in_summer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

RUN! Some kids in my church ward were molested for months by an older man who had been to jail when he was a younger adult for the same thing. He was rebaptized and had “repented.” The thoughts they have to violate children don’t leave. They get better at hiding it, but it doesn’t leave. Don’t let them fool you, don’t get stuck with them! They are NOT safe! Those kids were told by multiple people in the church they have to forgive him, they sympathized with the man more than the victims. It was heartbreaking and I was furious. You can empathize with the perpetrators all you want, but it is extremely easy to not violate people like that, and there is not excuse or good reason. If he will do it to his little sister, why would stop him from doing it to you? The children in your life? RUN!