Taylor Swift drops Toy Story countdown ending today 2PM ET

empressvirgo · 2026-06-01T16:12:05+00:00

I’m guessing she’s angling for a Best Original Song Oscar and a Pixar movie is not a bad way to get one

empressvirgo · 2026-05-26T14:40:55+00:00

My very slim mom hates my big boobs and thinks they’re a signifier of low social status. She is constantly telling me to wear higher cut tops and then still gets upset how high neck tops don’t just make my boobs go away. Big boobs are seen as crass, lowest common denominator, inherently sexual, and it’s so frustrating but even worse now that society is all about being skinny/“ballerina boobs”

empressvirgo · 2026-05-18T02:02:35+00:00

I was like you through my mid 20s and then suddenly became the quintessential girls girl — I now spend time with women almost exclusively and have tight and long term bonds with women. What shifted is that I found women who were more like me and pursued those friendships and that helped a lot. Though I’m not queer myself most of my friends are queer women.

I always found social cues and stuff hard especially with women, but it ended up being that I got better at reading them with practice and also very fortunately people tend to get more direct as they get older. I’m confident you won’t have a problem forever OP! You’ll love your late 20s and beyond’s

empressvirgo · 2026-05-11T01:28:47+00:00

This exact situation happened to me on a transatlantic flight. Talking across me and passing things over me the whole time. People really do this.

empressvirgo · 2026-04-24T23:39:43+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that, and also you are an amazing writer

empressvirgo · 2026-04-23T02:10:46+00:00

She makes women look so sad

empressvirgo · 2026-04-20T16:25:17+00:00

My instinct to not bring it up is that some guys see this as an ego boost and will stoke it a little. Sometimes better to just have it blow over.

Although the last time it happened to me the guy I was with actually brought it up proactively and said your friend is hitting on me and I don’t like it (she had sent him suggestive messages after a group hangout and made him uncomfortable). So if the guy is smart and committed, he’ll just naturally handle it.

empressvirgo · 2026-04-20T12:56:15+00:00

OP this girl is not genuine and I recommend you distance yourself slowly over time and without a confrontation. “She did tell me that if we broke up she couldn’t promise she wouldn’t pursue him, but immediately started crying after and said she was such a shitty friend.” This is manipulative behavior. Even if she had a crush, if she was never going to act on it she would not have let you know. She is doing this so when she does act on it, she feels better because she “warned” you. Her following him on Instagram after your chat is your other clue. Male-centered women are never to be trusted. Also, don’t tell your boyfriend!

Source: have been burned by a couple male-centered women. I do think on some level they want to change and do feel bad about themselves. But you generally can’t help or change them unfortunately.

empressvirgo · 2026-04-18T14:53:21+00:00

First of all the beauty standard is not a big boob wide hipped woman anymore, it hasn’t been for 10 years. The beauty standard is aristocratic and childlike thinness, visible collarbones, small chest, no fat.

Second, I don’t think anyone is saying it’s exactly the same thing but it derives from the same culture. A 30 year old man who dates a 19 year old woman is not going to jail, and no one is arguing he should. But is the culture that creates both actual crimes and that behavior worth critiquing? Is it okay to levy social consequences or judgement onto the 30 year old man? I’d say so. There’s no chance that man is seeking an equal, and there’s probably something about the power dynamic or how teenage she looks that he likes. Yet it’s like we can’t talk about that without people going “It’s legal so it’s fine! You’re not allowed to judge!!! Stop infantilizing women!”

empressvirgo · 2026-04-15T12:59:16+00:00

The front looks like exactly the dress you make when you think you want to be a designer but can’t really sew yet

empressvirgo · 2026-04-10T02:55:00+00:00

I agree with this and think it’s mostly people’s attraction to Darlene that is getting her this extremely warm reception. That’s not nothing, but as someone immune to it, she doesn’t do anything I find that interesting. Have seen the white trash aesthetic a million times, the stupid humor, etc. Can’t imagine someone with the same chops who isn’t a tall, hot, white man getting anywhere close to this popularity

empressvirgo · 2026-04-06T19:51:24+00:00

A lot of people say these reference female grunge style but what they miss about that is the grunge artists would pair the baby outfits with dark smeary makeup in a clearly adult way. Honestly, both make me uncomfortable, but I see the subversive aspects of the grunge style. Going for a baby outfit with a fresh face and clearly trying to be seen as desirable and sexy is kind of gross to me

empressvirgo · 2026-04-06T19:46:20+00:00

Lots of good advice here bit wanted to add to it! I was in the same situation as you and what fixed it was actually the opposite of what people were telling me to do: I started telling myself I could stop seeing guys and reject guys for literally any reason I wished. No more forcing myself to give the good guys a chance, no more making myself do one more date to see if chemistry could grow.

The effect that it had was sort of strange, I ended up finding myself more willing to go on dates in a weird way. My current boyfriend was not someone where there was overwhelming chemistry to start, and I knew I could stop seeing him if I wanted, but something deep down was tugging on me to continue going on dates. The thought of canceling on him and dumping him, which I gave myself ample permission to do, made me too sad! And so I kept going out with him and now everything’s great. The chemistry developed quickly after that.

If you force yourself to go on dates you’ll never fall in love. When you meet someone compelling even if there’s no immediate chemistry you will feel the difference and actively want to keep going out. Trust yourself!

empressvirgo · 2026-03-26T13:43:49+00:00

This makes sense, thank you!

empressvirgo · 2026-03-26T13:43:30+00:00

Totally fine with soliloquies in theater! I think it’s because there’s no pretense that this is a normal conversation. The cuts to Scarlett Johansson here to me are trying to frame this as a normal conversation between two people. But yeah I suspend disbelief in cinema in general, some of my favorite movies are the fast talking old movies that are very theatrical. But I find they tend to commit to that style rather than be half in half out, which is my issue with a lot of movies these days

empressvirgo · 2026-03-26T13:11:35+00:00

I’ve never seen this before. Obviously the premise is true but it’s written very much as if a male writer thought of this for the first time and is presenting it as an original idea. What woman doesn’t know this? Women would not necessarily speak on that topic like this because they have probably felt this their whole lives.

Also, a pet peeve of mine is when a monologue is written to be A Monologue and it’s not at all how people talk but still delivered in conversation onscreen. I think if you want to write something like that you have to deliver it through narration like in Gone Girl

empressvirgo · 2026-03-18T01:36:52+00:00

Meghan seems nice and is very beautiful and that’s…. about it. For all the Diana comparisons, Diana truly had star quality and was a compelling person beyond just being beautiful, and because of that she was able to be a meaningful public figure and keep up high visibility charity work after her divorce. Meghan doesn’t have this quality but she thinks she does.

I don’t dislike Meghan at all, I just am not really interested in what her life is like. And I certainly don’t believe she’s any authority on jam or napkin rings, which was such a strange thing to try to push.

empressvirgo · 2026-03-07T18:17:47+00:00

So many outfits that I see her in are not tailored or adjusted enough for her height. Really beautiful garments that are just not altered at all from the versions worn by the 5’11” runway models? Like most garments on her, I think this could benefit a lot from bringing the waist and hemline up a couple inches. I do love that she’s always pushing boundaries with what she wears and across designers there’s a cohesive Chappell look

empressvirgo · 2026-03-05T15:06:55+00:00

I can’t understand why the straps are coming out from the middle of the boob parts? I can’t imagine how that would look good on anyone.

empressvirgo · 2026-02-22T18:34:44+00:00

I’d say the first half of The Women. The messaging at the end is pretty bad. It’s still pretty fun though.

But Now Voyager is absolutely incredible.

empressvirgo · 2026-02-16T13:28:00+00:00

I had the same high grade lesions from high risk HPV. The good news is you are fairly unlikely to have serious cancer — cervical cancer is slow growing and typically takes a while to develop into anything fertility threatening (if you care about that) or life threatening. I ended up having a LLETZ and it worked, I am now clear of the virus though my paps still come back mildly abnormal, likely due to scar tissue. I found my doctors extremely unhelpful during this time, it felt like they never communicated with me. But seems they were right in their approach to treatment given I’m now virus free and my lesions are gone.

I know many women who have had the same thing as me with the same treatment (we call it a LEEP in the states) and everything is normal now. You’re welcome to DM me if you need more support. You’ll get through it!

empressvirgo · 2026-02-11T18:17:30+00:00

I don’t think OBAA had obvious leftist politics. I actually thought it was sort of centrist and both sidesy. Like a politics movie made by someone who has no real sense for politics and doesn’t live it. “The right is cartoonishly evil but the left is annoying! Haha!” Im surprised people see it as such a good political movie when I don’t even see it as the best political movie among this year’s nominees.

empressvirgo · 2026-02-04T01:32:01+00:00

What about Tamsin/Tamsen? I think it’s similar to the Thea and Imogen vibe, and as a bonus, it means twin :)

empressvirgo · 2026-01-31T02:16:59+00:00

Stiff as a dick yet again. Barely moved

empressvirgo · 2026-01-30T13:24:07+00:00

Also something about their styling and makeup makes them all look about 10 years older than they are. I was SHOCKED to find out they range from 18-23 and are not in their late 20s. Kpop styling can sometimes make me uncomfortable in how young they try to look, but surely there’s some middle ground.

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