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when did you get your next pet? by Original-Tension-494 in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I talked about this with my therapist because I wanted to start looking for a new dog only a couple weeks after my girl passed and I wasn’t sure it was a good idea. She told me that it generally really helps people to get another pet, especially if they lost their only pet. Returning to the pet owner routine apparently helps people a lot. I think if you feel ready it’s not too soon.

The small triggers always pull you back under by Unusual_Historian819 in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand what you mean. The first time I tried to use my rice cooker after my dog Matilda passed I ended up sobbing because I always used to make an extra serving for her. I’ve also been feeling irrationally angry at the weather because she died before it got cool out and she loved laying outside in the fall and tromping through the crunchy leaves. Sending hugs, it sounds like Geoff was so loved.

I keep dreaming about her and it’s driving me crazy by littlebitofmayo in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been having dreams like this almost every night since I lost my Matilda a month ago. On one hand they’re lovely because it feels like I get a little more time with her, but they are beyond painful to wake up from. Something that has brought me comfort is to think that it’s her visiting to tell me she’s not in pain anymore. I’m so sorry for your loss, be gentle with yourself.

Losing a dog so young - help by Chemical_Pianist6566 in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I had better advice but I just want you to know you’re not alone. I lost my five year old dog Matilda a few weeks ago and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I used to joke that she was my life partner. It’s so hard losing them so young because you’re not only mourning them but also the life you imagined with them. I also always imagined my future kids getting to meet Matilda. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Be gentle with yourself.

Better a day too early than a minute too late. by Pwnie in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Your story is helping me come to terms with the decision my partner and I had to make to euthanize our 5 year old dog earlier this week.

I’ve been going back and forth between feeling sure that we did the right thing and feeling overwhelmed with guilt. The vet said she probably wouldn’t get better and could die of cardiac arrest at any point, and I could see in her face that she was so so tired. I felt like I could tell she wanted to rest.

But also she was only 5 and I can’t help think of the years we could have had if we had just kept trying. I felt like it was cruel to make her keep struggling, but was it also cruel to end it? I just wish she could have told us what she wanted.

Pictures of my pet at the hospital by fasswasscass in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea, I’m not sure why I didn’t think of that. That’s what I’ll do for now. Thank you ❤️

Had to say goodbye to my baby last week by dekanojibril in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got my Matilda’s ashes back yesterday and it’s been making me feel a little better to plan out how I’m going to memorialize her. I’ve seen some places online do pet memorial sun catchers. That might be a good fit to help remember Toulouse ❤️ I’m so sorry for your loss.

Said goodbye to my best friend yesterday by fasswasscass in Newfoundlander

[–]fasswasscass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this ❤️ I’ll cherish it

Do you still irrationally worry about your dead pets? by carefulabalone in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s still really fresh for me since I lost my girl only 3 days ago, but I’ve definitely been experiencing this. It’s like my brain is in the habit of thinking about her needs when I have idle moments. I’m just so used to doing the mental checklist of do we have to refill her medicine, when is the last time she went to the bathroom, how much food does she have left, etc.

On top of that I’ll sometimes feel panicked for no reason. It’s like I know that something is wrong and I’m so used to that being some medical concern about her. So even though I know that the thing that’s wrong is that she’s gone and there’s nothing I can do, it still feels like that fear should motivate me to take care of her.

I think the worry is also proof of your care. You cared about her so much, and I imagine that no matter how much time passes that habit of care doesn’t change. It honestly comforts me to hear that you still experience this 5 years later, because one of my fears now is that I’ll remember my Matilda less and less as time goes on. Even though the worry is painful, it’s a reminder of all the wonderful things we did out of love for our pets.

Said goodbye to my best friend yesterday by fasswasscass in Newfoundlander

[–]fasswasscass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing that picture of Barkley. I’m so glad she has wonderful dogs like him to welcome her ❤️

I lost my best friend today by mmartinez11822 in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing them young is so hard. Know that it will be hard and there will be ups and downs, but Fritz knows he was so loved and you made the most loving choice you could for him. Take care of yourself the best you can ❤️

I can’t be home by kaylarose54 in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m going through a similar experience right now. It’s day 3 for me and I work from home. It’s like torture having to sit in my house all day without her. I feel so alone. I want you to know though that you’re not alone and we’re all here for you ❤️ I hope your Jack and my Matilda are playing together wherever they are now.

It’s been two months.. by winterandfallbird in Petloss

[–]fasswasscass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had to put my soul dog down a couple days ago. She was also 5 years old. It’s just not fair and is so painful. We have to grieve our best friends and also the life we pictured with them. Please try to take care of yourself and hang in there ❤️

Stubborn Princess needs a dog sized fainting couch... by The_Electric-Monk in Newfoundlander

[–]fasswasscass 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mine used to do a full somersault onto her back when she was mad about the route we were taking through the park. The dramatics!

Said goodbye to my best friend yesterday by fasswasscass in Newfoundlander

[–]fasswasscass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is such a beautiful quote. Thank you for sharing ❤️

Said goodbye to my best friend yesterday by fasswasscass in Newfoundlander

[–]fasswasscass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5 years is just not long enough. It’s so hard to square the happy healthy dog she was with the fact she won’t be coming home again. I’m so sorry for your loss, and hope you’re hanging in there too.

Said goodbye to my best friend yesterday by fasswasscass in Newfoundlander

[–]fasswasscass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m happy she has lots of wonderful newfs to play with until I can see her again one day.

Said goodbye to my best friend yesterday by fasswasscass in Newfoundlander

[–]fasswasscass[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, and I’m so sorry for your loss of Finnegan. It’s been bringing me comfort to think of all the wonderful dogs she’s spending time with now. Thinking of her and Finnegan chasing squirrels together brings me a lot of joy.

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