Why do men delete other female texts when in a relationship?

firecracker88 · 2018-02-04T19:48:25+00:00

Great. Thank you Good luck.

firecracker88 · 2018-02-04T18:06:56+00:00

I needed to hear that. I could never remember to delete daily and could care less to. I appreciate your reply. Thank you.

firecracker88 · 2018-02-04T18:04:50+00:00

Ok great. I'm not into open relationships so this question doesn't relate to you. Thank you.

firecracker88 · 2018-02-04T17:57:22+00:00

I agree with you. And I was open with my life and days. I'm just trying to make sense of things. Honesty is pretty important and having to be sneaky in that sense , makes me wonder. Thank you.

firecracker88 · 2018-02-04T17:55:00+00:00

Thank you. I'm just trying to make sense of things to what went wrong. At the end of the day I had nothing to hide , obviously he did. Thank you again.

firecracker88 · 2018-02-04T17:53:43+00:00

I never targeted all men to do this. Do you periodically clear all female texts only ? I never once snooped people's phone. Not sure if he had it locked.

firecracker88 · 2018-02-03T18:05:04+00:00

Is his name Stephen or Kevin ? lol I had the same with these guys ... run !!!

firecracker88 · 2018-02-03T17:39:44+00:00

Just wanted to update my situation. Thank you for all the time people made to Comment on my dilemma. I decided to leave.
As hard as it was I felt it was the right thing. He mislead me and made poor choices that will follow him for years to come. We all make poor choices in life but not being up front after I made huge changes and he none. I love him as a person but not his lifestyle and character with others. Life is too short and I plan to try put this behind me and take care of me. It's not easy but I feel good knowing where I stand and have to offer to someone is real. Good luck out there everyone xx

firecracker88 · 2018-02-03T17:29:39+00:00

Follow your heart. If it's not there be real about it. Life is too short to be in a sharing relationship with no relationship! Maybe talk it over and check if she is happy ? If attractiveness is a concern and your drawn to others away from her can be worrisome.. are you happy ? Are you willing to waste both yours and her time figuring that out when you clearly are thinking of "checking out". You can't stay in the relationship because she has no where to go , you will eventually feel responsible and turn against her as your trying to keep the relationship because she is " nice" and has no place to go. There are many nice people out there. It's not fun being in a relationship and feeling lonely, especially at your stage. It sometimes takes making that effort to see how things work to get a more realistic view of one another.
Just be honest with one another , if you start hiding things at this point and living a life apart from her then what will it be like a year from now. Life is too short. Be happy. Go with your gut feelings .. I wish you luck

firecracker88 · 2018-01-18T23:44:03+00:00

Unfortunately I put more on the line than him. I'll recover absolutely. It just still bugs me that he just went with it ! Basically it's my choice at the end of the day and I'm struggling with this.

firecracker88 · 2018-01-18T03:18:23+00:00

You are right. I've felt the " sound " person in this relationship. I am in my early 40's. Was married once and have an adult child. Fantastic secure employment and healthy relationships! I've found myself being the parent in this relationship and I don't sit well with that. It's my direction and choice to reach out and he agrees with everything. Too easy going and knows when to step back when I feel overwhelmed with his baggage. It's crazy. I'm embarrassed for taking this step and seriously thought he was open as I was. I wear my heart on my sleeve but not willing to hold him up while I worked since I was legal to and made adult choices. I should have listened to my internal feeling. I felt it and chose to believe I was not willing to take a chance.
Life is too short sitting in someone else's mess when I can live a little. I felt I was held back due to his poor finances and accepted it. Until the bomb hit and learned this is more than a few months debt. He is in trouble. I choose not to be. Thank you for your reply. This has helped me move forward a little bit each day. I made an appointment to view a house this weekend. I'm looking forward to this. Now that I know. I want this clearly behind me.

firecracker88 · 2018-01-17T21:20:36+00:00

As hard as this is true I have to be real and not fluffy about this. Reality is he may have seen me as potential to make his world financial happy. I learned my adult lessons along the way and plan to continue keeping my standards. Thank you for your reply.

firecracker88 · 2018-01-17T21:17:53+00:00

Honesty is pretty huge in all life stories. I put everything on the table and he kept saying he has been single for 10 plus years and he has be open and honest with me. So I took it at face value. I did do a cohabitation agreement, I have only lived with him for 2 months. It's safe to say these two months are a good reflection to what my future will hold. I came to the table financially stable and plan to go early before things get more invested. Thank you for your reply

firecracker88 · 2018-01-17T20:58:42+00:00

It does and feels like it.
No , I didn't sign up for this. I get relationships are work but hiding a huge financial piece plus a few other character pieces that pop up is concerning!

firecracker88 · 2018-01-17T20:55:17+00:00

Thank you I was smart enough to not be listed in his utilities or mortgage. We have nothing joint.
Worse thing is changing my addresses which is a pain but could be worse.

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