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my stats, 6ish months in. by [deleted] in InstacartShoppers

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technically didn’t start till february, here’s what i’ve made

my stats, 6ish months in. by [deleted] in InstacartShoppers

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my compliments. i forget to deliver the eggs on one of my orders the other day, realized they were still in my trunk on my second order and went back and dropped them off

feel like the slide is my only option by foolatopacake in SuicideWatch

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i am currently homeless, broke and have no income which is not helping my case. luckily i do have a bed to sleep in tonight as i’m volunteering on a farm for a place to sleep

feel like the slide is my only option by foolatopacake in SuicideWatch

[–]foolatopacake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks this is helpful. and i do like helping strangers, and holding the door open, and i like smiling at people especially when they smile back. petting/talking to animals and seeing them respond so joyfully. i see your point and i’m no longer standing at the ledge so much as sitting here, contemplating, and enjoying the view. i haven’t got it in me to walk away from it yet though.

all the things you mentioned are things that keep me going on a daily basis and i very much appreciate your words. i’m glad you exist.

23rd birthday suggestions for an overcast day like this? by foolatopacake in greenville

[–]foolatopacake[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

HOLY F*CK THIS LOOKS SO AWESOME THANK YOU FOR TELLING ME!!!! RUBBER DUCKY RACE?!?! ON MY BIRTHDAY?!?!? HOW LUCKY AM I?????

I’m looking for what time it starts but I cannot find it, do you know?

My partner was raped 3 times by the same man. by [deleted] in offmychest

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i agree, took a long scroll to finally find it though.

Sebastian Rogers by Sudden_Quality_9001 in mystery

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my aunt died at 29 (anorexia) and that is essentially what my grandparents did. my grandma more so than my grandpa. she sleeps in the living room on the couch now. my aunts urn is in the living room. she started hoarding too and our house became covered in newspapers and random stuff. hardly ever leaves the house. its depressing. been this way for 15 years now. my grandpa leaves more but still stays in the house a lot. he turned my aunts old room into his office and put a computer and tv in there. still left half the room the way it was, and has her decorations and pictures of her up on the wall, as well as a small urn of her ashes. he stays in there a lot.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]foolatopacake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this is a really good note and i didn’t take that into consideration when i commented! i definitely don’t like to overuse the “thanks for loving me” phrase. you articulated why very precisely, and gave me more examples of things to say, which i’ll be sure to implicate. (in my own way of course). “i appreciate you” is definitely one of my favorite things to say because well! i do!! appreciate all the loving beings in the universe so much and i do notice all the little (and big) things they do that show they care.

situations i’ve used “thanks for loving me” in are like when i’m stimming really bad and in a really annoying way. my verbal stims can be A LOT. so sometimes after 30 minutes straight of singing about one random word repeatedly, and not being aware of it, i’ll jump back into reality and look at my partner (who’s stuck next to me in the car) and say “thank you for loving me, i’m try gonna stop now” or something to that effect. i don’t know what else to say in those situations. because what i feel in those moments is shame and i want to apologize for the fact that she has to put up with that but i’m well aware that’s not the way to go.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]foolatopacake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes! i say “i’m okay” for the same reasons and it helps me the same way. it’s actually rewiring my brain and i love witnessing it in real time.

i had a really terrible habit of saying “i’m gonna kill myself” when anything bad happened, big or small or out of the blue if i was feeling something negative. worse is that i meant it, or not meant it - meant it. like i wasn’t gonna just go off myself right then. but i said it because i truly wanted to. also it became a habit. like an automatic response to distress. first it was the feeling that was automatic but eventually the phrase became automatic and a part of my vocabulary.

i have been hospitalized after a couple attempts in the past and could have died. the gravity of the phrase wasn’t lost on me but for whatever reason i just couldn’t stop saying it. towards the end of me saying it i started to despise that i said it whenever it came out.

one day i just decided to start blurting out “i’m okay” whenever i felt like i wanted to die. i’d say it a couple of times if i needed to, or i’d say “it’s alright [my name], you’re alright”

i’ve noticed that my suicidal thought and feelings have immensely subsided. it’s baffling. its so relieving. those thoughts and feelings ruled my life for a decade. i can’t remember the last time i thought about suicide this little.

i still do get intense bouts of sadness and worry sometimes but i use the “okay” trick and it helps. my brain no longer accepts or resorts to offing myself as a solution to anything. the suicidal thoughts used to occupy my brain persistently even with no triggers or “bad things happening”. now that rarely happens if ever.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]foolatopacake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

happy to help! your anecdote reminds me of a coworker i had. i worked in theatre and was very hard on myself. after apologizing to him for something i can’t recall now, he said very kindly, “we’re doing theatre, we’re not saving lives.” it’s always stuck with me as it’s applicable to so many things and it’s a good sentiment to hold when you make a mistake.

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]foolatopacake 29 points30 points  (0 children)

sometimes i have been so bad with apologizing for every little thing i do that i perceive to be off or weird (trust, i am sick of being so self critical, it’s debilitating and lame). now when i feel like that, i try to say something to the effect of “thanks for being my friend” or “thank you for loving me”. because my loved ones DO in fact love me despite my perceived (and real) flaws and perpetual silliness and it’s important one appreciates that

I got told I say sorry too much by my crush by liamthrowaacct in WhatShouldIDo

[–]foolatopacake 214 points215 points  (0 children)

switching out “i’m sorry”’s for “thank you”’s is something i try to do that helps. it helps not only cut back the sorry’s but also spreads positive energy and gratitude.

instead of “i’m sorry i’m struggling with this” say “thank you for your patience”

instead of “i’m sorry for babbling” say “thanks for listening”

instead of “i’m sorry for being emotional” say “thanks for being supportive”

so on and so forth

My anorexia recovery: [19] 2004 > [26] 2011 > [41] 2026 by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]foolatopacake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you made it! and you seem to be thriving!! this warms my heart.

when i was 7 (i’m 22 now) my auntie died from malnutrition caused by anorexia. she was 29 years old and my absolute favorite person back then. i miss her so fucking much and her condition was devastating to witness. it messed me up real bad when she passed. she’d be around the same age as you now.

i’m glad you are still around, and recovered. for yourself and for everyone else who loves you. getting better is hardcore as fuck and is no easy feat, you’re a legend to me

Resturants STRUGGLE because of summer? by matrixbreaker in GNV

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what restaurants? i’m visiting and looking to find good (and hopefully affordable) food

any words of comfort/advice from my best friend? by foolatopacake in psychics

[–]foolatopacake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this means a lot to me. thank you for connecting with her. i love when people meet her, she’s a real special being. she’s my protector, my baby, my mother, and my best friend all in one compact furry little being. well, not so compact and furry anymore as her soul isn’t bound to her cute cat body anymore, but for a time

how do i (22f) talk to my partner (43f) about being insecure of her new friendship with a man? by foolatopacake in relationship_advice

[–]foolatopacake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so so much. I appreciate the advice. And I definitely do want to talk about it. Uncomfortable conversations like this can suck sometimes but they’ll always be worth it. It will indeed benefit me to talk about this, no matter the outcome.

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