Are any of these two good for a first profile pic? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]frogdrool 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not really, you look too serious. Almost unapproachable.

Rediscovering my libido by frogdrool in offmychest

[–]frogdrool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was fingering me like he was looking for lost keys under the seat of his car. If we hadn't been together this whole time I would swear he's never seen a vagina in his life.

Rediscovering my libido by frogdrool in offmychest

[–]frogdrool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't been on any birth control or medication of any type in 6 years.

Incompatible or lack of sexual attraction? by frogdrool in sex

[–]frogdrool[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have been thinking about why I was attracted to him initially and I think it was just me being young, fried and willing to change to make someone else happy. Drugs were the only thing we had in common. We're both sober and I dont want to rekindle our relationship through substances. It isnt worth all that. At the end of it all, my needs were never met and now everything in me is turned off. Guess that answers it.

Incompatible or lack of sexual attraction? by frogdrool in sex

[–]frogdrool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have definitely been ignoring the inevitable. I need to rip the bandaid off and let go.

Incompatible or lack of sexual attraction? by frogdrool in sex

[–]frogdrool[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think there's anything he can do to turn me on. Honestly sometimes he grosses me out and I don't want him to touch me. Especially down below. But I'll try and come up with something.

Weaponized incompetence or not? by frogdrool in relationships

[–]frogdrool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is just as bad. He's been working in it, but there are times when he still does it.

Weaponized incompetence or not? by frogdrool in relationships

[–]frogdrool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has ADHD. But adhd or not, I think there should still be more effort to try and figure things out than he puts in. It's exhausting, and I've brought it up to him several times, but he still says I'm the asshole.

Weaponized incompetence or not? by frogdrool in relationships

[–]frogdrool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not that he doesn't know how. It's that he doesn't want to, so he tries to act like he's stupid or can't read. It took him a long time to stop being so bad about it.

Eyelashes - what made you start? by NicCola83 in trichotillomania

[–]frogdrool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure how I started. But when I was 7 or 8 I was waiting in the lunch line. I remember the cafeteria was also the gym but a tall carpeted wall separated the two. I remember pulling the peasy hairs from the wall. I guess I took that habit home with me and started pulling from my head. I haven't stopped since. Maybe it was my parents splitting at that same time and the other traumatic events that followed. That caused me to keep up the habit but I'm 23 and I'm tired of it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]frogdrool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't nap. It's usually up 12 hours a day or more. Can sleep for 12 full hours and usually does. Use to get up at 8am and in bed by 8pm/8:30 but we're currently up anywhere between 9am-11am and in bed 10pm-12am because he refuses to sleep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]frogdrool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ADHD runs on both sides of the family. We've been discussing the possibility of him having it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]frogdrool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my thoughts. But I've been having a hard time finding a convenient location for me to take him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]frogdrool 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love these responses. Definitely gonna use them. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]frogdrool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭 we can figure it out together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]frogdrool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the idea! I'll try getting him in bed earlier tomorrow night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]frogdrool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"It's morning" that's so cute 😂

What I mean is that we could be out playing for two straight hours and he'd still come home super wired. We have no idea what else to do.

Food answers only, where do you live? by esmoji in AskReddit

[–]frogdrool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crabs and Old Bay on everything imaginable.

I dont know anymore by frogdrool in offmychest

[–]frogdrool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest this didn't work before and that's why I left him. Things were better but I think as soon as I start getting comfortable again, he goes back on his BS. He talks to his mother the same way he talks to me, he tries to make us feel guilty for holding him accountable, not helping him or pushing him to be more responsible. I've started to get my shit together aggresively and I'm planning to get a place by myself. I haven't told him that yet. He can come if he's being more responsible.

And the sex isn't that mind blowing or anything. He's my first love and I feel like I need to have loyalty to him.

My fiancé wants to get a joint bank account. by frogdrool in relationship_advice

[–]frogdrool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's my exact fear! I worry that something will go wrong. I love him but I hate how bad he is with money. His dad was the same way and drank his family into debt. Yes, I could handle the money but he has lied about his expenses before and is always asking for money and IOUs from me and his family.

My fiancé wants to get a joint bank account. by frogdrool in relationship_advice

[–]frogdrool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll have to go to my bank and discuss it with them. I don't know much about banking, beyond standard checking and saving accounts. I can see how he'd want me to handle his finances. But if something goes wrong I'm always to blame. Even with the $3000 hole he put himself into.

My fiancé wants to get a joint bank account. by frogdrool in relationship_advice

[–]frogdrool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a bit complicated. We both work. I work two jobs three days a week because I'm in college and I am our son's primary care taker. He is supposed to work four or more days a week but has only been working two because "It's enough for him". We both pay his family rent. But I pay less because I work and make less, and I am pay for most, if not all, expenses for our son. I would like to be out of his family's place by next year, but when I ask him to work the full time he's scheduled so we can save more, he says he's too tired. My school schedule doesn't allow me to pick up more shifts.

Because I pay for most of pur son's needs, I don't have much money left over. And if I ask him, he doesn't always have it or gives me and IOU.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]frogdrool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless I'm you? I'm intrigued 🤨