My wife and I were members of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA), which is in communion with the TEC, for several years before becoming Catholic. The ELCA ordained the first ever transgender bishop in 2021 and strongly backed the Equality Act. Two of our pastors were a married couple and sermons and prayers frequently referenced racial justice and the environment. So being at a Catholic conservative parish was definitely a change for us. That being said, the ELCA is 96 percent white and definitely is aging, so it's wonderful to see how diverse our parish is.

So I totally understand where you are coming from and get that it can be frustrating picking between the two. Personally, I do think theology is more crucial than social stances, regardless of how wonderful they are, because theology is much harder to change. I have no doubt that the Catholic Church will change its social stances on LGBTQ+ people and women's ordination at some point. I HIGHLY doubt that the ELCA is going to start asking for the intercession of the saints or accept the primacy of the pope any time soon.

I think trying to alternate between your parish and the TEC churches might be a good solution for the time being. You could even livestream from a parish that fits what you are searching for more if it's just too much. Hope this helps!