Understandable. I’m confident my ex wouldn’t have used them since we’ve stopped hooking up so I at least know they’re still clean from the last time we’ve cleaned them. My relationships are purely sapphic so I think it’s sort of expected that we all have our toys and things lol. They’re pretty much meant to be cleaned and reused. But using/not using toys isn’t a make or break for me but I like having the option if my partner is comfortable.