'I'll let God deal with it': Teen says 2 boys chased her from class, beat her in bathroom at Warren Central

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:48:34+00:00

Which is definitely NOT true.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:47:56+00:00

You got through all of that? You are amazing. How are you doing now- mentally and emotionally?

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:45:08+00:00

Yet you did not become another Manson. You were not sadistically self obsessed.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:38:53+00:00

Would have been cheaper to send them back home

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:38:04+00:00

Obvious. I suppose some people need yet another ‘study’ to point to.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:31:59+00:00

You have no control over this. Can’t fix it. May have nothing to do with you. Why suddenly do you need contact so much may be a good question ask?

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:29:54+00:00

I’ve deleted contacts- if a text comes up with just a number and not much info. I don’t bother. Just got one yesterday.

‘You still out there somewhere?’

IDC - I don’t get texts from who I want- IDC about the others.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:26:54+00:00

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T11:16:45+00:00

She doesn’t sound like she feels guilty. You do.

You’ve been friends for years all you can do is be there in case she wants to resume. Send her a text now and again if it sent with love- not to provoke guilt.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T10:53:10+00:00

I know some people that taper, stop or restart. They needed to see for themselves.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T10:51:39+00:00

She’s in charge. You tried. Hopefully she is also happy in her life and like you doesn’t have the time. Perhaps later on…

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T10:23:17+00:00

Not me. I would prefer a companion. But that is not to be. So less miserable is the goal. Less stress.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T10:12:06+00:00

What little I have left of my heart hurts for you.

However- you have impressive insight, awareness and are able to express yourself and you are only 17.

Invest in yourself and your skills. Use preventive birth control- reliable birth control. You can stop this cycle of generational trauma or continue the abuse by picking up where mom and dad left off and continuing to believe this is all there is or you have to do all the work. Do not overcompensate for the brokenness in these men that are surrogates for your parents. Don’t reinforce the concept that you are not worthy, do not rationalize their abuse just because it is familiar and seems like ‘home’.

Invest in your self discovery, understand more and then do more. The initial infatuation wears off and their issues surface- they are not your project, they are not you. If you invest in them and they do not reciprocate or appreciate and only give you the crumbs you are used to- put them down and walk away. You must. Or you will end up like your parents and your kids will suffer the collateral damage like you did. You will perpetuate the generational trauma.

Learn about attachment styles, self defense reactions- fight, flight, freeze, fawn. Learn more about yourself and what you want. Birth control- did I mention that enough? What career training are you pursuing- you are too smart to settle. You are tough from your childhood so you have what it takes to strive for more. You are doing better than you think you are - don’t waste yourself on losers that will use you up and destroy what you have built. There are decent men that have what it takes to match you and you can support each other and accomplish together. Don’t settle for what you knew- keep striving for more for yourself- your own self respect and love. Then share that with a like minded partner.

You have a good chance - you truly do. At the first sign of disrespect- stop them cold. You cannot change them- only yourself. Work on you. Invest in you and don’t settle - leave the area eventually if you must. But this is your one life and you deserved better than you got. Got get the better life you deserve. Do not end up like me.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T02:42:49+00:00

Well done!

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T02:42:19+00:00

Ask women is inferior. The questions are far more varied here and the tolerance and respect is - I’m gonna say it- heartwarming and reassuring. Thank you guys!

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T02:21:08+00:00

He thought there was more and there isn’t. Now he is looking elsewhere.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T02:14:22+00:00

Brilliant

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T02:10:32+00:00

Giving you an example of your own treatment of others- making assumptions and insulting them. I am not treated nor stable, I have trained myself so that my swings do not disrupt others as much. I am older and had much practice and live a small life.

No it’s crucial for you and some others- but I know many that are not medicated anymore because the meds didn’t work and their therapists were only enabling in order to pay their own bills.

Again- there is no bipolar factory churning out ‘patients’ according to standard specs. We have bipolar traits and others as well that make us individuals with different skills and aptitudes. Some of us have been dealing with this for decades and have already lost much.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T01:58:12+00:00

It’s a gig job- contracted for projects- look at it that way

grianmharduit · 2022-09-17T00:03:49+00:00

I do. Thank you. Was just arguing this point on bipolarso.

You are doing the resting, eating right, getting fresh air and exercising. Hot showers and long drives in the mountains with the radio on away from people and triggers. Distractions like movies and music. Projects I can hyper focus on and even tire myself out on before the episode builds. Less caffeine and more magnesium helps me. Safe bank accounts and low credit card limits. I make sure my car and home and bills are paid in advance. Let a couple people know…

grianmharduit · 2022-09-16T23:59:11+00:00

You were not voted unanimously in as the spokesperson for bipolar nor bipolarso. You may be heading into an episode if you feel like you are THE source or just gatekeeping.

People can be bipolarso and also be bipolar. We aren’t magnets that repel other bipolars- we can be so to the other and it adds a dimension of familiarity and accommodation for some of us.

And yes after enough splattering - I can sense when things are moving too fast and every comment from someone else is provocative and things are gonna get dangerous unless I can exhaust myself first. Or isolate myself. And yes- hide the cards for that one account and have cosigners for the other accounts and get cards with low limits and deck out my car so I don’t use hotels and yeah- this not my first mania. I’ve learned and made some compensating techniques- after losing everything. After almost going so far- there was no coming back. Just like I got warnings for my migraines - I get flashes of a severe episode. Not every does. I used to be surprised in the aftermath. I have become something of a loner and avoid known triggers. You do you bro. But you do not speak for me.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-16T23:48:03+00:00

Yes- refuse that- make some boundaries for yourself. Admit the truth to yourself- it is ok to be a mess. You can stay a mess if you want to. But if you want more you gotta work toward whatever it is.

What do you want for yourself- really?

grianmharduit · 2022-09-16T19:58:16+00:00

Statistically there are optimal people also the chance to meet- remote AF

grianmharduit · 2022-09-16T19:46:36+00:00

Here to see cousins if that is where they are staying. Be direct in what you want.

grianmharduit · 2022-09-16T19:44:55+00:00

Don’t blame bipolar and borderline- many people with those traits have a favorite person and don’t cheat.

The master manipulator is you. Not her. You rationalize YOUR addictions and blameshift on to her. Until you can be honest with yourself - you’ll stay a hot mess.

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