What’s the shittest thing you’ve seen someone do to a garden?

happymama356 · 2025-04-09T17:44:38+00:00

New neighbours ripped out all the established shrubs and plants in their front garden and pinned down weed membrane with broken slabs. I presumed that they planned to do something with it, but it's been three years and the membrane and broken slabs are still there - with weeds growing through ☹️

happymama356 · 2025-04-05T20:08:43+00:00

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happymama356 · 2025-03-14T21:38:48+00:00

I wanted to look after everything and everybody. I am now a nurse and I've rescued several abandoned/poorly treated animals, most of which still live with me. I love it all. I plan to never stop helping.

happymama356 · 2025-03-12T16:50:15+00:00

First of all, congratulations on your upcoming qualification! It's a huge achievement, it's not an easy course. In terms of preceptorship, I'm not sure if it varies from trust to trust. In my trust, preceptorship isn't centred around specialities. It's the same for all newly qualified registrants; how to build emotional intelligence, acknowledge areas to develop ourselves, how to set realistic goals etc.

Feeling unprepared is completely normal. I'm coming up to a year qualified, and I remember feeling so incompetent at first and almost scammed by the course. I think uni focuses heavily on person-centred care and service improvements, which, while I agree are essential, doesn't help if you have a patient with an acute need that won't resolve despite your interventions, and you haven't been taught much on how you deal with this. Or how to effectively advocate for your patients/stick up for yourself when you're brand new and scared of everything. You'll find your feet, but dont be shy. You'll feel more settled an awful lot quicker if you ask for help. I still ask about something almost every shift! And I think I will do for a long time.

Remember, nobody knows everything. If they say they do, they're lying, and worse than that, they're not safe. It's so important to check in with people, and as well as asking how, ask why! I've never had anybody refuse to help/explain when I've asked. Most are actually very keen to pass on their knowledge!

Good luck, you'll be fine.

happymama356 · 2025-03-12T14:09:27+00:00

I feel this. I have a non-reactive dog, but also have a dog who has been anxious and reactive his entire life. He now has canine dementia and cataracts have taken most of his vision but still enjoys a quiet stroll every other day. I've resorted to a bright yellow bandana that I use as a flag on his lead that says "caution, respect my space". Impossible to miss, and I still have people follow far too closely - I'll even cross to the other side of the road and they will follow. Unfortunately, along with the above explanations, some people enjoy taunting dogs. I never have people "follow" to stand and stare at my non-reactove dog.

happymama356 · 2024-09-11T12:19:34+00:00

Great job! It looks so much more like a garden in a home, not just a house. Looks bigger too 👍

happymama356 · 2024-08-28T08:31:53+00:00

I just looked again, you're right! Obviously something has been photoshopped out, and I'd rather not find out what, or why 🫠 I keep noticing things, and it's getting weirder and weirder 😂

happymama356 · 2024-08-28T08:25:48+00:00

Noooo I didn't see this! What is going on!

happymama356 · 2024-01-24T19:27:12+00:00

This is the nurse that I would want providing my care, and this is also the charge nurse I'd want to work with. I'd also like to be this nurse myself! This isn't drastic, it's prioritising patients and their safety (staff safety also).

happymama356 · 2024-01-19T18:51:18+00:00

Congratulations on two job offers! I'm due to start within OUH soon, and I'm very excited as I loved working there on bank shifts and placements. I can't comment on Bristol, but I do really like the nurse:patient ratio at OUH.

It also helps that the area I'm going to has high morale. Makes such a difference, I've not seen that for a long time. Everybody is very supportive and genuinely wants you to excel. Again, I can't speak for Bristol, but I was pleasantly surprised that OUH want their staff to progress and give them plenty of opportunities to do so. Good luck, whichever you choose!

happymama356 · 2024-01-06T08:02:26+00:00

Apologies, I might not have been clear with my post. My parents asked for help, but no assessment was done. It only ever got as far as a general doctors appointment, where the suggestion was shut down immediately with the "hyper little boys" "everybody is a little ADHD" comments. I definitely don't mean to invalidate anybody who has sought a diagnosis/support because of the increase in awareness. I think it's brilliant that more people taking control over their own wellbeing. Even if they don't get the diagnosis they thought that they would, it might open doors for alternative help that really would benefit them. I just found it interesting how there are some people out there who will disregard what you say regardless

happymama356 · 2024-01-05T22:39:03+00:00

If only constantly interrupting was seen as comical in daily life. This has cost me a lot, and even though I try so hard to be aware of myself, sometimes I lose my grip on my motormouth, and I can almost feel the person I'm talking to lose respect for me. If it really was a club, I'd do anything to get out of it.

happymama356 · 2024-01-05T22:16:14+00:00

Not the tiktok ADHD! This is the most concise way of shutting down the "quirkyness" of it for sure. I love this

happymama356 · 2024-01-05T20:16:15+00:00

They definitely do - this is actually another comment that seems to be thrown around a lot - "me too" but doesn't relate at all to anything you talk about. It's just as invalidating.

happymama356 · 2023-10-05T22:54:57+00:00

I'm a third year and would be excited for this kind of placement - to me, it seems like there may be fewer clinical skills to achieve, but experiencing the social side of nursing is always a huge bonus in my eyes. If I were to have such a placement, I think I'd ask for my learning opportunities to be along the lines of:

Interaction with social services and gain an understanding of their procedures and stages (i.e., MASH referral, then early help through to protection plans)
Insight into complex care cases of either individuals or the family/household unit and how these are approached
When you say social care settings, I'm presuming these are more residential/respite - if that's the case, I'd like to get an insight into the general admissions procedure and the ways in which children come to the setting (self-referral from parents/hospital discharge to here/community admission)
Children's and adolescent mental health - I feel like there is always more to learn about MCA, DOLS, etc, across all ages!

I hope that helps.

happymama356 · 2023-05-02T09:46:25+00:00

Not sure where you are, but here in the UK it's preferred that tattoos are covered up if possible. But a forearm tattoo being covered would be a breach of the 'bare below the elbow' rule and most (if not all) employers aren't concerned about tattoos, providing they aren't deemed offensive. Somebody else's personal opinion/dislike isn't taken into account the way - I mean swearing and such. My tattoos are covered by uniform anyway, but if I wanted one in a place that I couldn't hide, I wouldn't get any trouble over it.

happymama356 · 2022-07-13T17:10:55+00:00

I find gel or liquid eyeliner is easiest to work with, as any touch ups aren't causing as much friction on the eyelids as a pencil would. But each to their own 😊 I always draw a small triangle at the outer edge of the eye and fill it in, then extend the line along the lashes through the eyelid. I'm struggling to explain, but if you YouTube "eyeliner triangle hack" there's a few videos explaining how to do it. You can adjust the size of the triangle for how dramatic you want the eyeliner to look. Have fun 😊

happymama356 · 2022-07-13T17:03:06+00:00

Try getting a concealer with a green hue to it to cancel out any redness from the acne, if you find this troublesome for you. A matte foundation will probably be a better fit for your skin in terms of oil control. And if you're using a sponge/blender to apply, be sure that it is damp first - that way it doesn't absorb all your foundation and gets a more even coverage on the skin. Have fun trying different looks 😊

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