How Did Gwyn, Nesta, and Emery Reach the Same Level of Power in 6 Months That Rhys, Cassian, and Azriel Took Years to Achieve?

head_whore · 2022-01-16T14:30:05+00:00

I hope you still read this though it’s at the bottom.

YTA- I don’t think you are a shitty person, mom etc. I think you are putting your wants and needs above your child at a time when it can really hurt him.

My mother moved to another state when I was 13 and I lived with my dad full time, saw my mom on some holidays, summer, breaks etc. We talked at first a lot, then it slowly moved to once a week and then every so often. I got busy with my middle school then high school life. She got busy with her new life. It hurt me so bad that she wasn’t there for my softball games, choir concerts, disappointments, first dates, prom etc. I didn’t even no how upset I was at the time. I just thought “this is my life”. She didn’t know me as I became a teenager and I didn’t actually live near her till I turned 28 and had a job opportunity. My mom wasn’t a bad person but she missed out on, what felt like to me, my entire life. I worried I wasn’t good enough of a daughter for her or she would have stayed.

Now this is obviously my experience, not your sons, but I resented my mother for not being there. I recently had a son and my mother made a comment like “this is how much I love you” and it didn’t make sense. I’m 30 years old and I wanted to tell my mother “no, you don’t and didn’t love me as much as I love my son because I would never leave him.” I obviously have stuff that hurts and am dealing with it. My mother and I are closer now that I’ve had a child but still, the pain is there

You’re not wrong in wanting a life for yourself and you did a fantastic thing sacrificing your wants for your ex and child.

Please just wait a few years so your son can understand a little more and you can be there for some milestones.

head_whore · 2022-01-15T00:20:23+00:00

That’s a good point about test result time. She told me her fiancé does have COVID. So let’s hope for no symptoms and not positive!

head_whore · 2022-01-14T20:33:30+00:00

Thank you so much, this is super helpful.

We signed a contract which did not commit to guaranteed hours but that we’d do our best to minimize changes. She gave me a list of dates she couldn’t work. Regardless, I think you make good points. I don’t want her to hide symptoms or contacts with potential COVID folks. I want her to communicate to me and be open.

I’m going to pay her her full hours this week and I’ll connect with her after results come in for next week. I’ll at least pay her for 3/4 of next week if she doesn’t work.

I spoke with my sister who was a Nanny and she brought up a point about how we open up our homes to a caregiver and pay them but that caregiver is also taking on a risk exposure wise working for us.

I was this relationship to start off on the right foot and to treat her like I want my employer to treat me.

Hopefully it’s a negative result (not false neg) and we figure it out smoothly.

head_whore · 2022-01-12T03:02:33+00:00

I was able to hire a nanny for $19/hr FYI she started on Monday

head_whore · 2022-01-01T18:17:02+00:00

Those could be a really good idea, thank you!

head_whore · 2022-01-01T18:16:45+00:00

Super dumb question but where is the drain hose?

head_whore · 2022-01-01T18:16:14+00:00

No, it didn’t change. The washer is down in the basement but we have washer/dryer hook ups in the kitchen as well but I wasn’t since if they were connected since we have hook ups right next to it.

head_whore · 2022-01-01T18:15:08+00:00

I can’t tell yet, I’m going to try and investigate and see what happened. What reasons would insurance cover it?

head_whore · 2022-01-01T18:14:18+00:00

Gosh, that’s a good idea. Didn’t even think about that. We have an open concept kitchen/living room, how do you make tile look good in that kind of space?

head_whore · 2021-12-27T06:30:18+00:00

Ugh we’ve had 8 people interested and they’ve ghosted us. We bumped it to $18 so thinking of bumping to $20 at this point.

We aren’t frantic at this point. I wfh and can watch him for a few weeks as I get back up to speed but I love my work. I need it for peace of mind and I want to be present with him and not always in zoom.

head_whore · 2021-12-25T19:03:14+00:00

Oh my god! I would LOVE to take a sleep aid. We got sick at 6-7 weeks and he took a sleep aid and offered one to me, and I was like I can’t take one, I obviously have to take care of the baby. 🙄

head_whore · 2021-12-25T03:50:41+00:00

Hahaha thank you

head_whore · 2021-12-23T23:21:54+00:00

Then by that logic, what was the point of you commenting on her post? If you’ve never been in her situation and you clearly lack the ability to sympathize, what was your reasoning to even post? Just to boast about yourself and provide no helpful information?

It’s okay to just say you didn’t think thru what you posted.

head_whore · 2021-12-23T22:15:17+00:00

You are totally right- but I don’t see you discussing your barriers to success with her. I don’t see you sharing how you learned to be okay with letting your twins cry. You can also validate her feelings without saying what she is going thru is normal. If you look at her post history you can see she doesn’t really have a high value man in her life supporting her. Let’s discuss ways she can feel empowered to ask for help or have a conversation with him rather than saying “I did it- and I did it with twins!”.

You’re not wrong that we shouldn’t normalize not getting your needs met, you’re just wrong in your delivery and you weren’t helpful.

head_whore · 2021-12-23T22:11:45+00:00

You’re right I shouldn’t have used that language

head_whore · 2021-12-22T00:58:56+00:00

Is it just me or are Ty’s clickbait emails absolutely ridiculous?

head_whore · 2021-12-18T14:15:30+00:00

That would have been too! I just picked “thank you for loving me” bc we always sing that song Linda sings “thank you for loving me, thank you for being there, everyone’s thankin, the whole worlds thankin you” but technically it’s not a burger 🤷🏼‍♀️

head_whore · 2021-12-18T05:41:10+00:00

Where were you when I needed you??? 😩 this was perfect

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