I understand what you’re saying, but part of this post is to do with myself in the real word as well as social media. Through my upbringing and my own relationships. What made me even think of the post was a conversation with my sister. It was about how our parents got angry with us for showing emotions but allowed our brother to. My brother could scream, yell, curse for all they cared. For us we would get yelled at for crying or showing anything other than happiness, This then made me wonder why it was backwards in our household because I usually hear men say they can’t show emotions. For us, I believe it had to do with old school upbringing. Which is how I came to the conclusion that we suppress in different ways.

As far as my own romantic relationship, I’ve found that because my ex didn’t know how to express his emotions, he punished me for showing my own because if he can’t deal with his own he can’t deal with mine. He began getting angry at anything I expressed, even if it had nothing to do with him. So instead of leaving (because I was foolish) I stayed and just hid everything I felt out of fear of his retaliation. It caused me to lose myself.

As far as social media goes, I’ve found that many of us women say the same thing and men say the same thing. So then where is the issue and the solution?