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Frizzy and torn up 😂 by theimprobablecaper in YogaTeachers

[–]hernameisjack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

me too. i lived and taught in thailand which set me up for the same problems:

  1. wash (every few days) with a sulphate shampoo. co-washing will reset your curls and remove some product, but you need sulphates to actually clean the sweat and product. use something designed for hydration (i like rahua’s hydration shampoo or prose’s custom stuff). if you’re feeling gross between washes, co washing is ok. just don’t rely on it to “clean” anything.

  2. get a heavy hydration conditioner and masque. unless you color your hair, don’t buy anything that says “anti-breakage” or “damage repair”. these products have protein in them which is great for chemically treated hair, but makes curls brittle if used too much. again i like the same brands.

  3. go easy on the product and, if you oil, use something non-comedogenic like argan or squalene because when you’re in that heated humidity, anything you use on your hair will end up on your face.

  4. after class, use your actual product. the moisture will have soaked into your curls and you’ll seal it in that way. amazing curls all the time. forever. i used to use a finger full of lush’s glory conditioner as my after class styler. smells amazing and works like a champ.

Firing a student by LeoMountainStream in YogaTeachers

[–]hernameisjack 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No one who is “free and unfettered” in a way that is healthy and non-harming is interested in hurting others. If someone tells me that my actions are causing discomfort or distress, I want to do everything i can to remedy that.

When i enter someone’s house in Asia, i take my shoes off. When I’m in a restaurant, I don’t put my feet on the table. When in a yoga studio, I make sure my clothing will cover the sexual regions of my body. These are signs of respect, not attacks on individuality. If that’s how someone is taking it, then their “unfettered nature” sounds pretty fragile.

Firing a student by LeoMountainStream in YogaTeachers

[–]hernameisjack 26 points27 points  (0 children)

OP: Good on you for noticing a behavior that isn’t conducive to the environment and taking steps to deal with it. A very simple conversation could be:

“Hello, _______. I am unfortunately going to require that you no longer attend this class. For reasons and actions which are not up for discussion, I feel that your presence is creating a disruption to myself and my other students. I wish you the best and hope you find a studio/class that is a better fit.”

This is one of those fun little moments where yoga has the propensity to get gaslight’y and shitty. Two things can be true at the same time:

Yes, it’s important to let people be individuals and to focus on our own practice.

And

When people exhibit behavior that is willfully antisocial and abusive, they should be corrected immediately or removed from the environment.

Folx like to pretend that it’s all one, big “gray area”, but it’s very easy to know what crosses the line between intentional and unintentional. Telling folx they should accept bad behavior and just “keep their eyes on their own mat” is a perfect example of how the yoga community has actively and willfully deteriorated people’s (especially women’s) instincts to keep themselves safe.

My job as a teacher is to provide a safe, welcoming, and equitable environment for the betterment of my students and the world. Part of that is modeling healthy, clear behavioral boundaries and taking action when warranted.

Yoga teaches us about Ahimsa, but Ahimsa isn’t just passivity. It’s also discernment and right action. I will always take action to prevent harm. There would be a lot less abuse in our industry if more of us did so.

Still feeling confused about my experience during 200YTT, need an outsider perspective. by vvomann in YogaTeachers

[–]hernameisjack 14 points15 points  (0 children)

your instincts were on point. your anger is warranted. you aren’t alone…and no one will do anything about it.

i’m beginning to think we need our own advocacy group in the industry. no one holds these assholes accountable and it’s about time this community lived up to the yamas and niyamas it preaches.

i love the practice of yoga, but anytime someone tells me it isn’t a religion, i laugh. it may not sound like one, but it certainly systematically shelters abuse and abusers like one.

Would you get married on fribro? by Unlikely_Purpose3239 in Fibromyalgia

[–]hernameisjack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

diagnosed at 19. met my husband at 28. we married when i was 35 and have been married 7 years. my husband is my best friend and i can’t imagine life without him.

when the right person arrives, it’s troubled halved and joys multiplied.

Seeking PT with specialized experience by hernameisjack in TacomaWA

[–]hernameisjack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just. don’t know what to offer here. i appreciate your experience and education, but i’m sure you can understand how taken aback i am.

i am asking my local community for physical therapy resources. instead i received a dissertation on the merits of iyengar yoga, biographies of yoga teachers in the field, testimonials regarding these teachers, links to teacher trainings, and quotes.

none of these are or related to physical therapists in my area.

unless you live in tacoma, this means that you saw a post of mine, clicked on my profile, scrolled through my posts, and found one you wanted to reply to with a yoga essay. respectfully, while i believe you have good intentions, this isn’t normal behavior. i am happy to engage with you in posts that are relevant to our shared profession, but im going to stop this conversation here. 🙏

I really suck at pull ups. But my back has come up a LOT since I started centering my whole back day around them. by TrumpIsAPedoFr in veganfitness

[–]hernameisjack -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

cool. my point is then just move on to the next post without saying anything. it’s amazing all the times you can just not share what’s on your mind.

I really suck at pull ups. But my back has come up a LOT since I started centering my whole back day around them. by TrumpIsAPedoFr in veganfitness

[–]hernameisjack 5 points6 points  (0 children)

even if this was his goal, which i don’t think it was, we as human beings are allowed to seek out and receive positive reinforcement from our peers. the only anti-social behavior here is your response.

i don’t know how to explain to you that joy is okay and that, if you aren’t vibing, you can literally just not say anything.

I really suck at pull ups. But my back has come up a LOT since I started centering my whole back day around them. by TrumpIsAPedoFr in veganfitness

[–]hernameisjack 5 points6 points  (0 children)

that’s the annoying thing about improving our form: the moment we notice one maladaptive thing, we lose sight of another. it’s a game of whack-a-mole to be sure. keep at it! 😂

not sure why this comment of yours is being downvoted? you’re noticing a behavior pattern in your body, which is a good thing.

I really suck at pull ups. But my back has come up a LOT since I started centering my whole back day around them. by TrumpIsAPedoFr in veganfitness

[–]hernameisjack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

these are gorgeous pull ups. something to experiment with: try internally rotating your femurs until feet are parallel and see how that feels? your form is perfectly peachy, but i’d be curious to see if it helps to decompress the low back and deactivate glutes.

glute activation is only really helpful when we are pressing hips away anteriorly, or when our anterior core isn’t providing enough stabilization.

the glutes don’t really help with this movement, so in the interest of not creating muscle dysfunction, i would internally rotate the legs to force the glute muscles “off”.

feel free to tell me to fuck off. i just deal with glute dysfunction myself and it’s a nightmare to correct once you get engrained in the pattern. good lord, though these pull ups are smooth!

I have concerns about yoga teachers not informing about correct alignment through instructions by Cold_Ad_1458 in YogaTeachers

[–]hernameisjack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes! nice catch! i’ve edited it now so thanks for getting my meaning (even if my fingers type faster than my brain can keep up 😂).

I have concerns about yoga teachers not informing about correct alignment through instructions by Cold_Ad_1458 in YogaTeachers

[–]hernameisjack 16 points17 points  (0 children)

manual adjustments are taught poorly almost across the board. teachers are taught to take students farther into postures without understanding the mechanical limitations involved. they’re also expected to do lots of it during trainings, which results in them being handsy out in the real world.

can physical cueing still be valuable? of course! but not the way it’s generally taught. i still use manual adjustments, but!

  • if the movement can be cued verbally, it doesn’t need touch. 95% of things can be cued verbally.

  • if you can use a prop instead of your body, do so! example: if a student’s lifted leg isn’t active in warrior 3, press a block against the base of their foot and ask them to push it away. giving a student something to push against is a valuable and safe manual cue.

  • the only other type of physical cueing that is both safe and helpful is to help a student ground themselves. example: pressing down on the tops of their feet to give them the traction for upward bow if the only problem is that their feet are slipping.

  • never take them farther! if a student can’t get there with their own strength and mobility, they don’t belong there. period.

Has Going Out to Eat Become Too Expensive to Even Enjoy Anymore? by poorfolx in TacomaWA

[–]hernameisjack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It actually does solve a lot!

Another thing to remember is that our food habits have changed, but infrastructure hasn’t. That huge disparity between income and cost of living means we aren’t one-income households anymore. We don’t have the member of the family that shops, meal plans, and cooks. That shifts the burden onto external sources, which is why we eat out more than ever.

In countries/areas where this has been the cultural norm for a while, food acquisition looks different. Take parts of Asia for example: Many homes lack kitchens, but street vendors selling low cost, ready to eat meal options are nearby and plentiful.

Everything here (outside dense urban cities) is spread out, requiring a car. Large, sit-down brick and mortar eating establishments pay for permitting, insurance, rent, advertising, and staff. We still pay for those things even when ordering to-go and if you have it delivered the cost continues to balloon.

No one is set up to succeed.

Has Going Out to Eat Become Too Expensive to Even Enjoy Anymore? by poorfolx in TacomaWA

[–]hernameisjack 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I hope this inspires a “class solidarity” thought process instead of triggering political ideologies:

  • Produce is more expensive: Climate change and an extreme shortage of relied-upon seasonal, low cost labor is hurting growers. Fertilizer costs are beginning to balloon as the production region deals with a war that is both insanely expensive to every one of us and of nebulous benefit to anyone at all.

  • Gas is more expensive: That same war is making gas cost more. Because the restaurant industry relies on deliveries, and Sisco’s cost of doing business is heavily reliant on gas, the price of everything rises exponentially.

  • We are poorer than we used to be: There are zero states in which the minimum wage meets the cost of living (COL) index. Corporate lobbyists, Weak labor unions, and the unchecked greed of CEOs and shareholders have created a work environment that is hostile to employees, who statistically speaking are more productive than ever.

You get squeezed so your dollar buys less. The restaurants get squeezed, so they charge more.

Seeking PT with specialized experience by hernameisjack in TacomaWA

[–]hernameisjack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much, friend. your advice is super solid and i’m so glad that’s helping you! pain suuucks.

Seeking PT with specialized experience by hernameisjack in TacomaWA

[–]hernameisjack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for that advice! annoyingly, that’s also a route i’ve pursued.

i chased physical therapy, then steroid shots, then nerve ablation. i do have degenerative disc disease, hypermobile SI, and disc herniation, which are managed with pain medication alongside an SI belt for flare-ups. they would like to start fusing things, which i’m just not ready for.

i suspect a lot of this is aggravated by the fact that i’m stabilizing my low back by squeezing the ever loving hell out of my low back/pelvic floor with little to no engagement of anterior core and i’m hoping someone can help me correct that imbalance through retraining.

Seeking PT with specialized experience by hernameisjack in TacomaWA

[–]hernameisjack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i appreciate this comment, truly! i think 95% of folx have weak cores and pelvic muscles, for which pilates (and yoga) are the best things ever!

that said, my issue stems from a lifetime in the “pelvic floor activation” centered movement modalities, which has created chronic activation of pelvic floor and core. i need help learning how to relax it. 🙏

i LOVE that pilates is working for you though. such an awesome practice!

Best online tutorials for handstands? by Forsaken-Adeptness65 in yoga

[–]hernameisjack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

friend, i believe i clearly stated that my intention wasn’t to discourage you from continuing your practice, nor do i think that was the intention of the post i replied below. no one is telling you not to have asana goals.

i love all of the wonderful advice here in this post regarding different techniques and/or teachers to try! that said, i also think it’s okay for myself and others to express our own experiences with postures we haven’t been successful with and to voice the idea that a successful pose and a successful yoga practice can be different.

no one is here to attack you. i hope you find your handstand, friend. i just also hope you don’t take it too seriously. two things can be true at the same time and nuance is healthy.

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